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The Guide to Picking Up Girls

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I picked this book up in an airport after a night of being constantly and unsuccessfully hit on by cheesy guys. I laughed the whole way home at the authors suggestions for picking up girls. Most of the techniques he describes remind me of the techniques of the lame dudes my friends and I are constantly brushing off.

Here are some golden nuggets from the book:

If you are hitting on a girl (called "laying your rap") and she doesn't like you, it has nothing to do with you- it is because she "has her switch off" (has a boyfriend, is a lesbian, etc). Uh, ok.

If you see a girl walking, don't stop her and start your "rap". Instead "follow her as she moves" and wait for her to stop. Yeah, there's just something about a dude who follows me around as I'm walking that makes me want to hook up with him!

If a fight breaks between you and some other guy over a girl: "You should view those nights as a fun challenge..."

"A girl usually wil not lie about whether she has a boyfriend. Having a boyfriend is so important to a girl that it takes precedence over about everything else and is not something for her to lie about. If she does lie, she knows it could jinx her relationship with the boyfriend". Ha! Come on now, we all know girls lie all the time about having a boyfriend to get rid of scumbags who are hitting on us.

Here is a sample of opening lines to use (say this stuff out loud for full effect:

"Look at you, all dressed up from work"

"Look at you guys, on a girls' night out"
"Look at you, with your pretty party dress"
"I saw you at the bathroom. Always long lines for the girls"
"I'll buy you any drink you want because tonight is your night"

There is much, much more! Such as a section on how important alcohol is to your "rap". This stuff is priceless. Is there some good advice in here? Sure. But it is common sense, and buried deep among the other nonsense. (I can honestly say that the only good advice that isn't common sense is not dancing. Most guys can't do it without looking lame.) If taken seriously, this book can teach you how to be that drunk, creepy guy at the bar who is hitting on everyone. If you are lucky, you will be able to attract the drunkest, easiest, most desperate and unattractive girls.

The rating system does not really apply for this one. I give it a 4 or 5 for humor and gag-gift appeal; 1 for information. Read it, you will not be sorry!

This book is, overall, worthless. It has some humor in it and some really basic knowledge (dress in clothes that fit you, exercise, eat well, etc.), but when it comes down to the basic approach of meeting women, it's incredibly vague. They call your pitch to a girl a "rap," and they divide the rap into three categories: beginning, middle, and end. The beginning is where you introduce yourself, the middle is where you build rapport and interest, and the end is where you close the deal with her number. These three sections are the most important parts of meeting women, yet they glaze over them in about 5 pages of text. Also this book recommends buying women drinks: this is a no-no, unless she buys you one and you buy her one. Supplicating a woman will not help your game.

In short, this book can be summed up in about a page of bulleted points. There are plenty of other books on the subject that are better and more worth your time.

Don't buy this book: it's worthless.

First, I should probably say I'm not the sort of Neanderthal who hits on girls to dance or for a date. (Hitting girls is wrong, right?) I've recently read several examples from this genre as part of a study. The thing they all have in common is that they first have to seduce you, the reader, into buying them. They do this by promising the fulfillment of a fantasy. This book does that by its title and a picture of a PYT in a low-cut dress on the cover. But when you read the intro you learn the book's definition of "success" is merely talking with a girl long enough to get her phone number! This is not exactly what most people would think is meant by "picking up girls". After that, you have to call and get a date, but the book is very clear that it won't help you with what to do on a date. So the book is really just about meeting and talking to girls -- laying your rap on them, to use the author's jargon.

With that said, the book is pretty typical in describing the work (s**twork some would say) a guy has to do to earn his way to equality with a girl. You have to present an air of confidence and strength, overcome your fear of rejection, read body language, etc. All pretty much common knowledge and beginner's stuff. But I can say the author's no-nonsense approach and sometime novel perspective on the meeting/mating game kept me interested enough to read the entire 130 (overpriced) pages. And I do have to say most of the advice was pretty good for what it was. (There's a sense in which all generalizations are lies...) There are no complicated secret or magic theories here and I think a woman could read it without getting upset. Maybe the best sections were on techniques for using a "wingman" (buddy) in various situations, as well as the general one of keeping things in focus and on track toward the grand goal: finding an unattached girl with her "switch" (that would be her dating switch) ON and getting her phone number.

It probably helps that the author is a TV producer who lives in the city (NYC) which has the most favorable (for guys) girl-to-boy ratio. Others in less favorable circumstances may not be able to pull off the sort of facile attitude presented here. I'll give it 2 1/2 stars and generously round up for that in spite of all the book doesn't have. If you're needing some basic know-how rather than know-what or know-whether the book is a quick read and might be worth a look.

This book is worthless. Just a bunch of common sense. Very badly written and with not much practical advice or practical examples.
Spends all the time talking about how important it is to have a "master rap" and almost no time explaining how to get one. The word "rap" becomes quite annoying after a while... it must be repeated a million times. Save your money.

I just finished reading this after reading "The Game". This book reminded me of those instructional films from the 50's that they made you watch in school.

If you take the word "rap" out of this book, it would probably only be about 10 pages. Don't waste your money. This book will only be useful if you are low on firewood.

The June 7, 2003 review is all wrong and does not seem to "get it." Could it be an author of a competing book? Probably. Each point is exagerrated and inaccurate.

[Another reviewer flipped through the book at an airport, read one sentence, got on the internet, tracked down this book and decided to write a whole review on it? Sounds fishy. Probably another competing author.]

-The book says that SOMETIMES (not all the time) when a girl is not responsive it is because her switch is off (e.g., she has a BOYFRIEND). Nothing wrong with that statement in the book.

-Girls don't like being grabbed by surprise while they are walking somewhere. Book says it is better to wait until a girl is situated and comfortable before approaching her. The book DOES NOT say to follow or stalk a girl. You can watch a girl with your eyes and wait until she is not moving. Nothing wrong with that statement in the book.

-Often guys will compete over the same girl. The book DOES NOT talk about fistfights breaking out among guys. The book tells you how to compete with other guys in cool and calm manner. (e.g., tell the girl you'll talk to her when she's a has a minute).

-If a girl lies and says she has a boyfriend, then that is GOOD. You don't have to waste time talking to someone who is not interested. The point in the book is that you shouldn't waste time talking to girls who have boyfriends or say that they do. If you ask them if they have a boyfriend after five minutes, you a better off than waiting a half hour. THE BOOK IS RIGHT ON TARGET ON THAT.

-The 5 opening lines listed are supposed to be said in good humor just to break the ice, not to hit a home run. If you say in a casual, fun way you can't go wrong. I don't know what the problem is of the angry writer who calls men "scumbags" several times in her review. Her "scumbag" is just a guy trying to talk to her and get to know her.

-Alcohol is a social drink and always has been. The book carefully says not to drink too much. It says to be careful and just have one or two to loosen up and not be stiff. Alcohol is served at every party, wedding, social function, sporting event, concert, etc. in the free world. What is the writer's problem?

The book is totally informative and very humorous too. The book works. It is great and has helped me get tons of girls. If any book will change your life, it is this one. I have recommended it to all my friends. I have had to buy it a few times because I never get it back when someone borrows it. Other people take it without asking and never give it back.

I would love to debate that angry writer. She's clueless (if it even is a girl - you don't know on the internet).

Just finished reading it and was not that impressed. Some techniques seem feasible, but others are just plain simple. Nothing new here. It is good for guys who have never had any contact with women, but not for me, an average frat boy with intergender skills, wanting to get lots more. I much rather recommend Milf-Seduction.com or Advanced Macking... which had more nitty-gritty useable stuff...

I picked up this book at the local [store] and have to admit, as a woman, I was entertained and not offended. I also have to say that much of the techniques, learned obviously with years of experience, are creative. This is a book about picking up girls and getting through the hard part. It is not the male equivilent to the rules and does not teach manipulation and dishonesty. It probably will make both parties more comfortable with each other. For under ten bucks and about an hour of your time, I must admit, dating life and beyond should be vastly improved.

After you have been picking up girls for a number of years, and been even remotely successful at it, you think that no book (basically no other guy) could tell you anything you don't already know. I saw the author on CNN and got the book just to prove to myself that I didn't need it. However, this book is full of all those really simple things that girls respond to that we all forget over time. There were even things that I never thought of and some great tips. It is not politically correct (and good for a real laugh in places), but I would suggest that girls read it too if they want to get a handle on what we are thinking. Quick read. Definitely worth it.

Wow!...this book is great!...Howard Stern was right. I bought this book on-line after I heard Howard complimenting it on the radio. "The Guide" is so funny yet true. I definitely plan on giving it to my single friends on Christmas. A big thumbs-up!