I instantly became a fan of Mary J. Blige once I heard the song "You Remind Me". Her debut CD
What's the 411? was an instant favorite of mine because of the way that Mary mixed r&b songs with hip hop samples. Obviously, the direction of the production had something to do with that but since I am also a rap music fan, I was able to appreciate Mary J. Blige even more. My favorite tracks ended up being "Love No Limit", "Reminisce", "I Don't Want To Do Anything" w/K-Ci, "My Love", "Real Love" and Mary's remake of the Rufus & Chaka Khan classic "Sweet Thing". In 1994, Mary J. Blige released her 2nd CD
My Life. This is clearly my favorite r&b CD of all time. Mary not only surpassed my expectations after her debut CD, but she definitely had gained a fan for life as she did her best to chronicle the good times, the pain and everything inbetween to put together a fantastic CD. My favorite track was "I Never Wanna Live Without You" but I could play the CD in its entirety. My other personal favorites include "Mary's Joint", "I'm The Only Woman", "Be Happy", "Mary Jane" and "Be With You". The alternate versions of the tracks were phenominal as well. I am sure everyone remembers Smif N Wessun on "I Love You", LL Cool J on "Mary Jane", and the late Notorious BIG (Biggie) ripping the "I'm Goin' Down" (Remix)) which used the beat for the track "The What" that was featured on Biggie's "Ready To Die" that also included Method Man. Mary J had plenty of other releases:
Share My World (1997)
Mary (1999)
No More Drama (2002)
Love & Life (2003)
From these 4 releases you had my personal favorites such as "Seven Days", "All That I Can Say", "The Love I Never Had", "Special Part Of Me", "Ooh!", "Everything" and "Share My World". Mary J. returned in 2005 with
The Breakthrough. She enjoyed tremendous success with her 1st single "Be Without You". "Darkchild" blessed her with my favorite track, "Enough Cryin'" and my other favorites included "I Found My Everything", "Take Me As I Am", "No One Will Do" and "Father In You". Mary's record company got a little greedy with
Reflections - A Retrospective. The CD started off with 4 new tracks which included the single "We Ride", the title track and "King & Queen" w/John Legend. Then Geffen tried to conduct a greatest hits CD with the rest of the CD which was a mere 11 tracks, with 2 of the tracks being songs that were never on her CDs but were quality collaborations with the remix to Method Man's "All I Need", that was featured on "Tical" and "911" w/Wyclef Jean.
"Growing Pains" was released on December 18th, 2007. The CD starts off with the uptempo "Work That". Mary makes an uplifting anthem for the ladies that tells them to be happy with themselves and not to live everyday trying to please other people. Do your best to work with the best attributes that you have. Ludacris appears on "Grown Woman" to return the favor for Mary J. appearing on the track "Runaway Love" that was featured on Ludacris' last release "Release Therapy". In my opinion, "Grown Woman" is basically a continuation of "Work That". You have to come to a point in your life where you are happy with yourself as a woman, mentally and physically. Mary J. has struggled with that fact for many years in her life and she is trying to be a positive example for ladies, young and old around the world. Luda does a decent job with his verse but he is trying to talk about some things that could be done with this woman instead of adding to the positivity that Mary is trying to bring to the track, with a touch of attitude. "Just Fine" is basically Growing Pains' "Family Affair". It doesn't matter how the week at work was or what trials and tribulations that you went through during the course of the week, it's Friday night and this beat comes on, go out and have a good time or just do the infamous 2 step like I do. "Just Fine" is a nice, uptempo feel good jam. "Feel Like A Woman" has Mary talking to her man about making her feel appreciated as a woman. Whether it's a shopping trip, making love to her through the night or just making a nice gesture, tonight she just wants to feel like a woman. The slow jam man, Bryan Michael Cox shows up to produce "Stay Down", which is a thoughtful slow jam. In every relationship, you are going to have ups and downs. No relationship is perfect. The relationship is enduring one of those down times and Mary is asking her man to try to keep putting up with these down times so that they can receive the greater award at the end. "Hurt Again" has Mary describing a situation where she is starting to have feelings for someone but she is hesitant in letting him know that because of all the times that she has been hurt in the past. "Shake Down" is tolerable but when you see Usher and Mary J. Blige on a track, you have huge expectations. Just like when you saw Usher and Alicia Keys on the track "My Boo", you expect the artists to make the collaboration memorable. On "Shake Down", it's decent but nothing that you would expect when you have Mary and Usher on the same track. Pharrell does his best to try to take you back to the 80s on "Til The Morning", but for the most part, unless you want to grab some old fashioned roller skates and go to the skating rink, this song won't work for most Mary J. Blige fans. On "Roses", Mary has to get a point across to her man that she is fed up with all of the confrontations with her man and today she is not having it for any reason. I can definitely relate to this track. Men: You're in a no win situation when this day comes so let her vent and this type of day will go by faster and be much easier for you to handle...lol
Clearly, my favorite track on "Growing Pains" is "Fade Away". Stargate, who has produced multilple Ne-Yo songs, Joe's "It's Me", Chris Brown's "With You", Rihanna & Ne-Yo's "Hate That I Love You", Trey Songz' "Can't Help But Wait" and most importantly to some people, Beyonce's "Irreplaceable", produce this memorable Mary J. track in "Fade Away". Ne-Yo co-produces and writes the track as well. Mary finds herself at times, because of all of her troubles not even wanting to be here on Earth. That's how bad times have gotten for her in the past. Although, her life is definitely much better than those times, she may still have moments where she feels like she did before irregardless of her success because of her past transgressions. Ne-Yo does an excellent job of reaching back so to speak in times in Mary's past to capture these moments. Here's the bridge: "Couldn't look myself in the mirror, asking myself how dumb could you be." "Maybe everything would be much clearer, if no one could see me". Mary's times in the past were so bad she didn't even want to me amongst the living at times. There were times when she just want to take herself out of this world and not even be here anymore. That's where I feel the "....invinsibility would be great" part comes from on the track. "What Love Is" is another memorable Mary, Stargate and Ne-Yo collaboration as Mary writes her rendition of what she feels the four letter word means just like Alicia Keys did on "The Thing About Love" from her "As I Am" CD. The effects at the end of the track add to the track as well. "Work In Progress" (Growing Pains) is also written by Ne-Yo as Mary walks you through how she is getting through life day by day the best she can. She is clearly trying her best, but she also wants to let women in the world know that she is just as human as they are despite her success. "Talk To Me" deals with Mary wanting to receive better communication from her man and the benefits of effective communication in a relationship. "If You Love Me" is a decent track but it sounds too much like "Be Without You" Part 2 to me. "Smoke" is clearly unlike any Mary J. Blige track that I have ever heard. This track seems to be a part of Mary J.'s musical maturity. You never would have heard Mary on a track like this in the What's The 411 and My Life days. As a matter of fact, she would have had a profanity laced tirade ready for Puffy if he even tried to bring her a track like this. In the end, it clearly works for me and it's nice to see Mary trying different things. "Come To Me (Peace)" ends "Growing Pains" on a good note as she is trying to win over the affection of a lost love from the past.
Overall, "Growing Pains" may not be Mary J. Blige's best CD, but if you look at her career since 1992's "What's The 411" to now, you see alot of progression in her music and lyrics in 2007. Not only do you see a growth process with Mary as a 37 year old woman but you also hear the growth process through her lyrics and her production. If you are a fan of the majority of Mary J's releases, then you should also add "Growing Pains" to your collection.
James' Top 5
1) Fade Away
2) What Love Is
3) Stay Down
4) Smoke
5) Work In Progress (Growing Pains)
Honorable Mention:
Hurt Again
Roses
Come To Me (Peace)
Work That
Just Fine