Customer Reviews

He Comes Next

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That's what the author calls himself and his voice is really honest and friendly. I loved this book because it was focused on the male mind and had some really new things to say about the male body. Just when you think you've known everything there is to know about the penis, Kerner gives you some really new things to think about. Most of all he makes you feel really confident and I've already put some of the techniques into action. I also emailed him with a question and he emailed me right back!!!! I guess he really is my friendly neighborhood sex therapist, even though I live in Portlan and he lives in New York.

This wasn't what I was expecting, but turned out to be so much more intense and interesting. If what you're looking for is a bunch of tips there are plenty of other books that will give you that like Lou Paget and the other sexperts. This is really a look inside the male mind and how they approach sex and where their fantasies and fears come from and that great sex is more than knowing how to perform oral sex. It's easy to think from She Comes First that that's what this book is going to be about, but really it's just a small piece of a bigger idea. The book is a little dense in places, but it's also really friendly and I think it's unique to hear a guy talk so openly about what's really going inside a guy's head when it comes to sex.

I think of myself as a thinking woman, so the title hooked me. The book is definitely long on male psychology and issues affecting male desire and less focused on techniques. It's nothing like a magazine article. But there's so much great stuff in here, and the thing I love most is that the book is really feminist and inspiring. It's not just focused on giving pleasure, but also on receiving. I would have liked some more techniques personally, but after She Comes First and He Comes NExt, maybe we can look forward to We Come Together.

I got "she comes first" for my husband 3 weeks before I bought this book. She comes first is one of the best book purchases ever. Based on that, I bought this book. It has some good info on the psychological side of a man's sexual needs, and a few tips and techniques for women. It was a little dry, and I felt the focus kept coming back to me, the woman. It is a very nonjudgmental book, and is very reassuring. It does not expect some amazing bedroom act, rather it shows you how your own emotional tendencies are found in him, and how to satisfy them. It is a simple book with simple techniques that are extremely effective. I WOULD RECCOMEND THIS BOOK, AND IT'S EVEN BETTER IF YOU GET "SHE COMES FIRST" WITH IT. My husband has turned into a different person since this book, and I am loving it.

I bought this book because other reviews stated that it was well written. I mainly bought it for fun (fairly clean) reading. However, it was incredibly insightful. I honestly didn't think I would learn anything, and thought this might be similar to an article featured in Cosmo Magazine, etc. Much to my surprise, I actually did learn a few things about men, and why they are, the way they are. (Or why their body reacts in certain ways.)

Overall, very insightful, clean, well written. If you want a good laugh, an interesting read, and are willing to put down your guard and learn a few things about men you never realized you didn't know, then this is the book for you !!

Definitely lots of great ideas in here about how to please a guy without making you feel like have to do it hanging from the chandeliers. The first part reads super well and is really stimulating, and there are lots of techniques in part 2. But I'm definitely a reader who had a hard time visualizing some of the routines and I wish there were more precise illustrations. Some things are better not left to the imagination.

As a woman known to walk the aisles of bookstores, amused by the endless self-help sex books, I found this book to be utterly refreshing. In my humble opinion, great sex is not found in the pages of the Kama Sutra, in a hundred different sexual positions or in the guidance of former porn stars. But this remarkable book somehow captures the essence of being spectacularly sexual, inherently erotic and madly in love with your partner. I hope that women stop to realize just how important sexuality is to men (and should be to them). If you want to start researching the subject, this book is where you should start. Ian's wife is a LUCKY woman.
- Samantha, 43

I picked this book up on a whim and read it cover to cover without putting it down. The author truly "has a handle" on how to please a man. He is straightforward and provides easy to understand instruction. I would recommend this book to anyone. I was amazed at what I learned and just applying a few of the techniques in this book will maximize your and your partner's experience.

When I saw that this book would be Ian's next piece I was almost positive that it would be just as good as his first masterpiece, "She Comes First". Lo and behold, I was right.

The book follows the same format as its predecessor and offers up lots of valuable information and lots of facts of which I was amazed to discover. There's talk about techniques but it does not go over board and it's written about in a very tasteful manor unlike many other books focusing on the same topics.

After being moved by "She Comes First" this book is anything short of being a must read for any woman. There's so much both females and males are inherently expected to know concerning relationships and this book helps move through some of the most common issues and questions one might be faced with in today's complex society.

In short this book is an informative and insightful piece of literature that's sure to be helpful in more ways than one.

I read She Comes First by the same author before I read this one which was just as educational for me as it is for a man. That being said, He Comes Next was quite a learning experience! While I am good at "it", there's always room for improvement in whatever you're doing and reading this book cemented that belief. It helped me understand how a man thinks and why and how he feels (not so different from us ladies) about sensitive issues. I expected the book to be primarily about learning to give a better oral sex like She Comes First is, but I was pleasantly surprised to find that there was much more to it than that. I did, however, appreciate the education I got about oral sex. I certainly hope to satisfy my partner better now-emotionally and physically.