To Hate Like This Is to Be Happy Forever: A Thoroughly Obsessive, Intermittently Uplifting, and Occasionally Unbiased Account of the Duke-North Carolina Basketball Rivalry [Hardcover]

Will Blythe (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 28, 2006

A thoroughly obsessive, intermittently uplifting, and occasionally unbiased account of the Duke–North Carolina basketball rivalry

--This text refers to the Paperback edition.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

[Signature]Reviewed by Sara NelsonFor a reviewer who's not all that clear on the difference between basketball and basket weaving, this book is a revelation. Former Esquire editor Blythe's debut is an examination of the rivalry between the University of North Carolina and Duke University college teams; in it, he interviews and profiles players and coaches, and even gives play-by-plays of key games. And yet, it is not "just" a sports book. At heart it's a memoir. Like Pat Conroy's My Losing Season and even Frederick Exley's A Fan's Notes, to which the author Anthony Wofford compares it, To Hate Like This is about family and passion and people and parents and aging and, oh, yeah, some sports, too.Blythe is a native North Carolinan whose UNC passion was bred in the bone; he and his siblings were raised to be genteel and polite about all things, except while watching basketball games, particularly against arch-rival Duke. After living in New York for many years, Blythe returns home as his father is dying and reflects on the passion that has shaped him and, he suggests, his region. Forget the Mason Dixon line, the real division in this border war is between Carolinians who support the Blue Devils and those who live for the Tarheels.Sports fans can expect to enjoy the accounts of particular pivotal games recounted here, but the real revelations for the relatively uninitiated are Blythe's portraits of his characters: the tough-guy coaches like Mike Krzyzewski and Dean Smith, one of whom nearly breaks down confessing that he's still in love with his ex-wife; the nurse tending Blythe's dying father; and, most of all, the father himself, the kind of personality you expect to meet in great southern novels from Harper Lee to Pat Conroy. To call To Hate Like This a sports book is to be only about one-third right. An elegy to place and time and generation, it is also a story of fathers and sons and an elegant testament to the way pastimes are far more than ways to pass the time. (Mar. 1)Sara Nelson is the editor-in-chief of Publishers Weekly.
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Review

Blythe brings great wit, style, and insight... a long-awaited American answer to Fever Pitch. (Baltimore Sun )

You don’t have to be a Tar Heel or Blue Devil to like [THLT], because it’s funny, perceptive, and smart. (Jonathan Yardley, Washington Post )

“The kind of sportswriting that comes along so rarely you can count the classics on one hand . . . read this book.” (Play (New York Times Magazine sports supplement) )

“The best book on basketball I have ever read ... destined to become a classic of sports literature.” (Pat Conroy )

“Blythe seduces with his story of Southern identity...passed down from fathers to their roaming sons...raucous, tender, and fierce.” (Adrian Nicole LeBlanc, author of "Random Family" )

“Not since Exley’s A Fan’s Notes has anyone produced such a graceful and elegiac evocation of place, family, and sport”. (Anthony Swofford, author of Jarhead )

An exceptionally entertaining parable in defense of good, healthy, all-American loathing.... an animosity the whole family can share. (New York Post )

Goes far beyond the facile John Feinstein “inside a season” formula ... [Blythe] writes amusingly, self-deprecatingly and often beautifully. (New York Times Book Review )

Blythe writes like a wizard ... Even if college basketball isn’t your obsession, you’ll get caught up in this. (Elle )

Blythe makes you want to scream from the sidelines... while his hate is contagious, the obvious affection behind it remains. (New York Post )

The best book about loving a team since “A Fan’s Notes” ... [a book] about a lot more than basketball. (Greensboro News & Record )

Hilarious and remarkably wise ... you don’t want to say too much about [this book], for fear of spoiling the surprises. (Sports Illustrated )

“A revelation.... an elegant testament to the way pastimes are far more than ways to pass the time.” (Publishers Weekly (signature review) )

The best book about politics I´ve read since All the King´s Men ... it’s about basketball [like] Moby Dick is about whaling. (Hartford Courant )

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 368 pages
• Publisher: Harper (February 28, 2006)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 006074023X
• ISBN-13: 978-0060740238
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 6 x 1.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (40 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #841,297 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #63 in Books > Sports & Outdoors > Basketball > College & University

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25 of 28 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Funny, informed, introspective, brilliant sports writing, March 11, 2006

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This review is from: To Hate Like This Is to Be Happy Forever: A Thoroughly Obsessive, Intermittently Uplifting, and Occasionally Unbiased Account of the Duke-North Carolina Basketball Rivalry (Hardcover)

Some of the best American nonfiction writing is about sports, and some of the best American writers are sportswriters.

Even though he isn't, to the best of my knowledge, a sportswriter (strictly speaking) Will Blythe has written an absolutely brilliant book about one of the most storied and heated rivalries in college basketball: UNC vs. Duke.

He has all the qualifications one needs to opine authoritatively: he was born and raised in North Carolina, he went to school at UNC, and like most of us who did (I fit that profile myself), he's a rabid Carolina basketball fan.

And while this book will be of obvious and direct interest to anyone who has spent some time on Tobacco Road--it is as authentically North Carolinian as a plate of barbecue and a glass of sweet iced tea--*any* college basketball fan, or any sports fan, really, or even anyone who appreciates the fine art of the wry personal memoir, would find "To Hate Like This..." engaging and delightful reading.

10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars learn about yourself with this book, March 8, 2006

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This review is from: To Hate Like This Is to Be Happy Forever: A Thoroughly Obsessive, Intermittently Uplifting, and Occasionally Unbiased Account of the Duke-North Carolina Basketball Rivalry (Hardcover)

This book was given to me a friend who thinks I take sports too seriously. I'm a Kentucky fan so I figured I wouldn't enjoy it, but I was wrong. If you want to learn about basketball, read something else. If you want to learn about yourself, read this book.

9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars best sports book about fans that I've ever read, March 7, 2006

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Jon Kimball (Durham, NC) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: To Hate Like This Is to Be Happy Forever: A Thoroughly Obsessive, Intermittently Uplifting, and Occasionally Unbiased Account of the Duke-North Carolina Basketball Rivalry (Hardcover)

This book is not about Duke or North Carolina or even college basketball per se, it's about about real sports fans dealing with the trials and tribulations of obsessive love and hate for "their" teams and against their rivals. The author himself even admits that he too is not immune from this affliction as he tries to determine what is at the root of this phenomenon. It's a hilarious read, and is without a doubt like nothing I've ever read in the sports genre. This book has history, passion, love/hate, and lots of psychoanalysis. It should be required reading for all sociology majors, not to mention anyone who has ever considered themselves a fan of any sport or anything.