How to Heal the Hurt by Hating [Paperback]

Anita Liberty (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: September 8, 1998

"I wish we were back together for just one night . . .

so I could push you out of my loftbed while you were sleeping."

Satirical and sharp, downtown New York City performance artist Anita Liberty reinvents self-help as she skewers her ex-boyfriend in this hilarious, hip, and audaciously candid collection of advice, poems, and diary entries.

"I thought you were a gifted and tortured artist.

I was wrong.

About the gifted part.

Oh.

And the artist part."

From romantic bliss to brutal breakup, from heartache to healing, this fierce, funny, and ultimately liberating homage to being "dumped" rips off the stiff upper lip in favor of a red-hot therapy of wit, wisdom, rage, and redemption. And now, a few words from Anita Liberty . . .

"COMPROMISE--

Lowering my standards.

So you can meet them."

"You're a bad habit.

I want to kick you.

Hard."

Inclues free postcards to send to that special someone!

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher

This book is absolutely priceless! In a time when people are finding it difficult to find, be in, or end relationships, Anita Liberty's humor is just the right medicine. She takes you on the rollercoaster of emotions that are experienced when you are "dumped." She says things that (almost) all of us have thought. And she adds a lot of humour. Everyone should pick up this book. It makes you realize you're not alone, and it really makes you laugh!

From the Inside Flap

"I wish we were back together for just one night . . .

so I could push you out of my loftbed while you were sleeping."

Satirical and sharp, downtown New York City performance artist Anita Liberty reinvents self-help as she skewers her ex-boyfriend in this hilarious, hip, and audaciously candid collection of advice, poems, and diary entries.

"I thought you were a gifted and tortured artist.

I was wrong.

About the gifted part.

Oh.

And the artist part."

From romantic bliss to brutal breakup, from heartache to healing, this fierce, funny, and ultimately liberating homage to being "dumped" rips off the stiff upper lip in favor of a red-hot therapy of wit, wisdom, rage, and redemption. And now, a few words from Anita Liberty . . .

"COMPROMISE--

Lowering my standards.

So you can meet them."

"You're a bad habit.

I want to kick you.

Hard."

Inclues free postcards to send to that special someone!

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Product Details

• Paperback: 160 pages
• Publisher: Ballantine Books; 1 edition (September 8, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0345423747
• ISBN-13: 978-0345423740
• Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.4 x 8.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 5.9 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (43 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,200,194 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

I am Anita Liberty. I am the author of THE CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE (YEP, THAT WOULD BE ME), HOW TO HEAL THE HURT BY HATING and HOW TO STAY BITTER THROUGH THE HAPPIEST TIMES OF YOUR LIFE. They are good books. They are funny. I'm a good writer. I am funny. (I'm working on my personal affirmations') Oh and ALSO... I am Suzanne Weber and I have a new book coming out in April, 2012 called TO WHAT MISERABLE WRETCHES HAVE I BEEN BORN? Revenge Poetry for Babies and Toddlers. Pre-order it now please thank you.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

18 of 21 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars wake up people! It's only comedy, June 20, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: How to Heal the Hurt by Hating (Paperback)

These reviews are either wonderful or awful. The purpose of this book is to take *dumped* feelings to the extreme-hence, the humor. Why is that so hard for some people to take? The inclusion of the word "feminist" in one of the criticisms shows the complete lack of understanding, particularly on the part of (some) people. There are many women out there that are jerks too, do you think that Anita is unaware of that? Do you fault your friends or YOURSELF when they get involved with people who later turn out to be jerks? I think not. But by telling women "just quit becoming involved with bad men" or "every woman I know who has read this book and enjoyed it has only bad relationships" you are totally blaming the person who was most injured by the situation. I think that most people would prefer to be involved in happy, healthy relationships, and most are shocked when this turns out not to be so. I said MOST. Anger is a normal part of the grieving process. This book is a helpful tool for women (or men!) to get their butts in gear and feel better after suffering a massive hit to their egos. What's so horrible about that? Why is justified anger in the face of bad treatment so difficult for you to take?

6 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Better than chocolate, April 13, 2000

By 

Janice Maloney (Northern California) - See all my reviews

This review is from: How to Heal the Hurt by Hating (Paperback)

I read this book when it first came out and I've been dipping back into it regularly for years. I've given it to friends going through hard breakups and friends who are blissed out in love. The response is always the same: "What a great book!" It's not just that it is wickedly funny, which it is, but I also found it to be comforting, insightful and powerful. I think all too often it's easy, or safer, for women to mask anger with depression. Anita Liberty lives out loud, and in the process, she tells a hell of a joke.

3 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars who is anita liberty and what is her mission in life?, January 30, 2001

By A Customer

This review is from: How to Heal the Hurt by Hating (Paperback)

hello, all you 102:11 readers. if you've gotten this far, you'll notice that no one else knows that anita liberty is a character invented (as in created and performed) by the author. give the book a second read--it's much more fun if you know what's really going on. suzanne weber will thank you for it.