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“The simple but important message…helps children understand that they have the power to choose not to hurt people.” —Teaching Tolerance


“Imagine raising your kids without the help of Goodnight Moon or Is Your Mama a Llama? or Hands Are Not for Hitting.”—Jennifer Garner, actress, Save the Children ambassador



 “Offers youngsters an alternative to hitting and other forms of hurtful behavior, guiding them to a more peaceful and positive outcome in their dealings with other children.”—School Library Journal



 “Highly recommended...ideal ‘read aloud’ book for parents and care givers.”—Midwest Book Review



 “This is a great book to have in your personal collection whether you are a parent, teacher, or caregiver, and an excellent resource to refer to whenever your children or students need a reminder about calm and peaceful hands.”—Chasing Supermom blog

 



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About the Author

Martine Agassi, Ph.D., is an award-winning children’s book author and creator of Hands Are Not for Hitting, which inspired Free Spirit Publishing’s Best Behavior series. As a behavioral therapist, she has extensive experience with counseling children and families in schools, residential facilities, foster care, and private practice.

Marieka Heinlen received her BFA at the University of Wisconsin, Madison, and also studied at Central Saint Martins College of Art and Design in London. She launched her career as an award-winning children’s book illustrator with the original edition of Hands Are Not for Hitting and has illustrated other books in the Best Behavior series and Free Spirit’s Toddler Tools board book series. As a freelance illustrator and designer, Marieka focuses her work on books and other materials for children, teens, parents, and teachers. She lives in St. Paul, Minnesota, with her husband and son.
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Product Details

  • Age Range: 4 - 7 years
  • Grade Level: Preschool and up
  • Lexile Measure: AD260L (What's this?)
  • Series: Best Behavior
  • Paperback: 40 pages
  • Publisher: Free Spirit Publishing; Revised and Updated, For Ages 4-7, Paperback edition (March 15, 2009)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1575423081
  • ISBN-13: 978-1575423081
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 0.2 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 5.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (247 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #8,008 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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By Sherry Ellis VINE VOICE on March 23, 2011
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There are a lot of reasons we can get angry. It's how we deal with it that makes the difference. Cool Down and Work Through Anger is a fantastic book that shows kids that it's normal to get angry. It begins with a few scenarios that might cause a kid to be angry - being left out of a play group, being treated with disrespect. Then it talks about the physical feeling of being angry - hot face, tense muscles, fast heartbeat. It talks about what you might want to do if you get angry, but then explains that these are not always the best choices. Finally, it gives some very helpful advice on what to do if you are feeling angry. The illustrations really do a great job in explaining what is going on in the book. Even if a child can't read, they can understand the book's message.

As a parent, I really like the last part of the book - the discussion questions and activities. It breaks down the book by pages and gives questions to talk about with your kids like, "When is a time you felt angry?" and "When is a time you said 'I'm sorry?' How did it feel afterward?" There are also some wonderful cool-down activities kids can try when they are angry. I think the advice is also great for adults. I highly recommend this book.
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I purchased this book in an effort to help my four year old deal with his bursts of anger. I think the story is great and really provides you with a context to start a dialouge with your child. There isn't any new or mindblowing idea, just take a deep breath and count to ten, but something about reading it aloud and going through it together is very inspiring.

Also the illustrations are great. I've never seen emotions so perfectly reflected in drawings of children.

I think this is a great book to help you talk with your child about controlling difficult emotions.
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I got this for my 6 year old who was having difficulties expressing her anger. This book lets the child know what they should do when they are angry (talk to an adult, cool off ect.) and makes the child aware that their actions can affect others around them. The book takes the child through several short stories of different children and how they express themselves.
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"Cool Down and Work Through Anger" is an excellent anger-management toolbook written at reading level 1-2 for kids ages 4-8. Full color illustrations provide examples of kids experiencing anger management problems and solutions. "Cool Down and Work Through Anger" is described as a gentle empowering book that helps kids channel their anger by giving constructive alternatives, rather than focusing on what not to do. "Cool Down and Work Through Anger" is very accessible and kid-friendly without talking down to kids. Its simple, direct language provides real models of better ways to interact and deal with anger. "Cool Down and Work Through Anger" is a paperback book that includes an activity guide for adults with specific suggestions for ways to reinforce helpful ideas and also a number of suggested games and activities to resolve anger. "Cool Down and Work Through Anger" is part of the Learning to Get Along series from Free Spirit Publishing. "Cool Down and Work Through Anger" is highly recommended for kids ages 4-8 who have anger management issues or concerns.
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Our family owns several of the books in this series. I picked some up while teaching preschool, and found that my toddler loved them, too- he's nearly five now, and Cool Down and Work Through Anger is our most recent acquisition in the series. He gives each book in the series rapt attention, and this one was no different. I highly recommend it for classroom and home teaching! This addresses the same issues as Hands are Not for Hitting, in a more advanced but easy-to-understand way, giving kids tools to deal with feelings on their own level.
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My son with Asperger's got a lot out of this book. He's prone to melt downs and while this book didn't solve his problems over night, in addition to other techniques we used, I think it really helped!
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I like how this book is written in 1st person. Also, it includes discussion questions as well as games, activities, and strategies for resolving anger.
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I really like the "Teeth Are Not for Biting" book in the Best Behavior series, and my 2 year old really seemed to "get it." This one is a little too long and over his head, but I could see it being really effective for an older child. We'll continue to read it with hopes that he gets it, but it's definitely appropriate for pre-K and kindergarten kids.
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