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Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children

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The chapter on "Ages and Stages" gives clear easy to read guides on what we humans learn when and how, and then how to learn "it" now if we did not learn it then. For instance, if you are "Scared to say no and allow others to dominate." then perhaps between 18 months and 3 years you did not learn how to express and handle feelings. One activity that might be helpful for an adult today, is learning how to use a "Fuss Box" (complete instructions are included) to express those feelings. Then instead of the feelings, such as anger controlling you, you can express and release those feelings and then move on to problem solving. I found it to be the best book of its kind

I grew up in a dysfunctional family, like most of us in this world. As a result, people are not given the necessary information needed in order to live as God intended as a whole, spiritual person. This book will help you begin to understand the gaping holes and emptiness you feel as a person. It examines parenting from both the child and the parent viewpoints, which makes it extremely easy to grasp all the concepts presented. If you are seeking answers, this book has them. Be prepared to face defiance from your family and other "unsafe" people in your lives as you challenge the myths of your childhood. I wish you much strength on your journey toward the truth.

This book is so powerful and insightful in a straightforward approach that can be easily understood, that I feel it should be incorporated in a human growth and development class and required in our society. Our lives would be happier and our world would be a better place as a result. I strongly recommend it to everyone.

Of all the parenting books I have ever read, and as a Parent Educator I've read many, this is the book I go back to again and again. The charts and illustrations are so clear and concise, even parents with limited time and/or education can quickly assess the need of the child and choose a solution most effective for each situation. I recommend it as a must-have!

Reading Growing Up Again has given me tremendous insights into the kind of parenting I was given and how that is affecting my parenting and grandparenting. I find that I go back to the book often and re-read portions of it. As an adoptee, I especially appreciated the chapter devoted entirely to adoption. Thank you, Connie and Jean!

I am a Child and Family therapist. I am also a parent who needed help learning new ways to grow as a parent. This book is the single, most influential parenting book I have ever read. I read it as a parent in its first edition. Now I'm grateful for a second edition to pass on as a recommendation to my clients.

I think this book is excellent because it is very user friendly and it has helpful stretegies for people in general. Whether you are single, married, with children, or with out, you can learn a lot about yourself and others in your life.

I picked up this book before having our first child thinking I would get some insights into how to raise our daughter. What I found was that the book was really for me. Through it, I learned about how I have some of the same needs as children--needs like recognition, feeling valued, loved for who I am, unconditionally.

What's more,it helped me understand better what my needs really are and how to get them met by myself and from others who love me. Most importantly I learned that in order to parent my daugther the I way I want her to grow up, I needed to parent myself and make sure my actions are congruent with my what I want for her. I strongly recommend this book for anyone who wants to create a solid, loving, nurturing environment for themselves and their children.

This book is filled with practical and real world ideas for personal growth and to help your children become the best they can be! Special information on adoption and over-indulgence make this new edition worth every cent! Revised affirmations have a multitude of uses to help fill in old gaps and brighten your outlook. Highly recommended to every human being.

Jean Illsley Clarke has given parents and families a real gift with this book.
Our family has benefitted so much from her insights,
that we were able to understand and apply right away.
Ms. Clark also wrote the foreword for the children's picture book
If I Ran the Family, which presents many of these same principles
for parents and kids to read together.

I have used this book for parenting groups, for high school students studying human development, and for individual parents trying to understand how their parenting styles affect children's behaviors. Two illuminating charts illustrate 6 parenting styles for care & nurture, and for providing structure. One of my favorite features is an "Ages & Stages" section in the appendix. Each stage roughly correlates to Erik Erickson's stage theory and outlines the developmental tasks for that stage, a list of helpful as well as harmful parenting behaviors, signs that the stage may not have been successfully completed and ideas for "re-parenting" yourself to revisit that stage. People cannot help but come away from this books with new insights into their own behaviors -- in parenting their own children or reflecting on how they were parented. The writing is engaging, not pompous or stiff. I'm a family therapist, and this is one of my favorite books -- one that I frequently recommend to parents.