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Growing Yourself Back Up Paperback – January 23, 2001
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We've all experienced moments when we lose control of a situation and ourselves. Now, in "Growing Yourself Back Up, the first book to explain the idea of emotional regression to the general reader, bestselling author John Lee identifies the circumstances that cause these seemingly uncontrollable feelings and shows how they are directly tied to our experience as children.
No adult, explains Lee, need ever experience the helpless feelings of childhood again. Here are his proven methods and visualization exercises, developed in his popular workshops, for recognizing, preventing, and diffusing regression in ourselves and others. He teaches, for example, that adults cannot be abandoned, they can only be left; if we're feeling abandoned we're regressing. He also reminds us that no matter how overwhelmed we are, adults always have options; if we believe we don't, we're in a regression.
"Growing Yourself Back Up will show you how to:
* develop strong emotional boundaries and convey them to others
* learn the Detour Method that reverses regression
* confront without regressing
* communicate with the authority figures who push your buttons
* minimize regression at family functions
Lee offers hope--as well as practical strategies that work--for conquering those childlike feelings of powerlessness that are almost always rooted in regression.
About the Author
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My latest book, The Half-Lived Life: Overcoming Passivity and Rediscovering Your Authentic Self, came out in 2012 and I'm already working on the next one!
In addition to writing I'm also a public speaker, teacher, consultant and life coach. My areas of expertise are passivity, emotional regression, anger management, recovery, relationships, men's issues, spirituality and creativity.
I've been fortunate enough to have been featured on Oprah 3 times and have also appeared on 20/20, Dr. Oz radio program, The View, CNN, PBS, and NPR.
As a consultant and trainer I've worked with The Betty Ford Clinic, Cleveland Clinic, Hanley Center, Guy's Hospital (London, England), The New York Open Center, South Pacific Hospital (Sydney, Australia), Mountain Area Health and Education Center (North Carolina) and numerous others.
Before becoming a writer I was a professor at the University of Texas and Alabama. I live in Austin, TX with my wife, Susan, and an ever-growing group of animals. We also have a home in Mentone, AL.
If you want more info, please visit my site at www.johnleebooks.com or visit my facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/jleemain
Top Customer Reviews
While the information in this book is not rocket science or new technology, it does provide a nice summary of common sense be-in-the-moment assertiveness techniques.
I stumbled upon this book by accident; some Men that I know asked if I could go hear a talk with the author. I was busy, so I declined and the flyer of his talk, long lost now, encouraged me to look the author up. I'd forgotten the topic of the flyer, but this book captivated me quickly.
This book was a small and bearable read, meaning the personal work, for me did not seem so emotionally intense. Regression is the reaction we have when something happening in the present triggers a memory in our bodies about something that happened in the past. One of the largest themes was that Adults have choice, where as children we did not. If the triggers are right, adults can be right back in the mind of their prior childhood reacting to the world and feeling helpless with no way out.
John introduces the red flags of regression which are irritations, hurts, and reactions that just sort of pop out all the sudden leaving us shamed, blamed, demeaned, demoralized, criticized, analyzed, preached and taught. One of the takeaways is that if you are the one who is shaming, blaming, demeaning, demoralizing, criticizing, analyzing, preaching, and teaching, you are already regressed. Moving all of these out of the way there is little more to say and take responsibility for is that you are angry.
The causes are many and simple, hence as sentient beings we are in a sense always in some manifestation of regression. For me, the primary Physical symptom is being hungry, but too exhausted for me to fix something to eat. The primary Psychological symptom is loneliness. The solutions are also simple, and do take work on your part.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Excellent book!! Was recommended by a friend, best recommendation! I finally understand myself better. Read morePublished 6 months ago by deborah
Certainly the most influential book I've read in the past year. Clearly explains why we have hangups and don't make more progress in our lives.Published 8 months ago by Jason R. Owens
John Lee presented a model which allows me to come to a deeper understanding of why I do the things I do that completely blow my mind and cause me pain and suffering when I... Read morePublished 16 months ago by Dan Cook
John has managed to describe regression in a way that's clear, concise and non-threatening.
I've spoken with many so-called therapists and counselors who have no idea... Read more