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Have a New Kid by Friday: How to Change Your Child's Attitude, Behavior & Character in 5 Days Hardcover – March 1, 2008

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From the Inside Flap

Today's kids are unionized, and they've got a game plan to drive you up the wall.

But you don't have to let them call the shots.

If you picked up this book, you did so for a reason. You'd like to see a few things--or many--change in your house. Have a New Kid by Friday is a game plan guaranteed to work. All it takes is sticking to some simple strategies--strategies any parent can carry out.

I'll be blunt. You've got a big job to do and a short window in which to do it. If you believe that you are to be in healthy authority over your child, this book is for you. If you don't, put it down right now and buy another.

After you read Have a New Kid by Friday, you'll tell yourself, "I can't wait for my kids to misbehave. I'm ready for them!" I promise.

Let the fun begin. . . .

From the Back Cover

Change your child's behavior--fast!

Want a kid without the attitude? Without the behavior that makes you slink away in the grocery store and pretend you're not the parent? A kid with character who isn't a character? If you're tired of defiant attitudes and power struggles with your little ankle-biters or the disrespectful hormone group, read this book and follow the simple principles, and you'll have a new kid by Friday. Guaranteed!

Have a New Kid by Friday is your 5-day action plan--Monday through Friday--that really works! With his signature wit and commonsense psychology, internationally recognized family expert Dr. Kevin Leman reveals why your kids do what they do and what you can do about it--starting right now.

Anyone can do it. All it takes is you deciding to stand up and take charge. Want a great kid? Want to be a great parent? Then take the 5-day challenge. Someday your kid will thank you for it.

Special Feature: "Ask Dr. Leman"
Gutsy advice on over 100 of the hottest topics for parents, including bedtime battles, lying, argumentative attitudes, sibling rivalry, talking back, and many more.

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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 304 pages
  • Publisher: Revell; Reprinted edition (March 1, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0800719026
  • ISBN-13: 978-0800719029
  • Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 5.7 x 1.1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (417 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #24,980 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Dr. Kevin Leman, an internationally known psychologist, radio and television personality, and speaker, has taught and entertained audiences worldwide with his wit and commonsense psychology. The best-selling and award-winning author has made house calls for hundreds of radio and television programs, including "The View" with Barbara Walters, "The Today Show," "Oprah," CBS's "The Early Show," "Live with Regis Philbin," CNN's "American Morning," and "LIFE Today" with James Robison, and he has served as a contributing family psychologist to "Good Morning America." He is the founder and president of Couples of Promise, an organization designed and committed to helping couples remain happily married. Dr. Leman is also a charter faculty member of He has written over 30 best-selling books about marriage and family issues, including "The Birth Order Book" and "Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage." Dr. Leman and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson. They have five children.

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303 of 315 people found the following review helpful By irish girl on March 8, 2008
Format: Hardcover
This book saved me. What is more embarrassing than your mother-in-law buying you a book on parenting, but I was so desperate I picked it up and read it in 2 nights. I started implementing the ideas immediately and get this....I saw an instant change in my daughter's behavior! I was in this huge battle with her everyday and didn't even see how wrong I was to try and do battle with a 3 year old, but she is so strong-willed and I dug my heels in. I was going about it all wrong. I am so incredibly grateful for this book! I started reading it on Saturday night and saw such a significant change in her behavior by Thursday!! I liked how the book gave very specific and useful techniques and how I didn't ever get mad or angry like I was before. I just needed to refine my skills. I have read Dr. Leman's book, Sheet Music, and now I can say I'm a fan. Sheet music saved my marriage, and this book saved my relationship with my daughter. I would highly recommend it!
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175 of 188 people found the following review helpful By Perils of Pauline on March 23, 2008
Format: Hardcover
My best friend, a Mother of 6 year old twins & a 3 year old couldn't stop talking about how this book, HAVE A NEW KID BY FRIDAY, made her a new Mom and changed her kids behavior. I thought sure, but you don't have teenagers like me. She insisted that I could use some of the strategies and techniques too, so I picked up the book. Dr. Leman has such a firm, lighthearted way of describing his interventions even with teens. I especially liked his simple strategy of "Say it once, Turn your back, & walk away! Now I have more good times with my kids and our family has become so calm and peaceful. What a great attitude change I have seen in my 2 teens. If you want to have more positive relationships with your kids, I highly recommend this book!
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53 of 56 people found the following review helpful By E. Mills on August 20, 2014
Format: Kindle Edition
I don't know, I wasn't as enthralled by this book as most people. I think it is very hard to write a book that pertains to all ages because parenting changes drastically as children get older.

Personally, I can't stand the parenting psychobabble that's out there. The self-esteem movement and the "anything you say or do as a parent will damage them forever" concepts that radiate on parenting blogs and websites today. It has led to households where parents are afraid to parent their child. On a good note, this book is not that. I agree with the author's parenting philosophy. However, I didn't find too many new ideas in the book to help me along. Granted, much of the book and questions in the back are geared towards issues of older children. Mine are 6, 4, and 2.

For example, the "Say it once and walk away" concept is great if you have one child. But when you have multiple children, I'm not going to do this and let the uncooperative child ruin the activities of the others. If I'm trying to get all the children in the car to get to a piano lesson for child A, and child C is being uncooperative, I'm not going to let Child C control the situation by not allowing Child A to go to their piano lesson. Currently, I would just ask again with a consequence to Child C (ie...."You have two minutes to get your shoes on....if you are not in the car you may not bring a toy with you" for example). And it does work temporarily, but I was hoping to hear more ideas or other solutions to situations like this.

I do disagree with the author on some points. One I remember is this often-used philosophy of "if your child throws a tantrum in the store you should leave your cart right there and exit the store." I do not get this AT ALL.
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35 of 38 people found the following review helpful By Erica Anderson on April 17, 2008
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This morning we were in for our usual get up, get dressed, get out the door battle with our nine year old daughter, but I decided to go ahead and get started with the "Say it once, turn your back and walk away" and HOLY COW! It worked. I can't wait to get through the rest of this book.
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52 of 59 people found the following review helpful By CS on March 29, 2012
Format: Perfect Paperback
This book has some good suggestions, and it was interesting and helpful to see which behaviors constitute "mountains" and which are "molehills" that can be more easily dealt with. (As a former high-school teacher I particularly liked the idea of taking a light-hearted approach to eye-rolling.) However, I think some of the advice in this book is questionable. The author does say that some of his suggestions may "make you squirm" when you read them, and I found this to be true. For example, I just can't get on board with locking a child out of the house to teach him or her a lesson -- especially when that child is screaming and crying and clearly distressed by being locked out. Is that good parenting? Not in my opinion. The author stresses that you have to have respect for your children. How does locking them out and consistently turning your back and walking away from them teach respect? If I were the child in such situations, I surely would be feeling less than respected. You don't traumatize a child to get them to act a certain way.

I also don't like the suggestion to start enforcing consequences (such as not allowing your child to have a snack, use the car, etc.) without explaining why these consequences are taking place. The author suggests you just let the child figure it out on his own. For example, if the child always complains about your cooking, you start to serve him only an empty dinner plate until he figures out why. If your child hasn't done a chore when he was supposed to, you say no to absolutely everything he asks for without telling him why. He has to figure it out on his own. The author claims it "works better" this way, but it just seems a little like game playing to me.
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