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Hands Are Not for Hitting (Best Behavior) [Kindle Edition]

Martine Agassi , Marieka Heinlen
4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (103 customer reviews)

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Book Description

It’s never too soon for children to learn that violence is never okay, hands can do many good things, and everyone is capable of positive, loving actions.

In this bright, inviting, durable board book, simple words and full-color illustrations teach these important concepts in ways even very young children can understand.

Created in response to requests from parents, preschool teachers, and childcare providers, this book belongs everywhere young children are. Includes tips for parents and caregivers.

Editorial Reviews

From School Library Journal

PreS-Gr 1-This title offers youngsters an alternative to hitting and other forms of hurtful behavior, guiding them to a more peaceful and positive outcome in their dealings with other children. The refrain that "hands are not for hitting" is accompanied by numerous better uses for them, such as waving, helping, drawing, and making music. While the text is didactic and too redundant to be read aloud cover to cover, the book provides an important point of departure for discussing constructive ways of coping with and resolving strong feelings such as anger, jealousy, and fear. Friendly, colorful illustrations portray children engaged in various positive activities. An extensive list of supportive ideas for grown-ups interested in promoting nonviolence is included.-Teri Markson, Stephen S. Wise Temple Elementary School, Los Angeles

Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information, Inc.


“The simple but important message…helps children understand that they have the power to choose not to hurt people.” —Teaching Tolerance

“Imagine raising your kids without the help of Goodnight Moon or Is Your Mama a Llama? or Hands Are Not for Hitting.”—Jennifer Garner, actress, Save the Children ambassador

 “Offers youngsters an alternative to hitting and other forms of hurtful behavior, guiding them to a more peaceful and positive outcome in their dealings with other children.”—School Library Journal

 “Highly recommended...ideal ‘read aloud’ book for parents and care givers.”—Midwest Book Review

 “This is a great book to have in your personal collection whether you are a parent, teacher, or caregiver, and an excellent resource to refer to whenever your children or students need a reminder about calm and peaceful hands.”—Chasing Supermom blog


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Midwest Independent Publisher Award

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38 of 38 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars I loved this book! March 22, 2002
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I bought this book, and "The Way I Feel" in response to my almost 2 year old going through a hitting phase. I could not be more pleased with how this book (and the other) addresses the issue and proposes solutions for dealing with anger and frustration. My son LOVES acting out the things that hands can be used for. He sits through the whole book and often wants to read it again. He quotes catchy phrases that he remembers from the book. It is so interactive! I really think that it has made a difference in my son's behavior over the period of 3 weeks.
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21 of 23 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars An ideal "read aloud" book for parents and care givers. September 19, 2000
Hands Are Not For Hitting is a gentle, encouraging book for beginning readers that shows all the good things hands can do from playing, sharing, clapping, and counting, to helping, building, being kind, and staying safe. Kids will learn alternatives to hitting -- such as drawing pictures, jumping up and down, talking about feels, and simply walking away. Highly recommended, Hands Are Not For Hitting is an ideal "read aloud" book for parents and care givers, there is a special section devoted to ideas for things to talk about and activities grownups and kids can do together.
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35 of 41 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars a picture book to teach nonviolence December 31, 2001
This book is in the category of picture books that gets read to children to teach a lesson (rather than being a simple story picture book). The title says it all but the back cover also gives a great summary (which you can view right here on Amazon). The pages are covered with ideas for what hands are to be used for (playing, working together) and then each page has numerous illustrating examples (building snowpeople, sandcastle, block tower, etc.). Over and over we hear that hands are not for hitting but they are for doing many positive things.
I am a homeschooling parent of a four-year-old who at times hits others. Our biggest problem though is bullying being done to him by others. I bought this to read to him as a reminder because for a while he was learning more from imitating his peers (hitting back) than listening to what his father and I were verbally teaching him. I figured having this book around the house could not hurt. My son likes to browse it himself and look at the pictures and I read it aloud from time to time. I don't read it a lot because since he rarely hits it is a little annoying to keep telling him something he already knows. However, this is published by a publisher focusing on books for teachers and schools. I think the best way this book could be used would be to read it aloud to groups of children because there is bound to be a child in attendance who may need a reminder. This would also be a great book for public libraries to have in their collection for parents to borrow.
The illustrations are cute and brightly colored. At the back of the book is a note to grown-ups about teaching non-violence to children. There are approximately 4 pages that list out additional activities and discussion questions to go along with each page of the book. There is also a listing of books that expand on various subjects touched on throughout this book. I can't think of any way that I'd improve upon it. Overall a great book on this important subject!
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7 of 8 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Great book for toddlers September 19, 2006
I read this book to my toddler when he started hitting and then reinforcing it by saying hands are not for hitting when ever he would hit. It really worked - he loved doing some of the fun things that hands are good for as we read along. I liked it that it focused on positive things to do with your hands while still enforcing that hitting is not what hands are for. Great book!
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12 of 16 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars MIDWEST BOOK REVIEW April 15, 2003
What a delightful learning book this is.
Full of bright, colorful illustrations that bring the point across without any confusion!
The author shares all the wonderful things hands are good for, playing, drawing, saying hello, to name a few of the many examples used in this read. . Just adorable!

I shared this book with my 3-year old granddaughter. I can tell you, it was a hit!
This is a sturdy, colorful, well constructed
book. A book that can take the abuse of a younger child and still stay in one piece. Not an easy feat!

A great book with a great lesson; one your child will treasure and read over and over again. Hands are NOT for hitting! I've learned my lesson, have you?

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7 of 9 people found the following review helpful
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To my great distress, my kindergarten age daughter suddenly began having issues with hitting. We've always emphasized empathy and gentleness so I was blown away when she began to hit her favorite friend at school.

In my search for stories about empathy, being gentle, etc. to reinforce why it is not OK to hit, I ran across this book and almost did not buy it. I thought it was more appropriate for the 2-4 year old set, when they're just beginning to learn about what is and is not okay behavior and why. However, the reviews made me go ahead and buy it.

Of the five books I bought about kindness and empathy THIS is the one that she had her daddy read to her over and over and that I actually saw her reading on her own on multiple occasions!!! She loved the book.

Somewhere between this book and the other corrective actions I was taking she has stopped hitting her friend (knock-on-wood!). Based on her intense interest in this particular book I cannot help but assume it absolutely played a part in that. Now I just hope it all sticks.

Don't hesitate to buy this even if you think your child might be a bit too old. It is very basic and simple, but sometimes that is the most effective approach.

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