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Have a New Teenager by Friday: From Mouthy and Moody to Respectful and Responsible in 5 Days Hardcover – September 1, 2011

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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 320 pages
  • Publisher: Revell (September 1, 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0800720210
  • ISBN-13: 978-0800720216
  • Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 5.8 x 1.1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (205 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #39,371 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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From the Back Cover

Do you know this person?

He eats cereal out of a large mixing bowl.

Her bedroom looks like a garbage dump . . . on a good day.

If there were an Academy Award for eye-rolling, he'd win.

She changes outfits three times before breakfast.

Congratulations! You have a teenager in your home.

Life will never quite be the same again (of course, you already know that). But it can be better than you've ever dreamed. In fact, you're just five days away from your teenager asking, "What can I do to help?" Guaranteed!

With his signature wit and commonsense psychology, internationally recognized family expert and New York Times bestselling author Dr. Kevin Leman will help you

gain respect--even admiration--from your teenager
establish healthy boundaries and workable guidelines
communicate with the "whatever" generation
turn selfish behavior around
navigate the critical years with confidence
pack your teenager's bags with what he or she needs for life now and in the future
become the major difference-maker in your teenager's life

With Dr. Leman's instinct and insight, plus an index with gutsy advice on 75 hot-button issues that keep parents up at night, Have a New Teenager by Friday will help you get real results--real fast.

About the Author

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known psychologist, humorist, and New York Times bestselling author of Have a New Kid by Friday. He is author of 36 books, including The Birth Order Book, Have a New Husband by Friday, Have a New You by Friday, and Making Children Mind without Losing Yours. He is former consulting psychologist for Good Morning America and is a frequent guest on national media, including FOX and Friends, The Early Show, and Focus on the Family. He and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson, Arizona. They have five children and two grandchildren.

More About the Author

Dr. Kevin Leman, an internationally known psychologist, radio and television personality, and speaker, has taught and entertained audiences worldwide with his wit and commonsense psychology. The best-selling and award-winning author has made house calls for hundreds of radio and television programs, including "The View" with Barbara Walters, "The Today Show," "Oprah," CBS's "The Early Show," "Live with Regis Philbin," CNN's "American Morning," and "LIFE Today" with James Robison, and he has served as a contributing family psychologist to "Good Morning America." He is the founder and president of Couples of Promise, an organization designed and committed to helping couples remain happily married. Dr. Leman is also a charter faculty member of iQuestions.com. He has written over 30 best-selling books about marriage and family issues, including "The Birth Order Book" and "Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage." Dr. Leman and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson. They have five children.

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I recommend this book for all parents of teenagers.
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He knows all the things your kids will say and do in all kinds of different situations.
I just finished reading this book and look forward to starting all the great advise!
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110 of 118 people found the following review helpful By 1mama3gr8kids on October 28, 2011
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I am only on page 65 (Wednesday chapter) of this 305 page book and already something amazing has happened. I can't even believe it myself and I've spent all afternoon crying, first tears of sorrow and now tears of joy. I followed the instructions for Monday by deciding just how much I was up against, figuring out my parenting style, and developing my plan. Last night I finished Tuesday's chapter (even though last night was Thursday) and this morning reminded myself what I needed to do when the kids got home from school today: Shut my mouth and don't ask questions. If something comes up remain calm, etc., and don't use "why" or "should" in my conversations. When my teenage son called me to tell me he'd missed the bus that takes him home after school I knew it was time to use the new tools Dr. Leman prescribed: Shut up, don't ask questions, stay calm, and don't use "should" or "why" statements. What happened afterwards was amazing.
When I got around to picking up my son I said hello. I did not ask how his day was nor did I ask why he missed the bus. I simply said, "Hi," and left it at that. Usually I ask how their day was and they say, "Good," and that's the end of our conversation 88% of the time aside from, "Do you have any homework?". Today was different, I was not going to do that. I would bite my tongue no matter how difficult it became!
My 12 year old daughter who was in the van, however, DID ask him why he missed the bus. I just listened. I continued to listen even after he stopped talking. Silence. Then suddenly, breaking the long silence, my son began to tell me that he bought a friend lunch today. He wanted me to know in case I would later notice how much was taken from his lunch account and that I might think it was too much for one meal.
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32 of 33 people found the following review helpful By Tootles on September 3, 2011
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First thing I did Sept 1st was to check my kindle and see if my new Leman book had downloaded as I had pre- ordered it. LoVe all the Leman books; always think its not so much about changing the kids, him or now teenagers, its more about changing me and my responses to them. This book is A+ practical, common sense. My favorite part is the A-Z questions/answers at the end.
Quizzing my hubby and friends as to their response to the teenage boy who states "I'm going to drive a Porsche when I get a car"- most, like me responded..."well you better study hard, get a good job etc..." Not my Hubby, his response fell right in line with Dr.Leman's - "great, I'll be your driver and change the oil for you; will you let me take it for a spin some time ?" - no wonder the kids are more chatty with him... I'm as usual learning lots and you will too.
Thanks for keeping it real Dr. Leman!!
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36 of 40 people found the following review helpful By sab001 on September 1, 2011
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My 11 year old daughter didn't want me to buy this book. You see, she knows! She knows that if I do, things will change. Click. Book purchased and delivering to my Kindle reading app. "You didn't!?","I did! And you know what honey? Your days are numbers." She stormed out of the room and I started reading. Yes!

Have a New Teenager by Friday is not a method that will transform your teenager. It is something that will transfer your entire family (including you.)

Each chapter is divided by days (Monday through Friday.) You can really start on any day that you want and it might be very likely that you will see a significant change before Friday. Dr. Leman concludes the book with a top 10 countdown to having a new teenager by Friday.

My favorite part of the book is the "Ask Dr. Leman" section. In it, he discusses the 75 hottest topics parents have asked him.

The index in the back is sorted by topic so that you can quickly refer back to the topic you want to focus in on.

As I close, you need to understand. The book isn't designed to make your teenager miserable. On the contrary, your child (maybe even my child) might surprise you with a "Thank you!"

Enjoy the book! It is a quick read with lasting impacts.
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31 of 37 people found the following review helpful By M Bradley on January 29, 2013
Format: Hardcover
I really enjoyed this book until about halfway through. I agree that for *most* children, teaching them that you will say it once and not argue about it, is helpful in showing them that they can't bait you into argument. I am a therapist, I work with families, and I believe that fostering mutual respect as a foundation for your relationship with your children is imperative. These were the positive points in the book.

However, when I got to the section on pornography, I was appalled. I understand that this author is Christian and that his values will be a large part of his parenting, but shaming a teenager in regards to his sexuality can be detrimental to him in the future. His advice to parents regarding what they should say to a male teen who has been "caught" looking at pornography is this: "'I have to tell you the truth. I really thought you were above that. Now I see clearly that isn't true-you're not above that. And I'm greatly disappointed.'"(p.251) Shaming a child of any age for their COMPLETELY NORMAL biological feelings will result only in a sexually maladjusted adult.

Dr.Leman also adds these tidbits, "Pornography is one of the most highly addictive bahaviors that anyone can engage in. Personally, I think it has the strength of the addictive powers of crack cocaine." (p.251) FALSE. And, "A kid who is most likely to visit porn sites in great regularity is usually the teenager who feels inept in relationships with the opposite sex." (p.251) While it is probably true that the kid "most likely" to be looking at pornography is one who doesn't yet have a functional relationship with the opposite sex, but let's be honest, what teen male does?

Teens are just discovering all these new feelings about this crazy thing called SEX.
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