Have a New Husband by Friday: How to Change His Attitude, Behavior & Communication in 5 Days [Kindle Edition]

Kevin Leman (Author)

Book Description

Have a new husband by Friday? Is that even possible? Dr. Kevin Leman says it is. The New York Times bestselling author and self-help guru shows even the most frustrated wife how she can have a new husband by Friday. Leman reminds any wife that if what she's doing to get better behavior out of her husband isn't working now, it never will. So it's time for a change. That means it's time to change her own patterns of behavior. Here's how Leman suggests she handle it day to day:Monday: Secrets Revealed: Cracking the Male Code?Yes, you're different species, but you can work together in harmony.Tuesday: Creatures from Another Planet . . . or Creatures of Habit?To understand men, you have to track 'em to their den.Wednesday: Think about What You Want to Say, Then Divide It by TenHow to talk so your guy will really listen . . . and listen so your guy will really talk.Thursday: Think of Him as a Seal Waiting for a Three-Pound FishWhy making love to your man is a key to who he is and how satisfied he'll be, and what's in it for you. Friday: It Takes a Real Woman to Make a Man Feel like a Real ManHow to open your man's heart, revolutionize your love life, and turn him into the knight you've always dreamed of.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Women who feel they need a Rosetta stone to interpret their husbands' behavior no longer have to be frustrated. Psychologist and media personality Leman channels his years of professional counseling experience into easy-to-follow, common sense advice for wives. While never placing blame on women for their husbands' poor behavior, the author does believe that wives can encourage their husbands to be better partners by altering some of their expectations. One expectation that should never be altered, however, is that of mutual respect. Leman does not mince words about what to do with men who continually disrespect their wives—dump the chump is his advice. Specific questions from wives are peppered throughout, followed by the author's sage feedback. Some may feel Leman puts too shiny an interpretation on the aspects of husbands' behavior that infuriate women the most by suggesting that men really do want to please their wives but are often clueless as to how to do this. A wife can only know for sure if she gives the author's five-day plan a try. (Oct.)
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From the Inside Flap

Why settle for less when you could have so much more? Truth is, after 10, 25, or 35 years, your marriage can be as rich, exciting, and sensual as you can possibly imagine.

You wonder, Is it possible? I've been working on him for years, and I've never been able to change him.

Have a New Husband by Friday is a game plan you can follow. It's not easy, but it's simple. The changes in attitude, behavior, and communication will astound you. They've been tried out in thousands of relationships with great results. You won't even break a fingernail.

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Product Details

• File Size: 586 KB
• Print Length: 212 pages
• Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0800719123
• Publisher: Revell (October 1, 2009)
• Language: English
• ASIN: B0033E14LE
• Text-to-Speech: Enabled
• X-Ray: Enabled
• Lending: Not Enabled
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #202,920 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

85 of 88 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars An eye-opener October 5, 2009

By Agatha

Format:Hardcover|Amazon Verified Purchase

I've always prided myself on not nagging my husband. We've been married more than 20 years, and I sort of thought I wouldn't be teaching my old dog any new tricks. Well, I am just over half way through this book, and he's already learning new tricks (wink). I guess I am really the old dog who is learning the new tricks - regardless, it's working. I am now catching myself asking "why" or repeating what I ask my husband to do. I think I'd been nagging more than I would have thought.

A couple of weeks ago, I asked him two or three times to fix a leaking toilet. After a few days, I called the plumber. It was very minor and fixed in a matter of minutes. My husband saw the paid bill and almost choked at $90 for 10 minutes of work. I didn't say a word until he asked. I then explained that I'd asked him a few times, but figured since he didn't get around to it that he must be very busy, so I called someone. A few days later the ice maker started acting up.... yep, he fixed it the first time I asked. No fussing, no nagging.... just results.

99 of 107 people found the following review helpful

1.0 out of 5 stars Disappointing January 20, 2010

By Looking for a Good Book

Format:Hardcover

I was excited about this book and I have a lot of respect for Dr. Leman, but honestly this was a BIG let down for me. If you fit into the male and female stereotypes he describes, this would probably be a helpful book for you. (I guess a lot of people do - they call them stereotypes for a reason.) The Dr. simply told me "You are like this, your man is like this, so do this..." And, by the way, in his book, there is nothing outside the box of these "normal people" except the extremes - abusers, people who are married but secretly gay, etc... I just flat out didn't identify. I am not like the women he describes and my husband isn't like his description of a man either. It was so frustrating I had to keep myself from throwing it at the wall. (This is one reason my husband says he hates these books - he doesn't like "being generalized" and I totally agree after reading this.)
I also got the sense while reading it that Dr. Leman subscribes to an idea that females like to feel superior. He appealed to that as a way of helping me change my behavior so my inferior husband will do what I want. He referred to men being "dumb as dirt" "children" and "like a dog that can be trained". He told women to talk a certain way to them, use body language like turning away to make a point, reward good behavior with sex, etc. And then he said "don't manipulate". Really?? If I did what you told me to that's exactly what I feel like I would be doing. Sorry, but my husband is not dumb. I respect him a lot. He is a good man. He just struggles with my need to be pursued since we are already married. Any advice on that? Sadly, No.

Dr. Leman is right about a few things such as, Men's need to be respected, needed, appreciated, not nagged... But there are MUCH better books out there that address this. "Love and Respect" by Dr. Emmerson Eggerich is one of them.

60 of 63 people found the following review helpful

3.0 out of 5 stars Good Information for Any Marriage September 20, 2009

By Christine Smith

Format:Hardcover

When asked to review this book for the publisher Baker-Revell, I saw the title and thought "That's Crazy!" Later I changed my mind and thought it would be fun to review this book. My decision was correct-the book was fun to read!

Dr. Leman writes with humor and understanding as he explains to his female audience How to Have a New Husband by Friday. He is a Christian therapist, father of four daughters and married over 45 years to the same women. He shares this experience with his readers in a humorous yet informative manner.

While there are numerous marriage books to choose from, this book is different because it examines the childhood role models and learning patterns that affect us in adult marriages. Dr. Leman shares examples of a husband raised by an Overprotective Mother, No-Room-to-Fail Mama, Driven Mother and Disciplining Mother. The fresh look at your husband's parental influence awakens a new awareness for your marriage.

When you read the book, you won't have a new husband by Friday but you will have a new attitude about his behavior and your reactions. It's good information for any marriage, healthy or struggling. And its fun to read!