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4.0 out of 5 stars
Forgetting is Hard, May 9, 2000
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This review is from: Hard to Forget: An Alzheimer's Story (Hardcover)
My mother in law is in the early stages of a progressive dementia (vascular dementia) whose symptoms are the same as Alzheimers. Alzheimers is the most well known of the forms of dementia but all are equally devastating to the individuals and their families. I found Pierce's book hard to put down. Since I live with a person afflicted with symptoms so similar to those he describes, the reading of his narrative became completely absorbing. His strategy of combining historical perspective and scientific background with personal stories and experiences seemed to me to fill in, in a very useful way, where some of the more clinical, or the more purely personal, accounts leave one still wondering and curious about the impact of KNOWING about the disease on family members and on sufferers. Not all family members want to know as much as others about the disease and its implications. And, of course, those afflicted with dementia may or may not ever have a true moment of realization of the fact of their affliction. The account Pierce gives of how his family member is able, at an early stage, to recognize what is happening to him, and way Pierce describes the last interaction in which they communicated and meaningful messages got through is especially affecting. I have also found helpful, for day to day living with dementia, The 36-Hour Day, which is out in a newer edition now. But Pierce's book has something else to offer, and truly evokes the tragic mysteriousness of how we actually lose people before our eyes, while they, unaware, become increasingly hard to care for.
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14 of 14 people found the following review helpful:
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A book for anyone who knows anyone with Alzheimer's, May 8, 2000
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This review is from: Hard to Forget: An Alzheimer's Story (Hardcover)
Who should buy this book: -- Those who have a family member with Alzheimer's Disease. -- Friends of those families. -- Health-care providers. -- Fans of the nationally-known sportswriter Charles Pierce, because the prose in his first book (his work has been included in many sportswriting anthologies) is just as wonderful as it is on the sports pages. Hard To Forget is the story of a young family -- Charles Pierce, his wife Margaret Doris,their new baby Brendan, and Margaret's son Abraham -- how they came to grips with the family denial of Pierce's father's Alzheimer's Disease. In 1985, Pierce's father John went to place flowers on the family graves in Worcester, Massachusetts, and vanished. He was found three days later in Vermont. When Charles and Margaret went to fetch him, John didn't recognize his son: "I think I'm going to give him that car," he told Margaret. Charles Pierce's mother denied that anything was particularly the matter with her husband. Margaret, his wife, assumed the role of caretaker for her in-laws, trying to deal with the day-to-day issues and to convince her mother-in-law of the reality of the situation. Abraham, her son, found something new to dread in childhood: Sunday visits to Grandma and Grampa Pierce, and the fight in the car on the way home. Charles noticed not only his father's symptoms, but his uncles' and aunt's, and began researching the disease and its tendency to run in families. Would he get Alzheimer's? Would his new baby boy? Should he be tested? What did it mean when he couldn't find his parked car? Pierce weaves together his family's story with a readable history of Alzheimer's Disease and the current, and sometimes conflicting, research. He reports on the studies done on the Amish and on a group of nuns. He retrieves horseshoes for the Friday Group, a gathering of Alzheimer's paitents in North Carolina. He recites to himself the trivia he hasn't forgotten, to prove to himself that everything is all right. Fans of Pierce's sportswriting (he currently writes for Esquire; when he was writing for GQ, he published a much-talked-about story that ripped the facade of sainthood off Tiger Woods) will find Pierce's humor intact, along with an unflinching look at the tragedy that invaded his family's life. NPR fans who have heard him on the radio, in "Wait, Wait, Don't Tell Me" and "It's Only a Game," will value having Pierce in print. Caretakers will want to refer this book to families who are being torn apart by Alzheimer's Disease, because the Pierces have been there and back again.
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17 of 20 people found the following review helpful:
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Much more than an Alzheimer's story..., July 17, 2000
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This review is from: Hard to Forget: An Alzheimer's Story (Hardcover)
I had to search hard to find this book, because other "Charles Pierces" kept coming up online and it was hidden in "aging" or "disease, listed alphabetically" in the bookstores, but I recommend you persevere -- it was worth it. Somehow the author manages to combine a poignant memoir, exploring the way we're taught in our families of origin to deal (or not deal, in the case of the Pierces) with serious issues, with a highly readable account of what doctors know and are racing to find out about this cruel disease. On Saturdays, I often listen to Pierce on the NPR shows "Wait, Wait, Don't Tell Me" and "Only a Game," and he is very funny. Some of that humor, although darker, leavens this book, which also gives an amazingly understandable summary of what scientists know about Alzheimer's and possible treatments. I hope people will read the excerpt here (or in Yankee magazine) and give this book a chance, even if they don't personally know someone with Alzheimer's. With all of us Baby Boomers aging faster than we care to admit, there are expected (according to last week's cover story in Time magazine) to be many, many new cases that eventually will touch most of us. Alzheimer's disease is depressing, but this beautifully written book is not. Highly recommended.
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