The Guide for the Romantically Perplexed [Hardcover]

Lisa Aiken (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: September 2003

Covers every aspect of Jewish dating, marriage, divorce, and remarriage. For singles, it is a step-by-step guide that helps you find a mate and keep that mate for life. For married, divorced, or remarried couples, this is a self-help manual that really works.

- Includes case studies that highlight why people succeed or fail in their interpersonal relationships.

- Well documented from both a Jewish and contemporary psychological viewpoint.

- Pertinent for Jewish men and women from all levels of the Jewish religious spectrum.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Billed as "the first practical, comprehensive guide that integrates research, professional marriage counseling techniques and Jewish wisdom," this book uses ancient Jewish teachings about marriage as a starting point for finding--and keeping--a mate. Aiken, a psychologist who lives in Jerusalem, opens the book with yenta-like tips on "who to be and what to look for" when searching for one's "b'shert" (intended). She then offers advice on all the details of planning a wedding, even giving suggestions on how to keep kosher in an exotic honeymoon location. But Aiken's sensible and businesslike advice does not come to an end under the marriage canopy; she is deeply concerned about divorce statistics, so the second half of the book discusses marital communication, problem-solving and the two potentially explosive issues of money and sex. Her brief chapter on how children change a marriage seems almost like an afterthought, but in all, this is a sweeping guide that lives up to its own promises.
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From the Publisher

1) A self-help guide that works for singles, married, divorced and second marriages. 2) Pertinent to individuals from every level of the Jewish spectrum. 3) Includes case studies that highlight the reasons for success and failure in interpersonal relationships. 4) Well documented from both a Jewish and contemporary psychology standpoint. 5) Best-selling author and speaker on marriage and relationships; she has condensed and refined her life's work into this one exhaustive volume.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 424 pages
• Publisher: Devora Publishing (September 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1930143729
• ISBN-13: 978-1930143722
• Product Dimensions: 9.3 x 6.3 x 1.2 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.8 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,665,291 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great for jewish singles, October 2, 2003

By A Customer

This review is from: The Guide for the Romantically Perplexed (Hardcover)

this book is one of a few books i have read that get stright to the point and you can really learn from it. (maybe she brings in a bit to much the jewish religion) but it is a great book.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars So helpful my friends are loaning it out to each other, April 17, 2011

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Ayyaut - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Guide for the Romantically Perplexed (Hardcover)

I passed this book along to a friend with marriage difficulties. They are not only doing phenomenally now, but have passed the book along to other friends with tangible results after a week.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars useful tips even for a non-Jewess, November 27, 2008

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baby beans (cincinnati, oh) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Guide for the Romantically Perplexed (Hardcover)

Lisa provides useful tips & insight, useful even for those who are not Jewish. I am Catholic. Nevertheless, her approach to a healthy *as opposed to unhealthy* use of dating/courting reeks of wisdom. I really appreciate her strong moral stances against sex outside of marriage and cohabitation. I also find the traditional relationship (with flexiblity based on situation) here, and find it more practical and flexible than some of the popular stuff out there (i.e, the Sex in the City approach vs. the other extreme, the doormat Surrendered Single approach)..