If I Have to Tell You One More Time. . .: The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids To Listen Without Nagging, Reminding, or Yelling [Hardcover]

Amy McCready (Author)

Book Description

Release date: August 4, 2011

Put an end to painful power struggles with your children!

Why is it so difficult sometimes to get kids to listen? You ask your child to turn off the TV, do her homework, or get ready for school or bedtime. You know he heard you, but he ignores you. You ask again and still...no response. You've tried everything-time-outs, nagging, counting to three-and nothing seems to work.

In If I Have to Tell You One More Time..., founder of the popular online parenting course Positive Parenting Solutions Amy McCready presents a nag- and scream-free program for compassionately, yet effectively, correcting your children's bad behavior.

In this invaluable book, McCready shows parents how an understanding of the psychological theory espoused by Alfred Adler (1870-1937) can put an end to power struggles in their households. Adlerian psychology focuses on the central idea that every human being has a basic need to feel powerful-with children being no exception to the rule. And when this need isn't met in positive ways, kids will resort to negative methods, which often result in some of the most frustrating behavior they exhibit. If I Have to Tell You One More Time... provides the knowledge and tools parents need to address the deeper issues that inspire their children to misbehave. Read this book and rediscover the joy of parenting!

Editorial Reviews

Review

“A must read! If I Have to Tell You One More Time delivers practical, step-by-step tools for well-behaved kids and happy families.”
—Dr. Michele Borba, author of The Big Book of Parenting Solutions and Today show contributor

 

“I’ve always said that if parents do their job right, they eventually work themselves out of a job. Finally: the tools we all need to achieve ‘parental unemployment.’ And best of all, you never have to get mad.”
—Wendy L. Walsh, Ph.D., human behavior expert on CNN, cohost of The Doctors, and mother of two

 

“Packed with clear direction—including really practical tips and simple strategies—for how to put an end to whining, tantrums, battles, and all the rest, this book will be a giant relief for parents who want to bring out the best in their kids.”
—Dr. Christine Carter, author of Raising Happiness

“Spoken like a real mom. This revolutionary program will help any parent address any problem . . . with calm.”
—Hal E. Runkel, author of ScreamFree Parenting --This text refers to the Paperback edition.

About the Author

Amy McCready reaches a worldwide audience with her online Positive Parenting Solutions courses and webinars as well as regular television and radio appearances, including NBC’s Today show, Rachael Ray, MSNBC’s Dr. Nancy, Fox & Friends, CNN’s Headline News, and Parenting with Ann Pleshette Murphy for ABC News NOW. A regular parenting contributor to the Today Moms blog, she lives with her husband and two teenage boys in Raleigh, North Carolina.

--This text refers to the Paperback edition.

Product Details

• Hardcover: 320 pages
• Publisher: Tarcher (August 4, 2011)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1585428647
• ISBN-13: 978-1585428649
• Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 1.1 x 8.3 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (54 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #211,868 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Parenting expert Amy McCready is a "recovering yeller" and the Founder of Positive Parenting Solutions. She is a champion of positive parenting techniques for happier families and well-behaved kids. Her Toolbox strategies have empowered tens of thousands of parents to correct their kids' misbehaviors without nagging, reminding or yelling.

Amy reaches a worldwide audience with her Positive Parenting Solutions Online parenting course, live webinars, and media appearances. Amy is a frequent guest on the TODAY Show and has also appeared on Rachael Ray, CNN, Fox & Friends, MSNBC, and elsewhere.

Amy is a sought after keynote speaker, writer, parenting coach and corporate spokesperson. In her most important role, she plays mom to two teenage boys. She has been married to her husband, Dave, for over 20 years and lives in Raleigh, North Carolina. You can learn more at www.amymccready (dot) com or www.positiveparentingsolutions (dot) com.

Follow Amy McCready on Facebook at www.facebook.com/PositiveParentingSolutions and on Twitter at twitter.com/AmyMcCreadyPPS

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

36 of 38 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Yes, Parents, You Actually Have to Parent! September 5, 2011

By Natalie

Format:Hardcover|Amazon Verified Purchase

I have a 4-year-old toddler, who is pretty good and obedient most of the time, but I could not for the life of me get her to clean up her toys. I found myself raising my voice and using threats over this issue, so when I saw the title of this book, it immediately drew my attention. And after reading this book, I learned that it wasn't so much "what" I did but 'how" I did it. I would take away her toys as a logical consequence for not cleaning up (which the book supports) but until I read this book, I couldn't see why that consequence alone didn't work (this is just one example of what I learned).

I've read several parenting books (The Happiest Toddler on the Block, 1-2-3 Magic, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and LIsten So Kids Will Talk...). I learned a lot from those books, but If I Have to Tell You One More Time is hands-down the best. McCready shows you how to eliminate the root of the misbehaviors. I would call it a misbehavior prevention program where there are a lot of empowering of kids, training of kids, giving consequences (not punishments) to kids, etc... The book isn't overly stuffed with psychological babble, but instead has clear, direct instructions and examples of how parents should implement the tools. I also love how McCready empathizes with the parents and then empowers them. There were some things I didn't agree with and some things I wish McCready would have addressed like hitting, lying, stealing, etc. especially because she doesn't believe in "punishing" kids. But overall, it is an excellent book that every parent should read.

And yes, parents, you actually have to parent. And it's hard (it's supposed to be!). It annoys the daylights out of me when parents blame their kids for the misbehaviors, (it's their personality, it's just a "phase" they're going through, they just won't listen, etc). So, if you're not willing to change, put in some hard work, or make your children your TOP priority, then this book isn't for you (or any parenting book for that matter).

This book is for parents of toddlers to teenagers. If you have kids younger than 2, I would suggest reading The Happiest Toddler on the Block which gives great tools for disciplining those little ones. I would also recommend having your spouse and caregivers of your children read this book so everyone is on the same page.

15 of 16 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Unlike any other parenting book - a must read for all parents! August 4, 2011

By MomofTwo

Format:Hardcover

As a busy mom of two girls, this book is an absolute life-saver. It turns out many of my intuitive reactions to correct my kids' misbehaviors were actually making the problems worse - and this book draws on Adlerian Psychology principles to explain why.

I love the author's approach to discipline - it's all about empowering your kids, not shaming or blaming them. McCready makes an important distinction between discipline and punishment - the word discipline comes from the root disciple, which means to teach or to train. That was just one of many "a ha" moments in this book. It seems so simple - but so many parents just punish their kids for misbehavior without teaching the child to actually make better choices in the future.

Unlike the majority of parenting books out there, this one goes beyond just theory and advice, with an actual "toolbox" that arms parents with proven, effective, and respectful tools that REALLY work. I am so grateful to have this book- it's made a difference in the short term and I have no doubt the long-term impact on my girls will be even greater. I now know I'm raising them to be self-reliant, confident people who know how to make good choices.

20 of 23 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Are you looking for an "A-HA" parenting moment? August 16, 2011

By Robert J. Stolz

Format:Hardcover|Amazon Verified Purchase

I pre-ordered this book because a friend of mine recommended Amy's parenting online training. I decided to read her book to see if the online training was something I would be interested in investing in. Well, I've already signed up! So worth it!

I started reading the book when it arrived a couple of weeks ago, and literally had "a-ha" parenting insights throughout every chapter.

I have 3 children all under the age of 7 and this summer has been a very trying/tiring parental challenge with boredom and lack of structure feeding into sibling fights, back talk, sleep struggles, general aggression, etc. But I feel invigorated now due to Amy's no-nonsense and clear instruction! I'm no longer counting down the days until school re-starts! As an example, all 3 went to bed last night without one single power struggle or wake-up!

So ... I highly recommend this book!