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Gringa: A Contradictory Girlhood [Paperback]

Melissa Hart
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September 22, 2009
Torn between the high socioeconomic status of her father and the bohemian lifestyle of her mother, Melissa Hart tells a compelling story of contradiction in this coming-of-age memoir. Set in 1970s Southern California, Gringa is the story of a young girl conflicted by two extremes. On the one hand there’s life with her mother, who leaves her father to begin a lesbian relationship, taking Hart and her two siblings along. Hart tells of her mom’s new life in a Hispanic neighborhood of Oxnard, California, and how these new surroundings begin to positively shape Hart herself. At the opposite extreme is her father’s white-bread well-to-do security, which is predictable and stable and boring. Hart is made all the more fraught with frustration when a judge rules that being raised by two women is “unnatural” and grants her father primary custody.

Hart weaves a powerful story of fleeting moments with her mother, of her unfolding adoration of Oxnard’s Latino culture, and of the ways in which she’s molded by the polarity of her parents’ worldviews. Hart is faced with opposing ideals, caught between what she is “supposed” to want and what she actually desires. Gringa offers a touching, reflective look at one girl’s struggle with the dichotomies of class, culture, and sexuality.

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Product Details

  • Paperback: 276 pages
  • Publisher: Seal Press; First Edition edition (September 22, 2009)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1580052940
  • ISBN-13: 978-1580052948
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.8 x 8.3 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #854,918 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Melissa Hart grew up in Southern California and earned her B.A. in Literature from the College of Creative Studies at U.C. Santa Barbara. She earned an M.F.A. in Creative Writing at Goddard College.

She teaches at the School of Journalism and Communication, University of Oregon. Her essays and articles have appeared in The Washington Post, The Boston Globe, The Los Angeles Times, The Advocate, Hemispheres, The Chronicle of Higher Education, Orion, High Country News, and numerous other publications. She writes a monthly column for The Writer Magazine and contributes frequently to Horizon Air Magazine and Oregon Quarterly.

Hart lives with her husband, their daughter, and numerous rescued cats. See the book trailer for Gringa: A Contradictory Girlhood at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YrQKInQRMis .

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She weaves many threads together keeps an authentic self-deprecating humor throughout. Stefanie Freele  |  2 reviewers made a similar statement
This book was enchanting, engrossing and more so happily entertaining. K. Cade  |  3 reviewers made a similar statement
Through all the turmoil and telling of her story, Miss Hart ends each chapter with a recipe. Diane Hart Sandin  |  4 reviewers made a similar statement
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars One of my favorite books April 19, 2010
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Gringa: A Contradictory Girlhood

Coming of age is probably the most difficult, angst ridden time of our little lives (not to mention how fashion ridiculous we were) but for Melissa Hart, her girlhood went from ideal, to all of the above, including her parents divorce thrown into the mix but a divorce made all the more difficult by her mother leaving her father for another woman. In the 1970's, where a gay parent was even more taboo, Melissa and her siblings could only see their mother on weekends, courtesy of her father who thundered, "You can't be parented by two women. It's unnatural."

To make things even more interesting, the physical topography go from Manhattan Beach with her overbearing father, to Oxnard, California where her bohemian mother has establishes herself in a Latino neighborhood. Miss Hart's world of perfection and propriety with her loving but subservient step mother and tyrant of a father, chafes at every turn, for with her mother, she is encouraged to be herself and she learns to embrace the easy and genial Latino community. In turn this sparks her need to belong to a "culture" and the results are funny, heartrending and will strike an all too familiar chord in all of us.

No matter what era we came of age, no matter the circumstances, we all want to be accepted and belong, somewhere, somehow. With Miss Hart, the usual phases were complicated by not knowing which world she belonged. Moreover, if we doubted our sexuality, Melissa's doubt were exacerbated by wondering if she should be like her mom. Again the results of exploring those avenues are poignant, sometimes hilarious and always leaving her wondering if she will ever belong.

The best part of this book is traveling with Miss Hart and the cast of characters that populate her world.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Gringa is a book you can't put down! October 7, 2009
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Gringa is a memoir rich with sensory detail that takes the reader into the author's very private life from the time she was young until she finished college and set out on her own. Her love of the Mexican/Spanish culture and desire to be part of it drives the story line. With each chapter she includes `dressed up' recipes for Mexican dishes. Anyone interested in the struggle of children shuffled between divorced parents, children of gay/lesbian partners, Mexican/Spanish culture, and/or the difficulty of choosing and following a path in life will find the book a worthwhile and interesting read.
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5.0 out of 5 stars You won't be able to put it down! October 4, 2009
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I loved it! In a nutshell, Gringa is the vivid retelling of a girlhood/young womanhood spent searching for a sense of place -- both internal and external. Lush, gorgeous images and tart, enjoyable dialogue keep us hooked until the end. This book is an intense, fast-paced and full-circle tale of a girl coming to terms with self-identity in the midst of complicated family dynamics. Every reader will enjoy Gringa, but women (mothers, daughters, young women struggling to solidify a sense of self) will feel an intense solidarity with the author and her shockingly honest depiction of the small daily traumas involved in growing up in the velvet vise of conflicting female role models and societal expectations. This is how memoir is supposed to be done! Hart keeps us hooked until the very end, and shows us through sometimes cringe-worthy scenes and careful shadow and light exactly what we need to reach the understandings that she does throughout her journey. I very much look forward to future books from this exciting author.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Gringa November 9, 2009
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In Gringa: A Contradictory Girlhood, Melissa Hart finds her 1970s life in a Los Angeles suburb disrupted when her mother takes her three children and leaves the family's gated community to live in Oxnard, 60 miles away, with her Hispanic lesbian lover. For Melissa, her new life in the poor Latino neighborhood where they settle seems joyous and free. But it is interrupted again when her father appears with a court order for Melissa's custody saying, "You can't grow up parented by two women. It's unnatural."

And so the contradictions and conflicts begin. Melissa's longing to live with her counter-culture mother, rather than with her "normal" father and her stepmother, is maintained as a long thread throughout this memoir of a young girl's rebellion. She is conscious enough to appreciate her stepmother's efforts to be a good mother, but also knows that her father cannot understand her. She portrays her mother as a delightful, independent woman, but one who sometimes wonders how she produced her driven daughter. It takes fine writing and courage to give oneself the contrary, often unsympathetic, image seen in these pages--a young woman struggling to find her own path within very different and contradictory cultural and family expectations.

The secondary theme of Gringa is Melissa's deep desire to join the warm, Chicano community to which her mother seems to belong--a desire that is frustrated by her own middle-class Anglo background. She can't speak fluent Spanish and she has trouble making Hispanic friends. Her first serious boyfriend drinks, does drugs, and is uneducated. His Mexican family disapproves of her because she will not stay in the kitchen with the other women.
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5.0 out of 5 stars A lovely novel and my addiction
I bought my copy of this memoir after attending a writer's conference in Southern Oregon featuring the author giving workshops. Read more
Published 3 months ago by Pandorasecho
5.0 out of 5 stars A wonderful, well-paced memoir.
Gringa is an engaging memoir that flows easily and wonderfully with all the traits of a great story including heartbreak, family tensions and craziness, fleshed-out characters,... Read more
Published 9 months ago by H. Lyda
5.0 out of 5 stars THIS BOOK RATES A 10!
If you are a mother, straight or gay, you need to read Gringa: A Contradictory Girlhood.
Author Melissa Hart describes an unyieldingly strong mother-daughter bond that cannot... Read more
Published 9 months ago by A mother
5.0 out of 5 stars GRINGA
I was fascinated by the presentation from Melissa Hart in first person. It felt like I was experiencing her journey along with her, even while she was torn between two worlds of... Read more
Published 9 months ago by Phyllis C.Franklin
4.0 out of 5 stars Hart-felt memoir packed with gems, humor, emotion & recipes
Melissa Hart is not afraid to tell it like it is. In her latest memoir, "Gringa", Hart explores her childhood growing up as a Califorian WASP, with a belligerent father, lesbian... Read more
Published on April 28, 2011 by E.L. Ouellette
5.0 out of 5 stars Tight, humorous, fast-paced, honest memior
Hart's content, humor, beginnings and endings are right-on in my opinion. She weaves many threads together keeps an authentic self-deprecating humor throughout. Read more
Published on February 6, 2010 by Stefanie Freele
5.0 out of 5 stars absolutely loved this one!!
I love this book! Buy it; read it, I'm sure you will love it too. If I haven't convinced you yet, keep reading... Read more
Published on November 17, 2009 by K. Cade
5.0 out of 5 stars Couldn't put this book down!
Absorbing and unique, this memoir kept pulling me back in over a three day reading-fest. Well-paced, evocative writing. A winner!
Published on October 20, 2009 by Amanda Smith Hatch
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