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5.0 out of 5 stars
An eye-opener, October 5, 2009
This review is from: Have a New Husband by Friday: How to Change His Attitude, Behavior & Communication in 5 Days (Hardcover)
I've always prided myself on not nagging my husband. We've been married more than 20 years, and I sort of thought I wouldn't be teaching my old dog any new tricks. Well, I am just over half way through this book, and he's already learning new tricks (wink). I guess I am really the old dog who is learning the new tricks - regardless, it's working. I am now catching myself asking "why" or repeating what I ask my husband to do. I think I'd been nagging more than I would have thought.
A couple of weeks ago, I asked him two or three times to fix a leaking toilet. After a few days, I called the plumber. It was very minor and fixed in a matter of minutes. My husband saw the paid bill and almost choked at $90 for 10 minutes of work. I didn't say a word until he asked. I then explained that I'd asked him a few times, but figured since he didn't get around to it that he must be very busy, so I called someone. A few days later the ice maker started acting up.... yep, he fixed it the first time I asked. No fussing, no nagging.... just results.
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42 of 44 people found the following review helpful:
3.0 out of 5 stars
Good Information for Any Marriage, September 20, 2009
This review is from: Have a New Husband by Friday: How to Change His Attitude, Behavior & Communication in 5 Days (Hardcover)
When asked to review this book for the publisher Baker-Revell, I saw the title and thought "That's Crazy!" Later I changed my mind and thought it would be fun to review this book. My decision was correct-the book was fun to read!
Dr. Leman writes with humor and understanding as he explains to his female audience How to Have a New Husband by Friday. He is a Christian therapist, father of four daughters and married over 45 years to the same women. He shares this experience with his readers in a humorous yet informative manner.
While there are numerous marriage books to choose from, this book is different because it examines the childhood role models and learning patterns that affect us in adult marriages. Dr. Leman shares examples of a husband raised by an Overprotective Mother, No-Room-to-Fail Mama, Driven Mother and Disciplining Mother. The fresh look at your husband's parental influence awakens a new awareness for your marriage.
When you read the book, you won't have a new husband by Friday but you will have a new attitude about his behavior and your reactions. It's good information for any marriage, healthy or struggling. And its fun to read!
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30 of 32 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars
Disappointing, January 20, 2010
This review is from: Have a New Husband by Friday: How to Change His Attitude, Behavior & Communication in 5 Days (Hardcover)
I was excited about this book and I have a lot of respect for Dr. Leman, but honestly this was a BIG let down for me. If you fit into the male and female stereotypes he describes, this would probably be a helpful book for you. (I guess a lot of people do - they call them stereotypes for a reason.) The Dr. simply told me "You are like this, your man is like this, so do this..." And, by the way, in his book, there is nothing outside the box of these "normal people" except the extremes - abusers, people who are married but secretly gay, etc... I just flat out didn't identify. I am not like the women he describes and my husband isn't like his description of a man either. It was so frustrating I had to keep myself from throwing it at the wall. (This is one reason my husband says he hates these books - he doesn't like "being generalized" and I totally agree after reading this.)
I also got the sense while reading it that Dr. Leman subscribes to an idea that females like to feel superior. He appealed to that as a way of helping me change my behavior so my inferior husband will do what I want. He referred to men being "dumb as dirt" "children" and "like a dog that can be trained". He told women to talk a certain way to them, use body language like turning away to make a point, reward good behavior with sex, etc. And then he said "don't manipulate". Really?? If I did what you told me to that's exactly what I feel like I would be doing. Sorry, but my husband is not dumb. I respect him a lot. He is a good man. He just struggles with my need to be pursued since we are already married. Any advice on that? Sadly, No.
Dr. Leman is right about a few things such as, Men's need to be respected, needed, appreciated, not nagged... But there are MUCH better books out there that address this. "Love and Respect" by Dr. Emmerson Eggerich is one of them.
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