Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children [Paperback]

Jean Illsley Clarke (Author), Connie Dawson (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 5, 1998

As time-tested as it is timely, the expert advice in this book has helped thousands of readers improve on their parenting practices. Now, substantially revised and expanded, Growing Up Again offers further guidance on providing children with the structure and nurturing that are so critical to their healthy development--and to our own.

Jean Illsley Clarke and Connie Dawson provide the information every adult caring for children should know--about ages and stages of development, ways to nurture our children and ourselves, and tools for personal and family growth. This new edition also addresses the special demands of parenting adopted children and the problem of overindulgence; a recognition and exploration of prenatal life and our final days as unique life stages; new examples of nurturing, structuring, and discounting, as well as concise ways to identify them; help for handling parenting conflicts in blended families, and guidelines on supporting children's spiritual growth.

About the Authors:

Jean Illsley Clarke is a parent educator, teacher trainer, the author of Self-Esteem: A Family Affair, and co-author of the Help! for Parents series. She is a popular international lecturer and workshop presenter on the topics of self-esteem, parenting, family dynamics, and adult children of alcoholics. Clarke resides in Plymouth, Minnesota.

Connie Dawson is a consultant and lecturer who works with adults who work with kids. A former teacher, she trains youth workers to identify and help young people who are at risk. Dawson lives in Evergreen, Colorado.

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About the Author

Connie Dawson is a therapist who uses an attachment-oriented perspective in her work with adoptees and adoptive families. She sees clients at the Attachment Center Northwest in Kirkland, Washington, a facility which specializes in the treatment of children who are adopted following their first parents' failure to parent adequately, including many who are adopted internationally. She also does adoption coaching, consults with agencies and treatment facilities, presents workshops, and teaches for several universities. She was a member of the Counselor Education Faculty at Portland State for five years and is co-author with Jean Illsley Clarke of Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children. Early in her career, she taught fifth and sixth grade and was a member of the consultation and training department of The Johnson Institute in Minneapolis, Minnesota.

Jean Illsley Clarke recently authored two books, Connections: The Threads That Strengthen Families and Time-In: When Time-Out Doesn't Work, which received a Parent's Choice Award. She is a parent educator, and a trainer of parent educators. She holds a Master of Arts degree in Human Development and was awarded an honorary Doctorate of Human Services by Sierra University. She is a teaching and supervising member of the International Transactional Analysis Association and a Nationally Certified Family Life Educator. Last year she was named Distinguished Alumna of the Year by the College of Human Ecology at the University of Minnesota.

Product Details

• Paperback: 336 pages
• Publisher: Hazelden; Second Edition edition (May 5, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1568381905
• ISBN-13: 978-1568381909
• Product Dimensions: 9.2 x 7.4 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.5 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (26 customer reviews)
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31 of 31 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent for both parenting and reparenting., May 13, 1998

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This review is from: Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children (Paperback)

The chapter on "Ages and Stages" gives clear easy to read guides on what we humans learn when and how, and then how to learn "it" now if we did not learn it then. For instance, if you are "Scared to say no and allow others to dominate." then perhaps between 18 months and 3 years you did not learn how to express and handle feelings. One activity that might be helpful for an adult today, is learning how to use a "Fuss Box" (complete instructions are included) to express those feelings. Then instead of the feelings, such as anger controlling you, you can express and release those feelings and then move on to problem solving. I found it to be the best book of its kind

32 of 33 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The answers you seek are in this book., September 14, 2000

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Melissa Short (Birmingham, AL United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children (Paperback)

I grew up in a dysfunctional family, like most of us in this world. As a result, people are not given the necessary information needed in order to live as God intended as a whole, spiritual person. This book will help you begin to understand the gaping holes and emptiness you feel as a person. It examines parenting from both the child and the parent viewpoints, which makes it extremely easy to grasp all the concepts presented. If you are seeking answers, this book has them. Be prepared to face defiance from your family and other "unsafe" people in your lives as you challenge the myths of your childhood. I wish you much strength on your journey toward the truth.

This book is so powerful and insightful in a straightforward approach that can be easily understood, that I feel it should be incorporated in a human growth and development class and required in our society. Our lives would be happier and our world would be a better place as a result. I strongly recommend it to everyone.

21 of 21 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars An indispensable quide for parents., March 4, 1999

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This review is from: Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children (Paperback)

Of all the parenting books I have ever read, and as a Parent Educator I've read many, this is the book I go back to again and again. The charts and illustrations are so clear and concise, even parents with limited time and/or education can quickly assess the need of the child and choose a solution most effective for each situation. I recommend it as a must-have!