Unconditional Love
Loving without concern if love is returned. No agenda or judgment. Loving someone purely for exactly who they are, with no conditions attached. Loving completely and consistently. Discernment may be present, but judgment is absent. Forgiveness of self and others and releasing all guilt as a prerequisite for unconditional love. Understanding that human suffering causes people to hurt others. Non-attachment to insult and injury, and compassion for the suffering of others. No bartering, controls of possessiveness. Love is the basis for what we all crave. The one who is loving is the blessed one, as they are feeling the love; they have the open heart. Loving with no inner criticism or judgment. Removing old pain from the heart to open it to loving. Hurtful people are too full of pain to feel unconditional love. A loving heart is like a magnet. Love begets love.
The dolphins are a wonderful example of unconditional love. They manifest the fruits of love, which are joy, playfulness, caring, and healing.
Unconditional love cannot occur with the presence of grudges or anger, whether they be conscious or unconscious. The key to forgiveness for self and others is being non-attached (detached) from the offense that we feel in our heart. The invalidation, abandonment, neglect, or deliberate harm they inflict comes out of their own suffering. Kowning this helps us not to take it personally. We all have certain wounds to our hearts, and as a results we shield and armor our hearts as a way of preventing injury.
The irony is that the heart that is "shut down" hurts us more than the protection we feel it gives us. It can make us lonely, isolated, and ill. We may be afraid to be vulnerable. Yet when we see that injury comes from another's ignorance, or the lack of love and awareness, it is easier not to take our wounds and injuries so personally. The person who hurt us the most may be the most frightened, hurt, and "closed down" person in our life.
At times, one person loves another, and the love is not returned in kind. The one who is loving is the blessed one, as they have the flow of love in their heart. Here, there is never any lack. The love and the sacred spirit of the divine are completely fulfilled in the Unity of the One.
Our guides, angels, and spiritual masters would never hurt us the way many people do. They do love us, unconditionally, with no judgment, but with full-time encouragement, patience, and warmth.
It is not easy to be open and vulnerable, but it is a wonderful adventure, as love begets love. A loving heart, unshielded, is like a magnet. Everyone wants to touch it and be touched by it. It is more precious than gold, to be in the presence of a radiant heart. One time I was in the holy presence of Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche, a very enlightened Lama from Tibet with a huge heart. His radiance turned everything in the environment completely golden. He was conducting a Padmasambhava (the Lotus Born Gurn) initiation ceremony when this amazing apparition ocurred. Several people in attendance witnessed this glorious phenomenon. My husband Paul, whom I barely knew at the time, was also present and saw the same thing. We compared notes a year later and found out we'd both been blessed by the same golden vision and an infusion of spiritual love.
When a person comes to realize that people who inflict pain are people who are suffering very deeply, then it is easier for us to have compassion for them without internalizing their "stinging" actions or remarks. We learn not to be fooled by words or appearances. Importance, worldly wealth, status, or a golden tongue that professes to love can be very confusing, if it hides a wounded and wounding human being. So we learn to pay attention to actions more than words, as they do speak louder than words.
What is the feeling we get around a particular person? Sometimes our own awareness of this can alter the situation. We may be able to be vulnerable, enough, to beam love at that person. That love may alter the mean-spiritedness in them and allow a chink in their armor to fall away. A negative potential may be transformed into a positive reality through the healing light of love.
In the presence of love, most people feel safer to open up. Opening ourselves up is the road to love, and we often do it in stages. Unconditinal love discerns, but it does not cast judgments. It loves the other just as they are, wherever they are on their evolutionary path! Unconditional love doesn't want or need anything in return.
If the pain were to be extracted from all of our hearts, then people wouldn't do things to hurt each other or our Earth, anymore. It's the pain, in people's hearts, that makes them always want more. The pain causes the greed. If the pain were extracted, they would naturally be in harmony with all things. The pure, cleansed heart doesn't feel craving. It births wisdom, generosity, right action, patience, and harmony with all things. When each and every heart is "doctored" by a loving spirit, and the ancient pain is extracted, then we can live a life of unconditional love.