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Hazards of Being Male: Surviving the Myth of Masculine Privilege Mass Market Paperback – January 1, 1995


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Product Details

  • Mass Market Paperback: 195 pages
  • Publisher: Signet; Tenth Anniversary edition (January 1, 1995)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0451163893
  • ISBN-13: 978-0451163899
  • Product Dimensions: 6.9 x 4.2 x 0.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 3.2 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (14 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #563,404 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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"A provocative and perceptive book...a book that defines a new course for males in human growth and self-liberation...a book that cares about men as men." --Los Angeles Times
"Dr. Goldberg helps today's male face the denied feelings, self-guilt and false bravado which are destroying him. A vital book--not just for men, but also for the women who love them." --Psychology Today
"This book is jarring in its validity. There is not a single false note!" -- --West Coast Review of Books --West Coast Review of Books

"This book is jarring in its validity. There is not a single false note!" ----West Coast Review of Books

"Dr. Goldberg helps today's male face the denied feelings, self-guilt and false bravado which are destroying him. A vital book--not just for men, but also for the women who love them." --Psychology Today --This text refers to the Paperback edition.

About the Author

Dr. Herb Goldberg, a practicing Los Angeles psychologist and professor emeritus at California State University, has written about the psychological dynamics of gender and relationships since the 1970 s. Using a psychodynamic perspective, he developed a theory of polarized gender defenses to make sense of the inexplicable in gender behavior. The Hazards of Being Male, an international best seller, was the first in a series of popular works on the subject that included The New Male, The New Male Female Relationship, The Inner Male, What Men Really Want, and the recent What Men Still Don t Know About Women, Relationships and Love. Understanding the unconscious elements of gender, Herb Goldberg believes, is a golden key for unlocking the mysteries of life s experiences, and he continues to dedicate his career and his prodigious energies to that pursuit. --This text refers to the Paperback edition.

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I'm so glad I found it in a library book sale.
Lauren Marie Owen
This book is invaluable because it makes the need for this necessary change crystal clear.
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Male/female relationships are some of the most profound, and most confounding.
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14 of 16 people found the following review helpful By Lauren Marie Owen on October 24, 2007
Format: Paperback
A must-read for men! So many of my male friends dislike feminism. Why? Because of the way feminism is taught. When I went to college 4 years ago, men were consistently shown how unfairly privileged they were; that they had a multitude of extra privileges as males. Then they were told to "acknowlege" these priveleges - aka - feel consistently guilty about them.
All I wanted was for them to acknowlege that women were to be seen as equal. These friends who are seemingly put off by feminism, do in fact make that acknowlegement. But I knew we had an acknowlegement to make, as well. They might have had an even tougher time growing up in our society. And this rigid upbringing might actually prevent them from truly seeing women as equals. For instance: men are rigidly trained never to hit a woman. Why? Because she is a delicate flower that he could easily crush. In truth, people should not hit anyone, and if they must, only in self-defense (not just ego defense). The perpetuating of the "delicate flower" myth (yes, myth, because some women are boxing champions) hurts women as well as men. Just as women are typecast as sex-symbols, this book deals with the typecasts of men; as money-maker, or protector/defender (which encourages his violence, rather than more peaceful strategies or show of emotion). It also talks about homophobia and inability to cry or act feminine; destroying the wholeness of a man's person.
Unfortunately, until now, I could never adequately express this perspective: that both genders were struggling against suffocating traditions.
I am a 25 year old woman, and yet this book, written eight years before I was born, is still every bit as accurate as it was in its heyday. I'm so glad I found it in a library book sale. I almost wish they still had it on the shelf for future generations of men and women to read.
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27 of 34 people found the following review helpful By Gregory Naylor on August 30, 2001
Format: Paperback
I came across a copy of this book waiting to be picked up by the trashmen. I read it and passed it around to all of my male friends. It is amazing both that despite the age of the book it still rings so true, and that every girl girl who so much as saw the cover, instantly denounced it as sexist filth, thereby proving the need for this work as a part of the lives of American men.
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17 of 21 people found the following review helpful By Ranadip Mitra on June 14, 2000
Format: Mass Market Paperback
I read this book as part of a optional book review for one of my Sexual Psychology class.This book is truly a masterpiece. It deals with real problems gripping real men even as we enter the 21st Century. It shows where we men differ from women and even among ourselves.This book is a must read for those (men and women)who wants to explore men's behavioral psychology.
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33 of 43 people found the following review helpful By Carmen Matthews on November 29, 2002
Format: Paperback
This is a wonderful book for both men and women to read, to get more out of our lives. And read it more than once, because by the time you finish you will want to step back into the world of the scenarios described in this book, to travel further along your ability to appreciate humanity.
When we keep in mind the message from William James, "Sow a thought; reap an action. Sow an action; reap a habit. Sow a set of habits; reap a character. Sow a character; reap your destiny," as we read a book like "The Hazards of Being Male," we will have many "Oh yeah's. That explains it."
This book also helps men to be men, while they face their authentic selves.
Without the right to feel; have a male friend; share financial responsibility with women; participate as involved, playful fathers; no longer be self-destructive; and no longer harbor extreme guilt, traditionally thinking men, that is most men, are not living the life that they deserve to live.
"The male has paid a heavy price for his masculine, 'privilege' and power. He is out of touch with his emotions and his body." - Herb Goldberg, Ph.D.
Their reality is always approached through veils of gender expectations.
Men's problems are not changed by legislation, because they have no clearly defined targets against which they can vent their rage. Men will not strongly improve their lives until they experience their underlying rage toward the endless, impossible binds under which they live, which is defined by their role to be all things to all people. This includes guilt and self-denial.
So many men are tired, and are forever close to just throwing in the towel, but they haven't thrown in the towel, because they simultaneously harbor guilt, love, and fear of being lonely.
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9 of 11 people found the following review helpful By Mark Twain on April 11, 2006
Format: Paperback
I can only agree with the other reviewers. I don't know how much more I can add except to say that this book profoundly changed the way I view myself and the other men in my life. Reading this book helped me to understand my father in a way I never did before and resolved a great deal of the tension between us. I cannot praise this book highly enough. There are a few places in the book where it is clear that it was written 30 years ago but they are few and far between. It is highly relevant to males AND females who are trying to understand them.
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10 of 13 people found the following review helpful By Bernard Chapin on January 13, 2006
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This book was a total surprise for me. I never heard of it before seeing it advertised along the sidebar of angryharry. I figured that it would be a political discussion of what transpired to the relations between men and women in the sixties. Instead, it is a fairly amazing psychological interpretation of the role males have in our society. The Hazards... was re-released in 2000 but was originally penned in 1976. There are two things amazing about the date of its initial release:

1. What Goldberg argued so long ago remains applicable today (aside from his slightly non-topical observation that autism is a form of schizophrenia).

2. The guts that it took for this guy to say the things he did back in those "everything men do is oppressive" days. I really am astonished that an academic took such a stance and wish there were more Herb Goldbergs in our universities today.

The idea that man searches for a special, unique Earth Mother is nothing short of brilliant. I marked that chapter up thoroughly with red ink. Also, the way he dissects modern marriage and divorce, specifically in light of male reactions to the crises, is highly astute. Unlike many authors, Goldberg actually has the foresight to provide recommendations alongside his analysis. He refers to these as "Guidelines." I think that you'll probably agree with me that The Hazards... has a revolutionary feel to it which has not been greatly diminished by the passage of time. It is up to all of us to live up to his scholarly, courageous example in the present day.
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