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How to Heal a Painful Relationship and If Necessary How to Part As Friends

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This book is truly changing my life! We may not realize, until reading this book, how many painful relationships we have (work, family, significant other, etc.), how much of that pain we either create or return, how many expectations we have of others, and how much we try to change others to suit our "shoulds". More importantly, we also don't realize how much healing power we have within us to greatly improve these same relationships! Mr. Ferguson gives us big hope, and then makes that hope tangible by teaching very practical, logical, sensible ways that we can change ourselves to change our relationships. Thank you, Mr. Ferguson, for giving me the hope and the tools to allow my heart to love others as I've wanted to for so long.

Mr. Ferguson is truely a God-send. The information in this book should be mandatory reading for all married couples whether they are considering divorce or not. Even singles would benefit from the information in this book. Many people trapped in the cycle of conflict with there life are not even aware where the problem is. This book gives us insight and points us in the right direction. Thank you Mr. Ferguson.

My ex-boyfriend cheated on me before. But I somehow forgave him and stayed with him while he lost his career during this bad economy. I loved him, but I always had this feeling that he would cheat on me again, I always had to deal with this unthinkable anxiety and negative feeling about his faithfulness even after having his promise not to cheat on me again.

I bought my Kindle recently, and I was browsing through the Kindle store just to see what was available, and I came across with this book. I had to admit it; I knew I was in a painful relationship with all the anxiety and worry. I bought the book, and I took memo as I read. At the end, I was a different person. I decided to let my relationship go although I loved him more than anything. I realized that it was not healthy at all for me or him after reviewing my situation as I read this book.

I finished reading this book yesterday, and I became a single woman today.

I am a mental health counselor and have the opportunity to work with couples as well. I would recommend this book to any couple, whether the relationship is in trouble or not. The author has a unique approach in explaining what we are all looking for (love, respect, acceptance) and how we are all responsible for the behavior in ourselves and others. The examples and suggestions are most helpful. This book is easy to read and has plenty of "exercises" for the reader. I would definitely put this on my gift list for clients, family, and friends.

This is a great book that taught me how to let go. I'm going through a difficult separation process right now and it has given me the strength and the insights to let go and find my peace of mind. The book is not written with a lot of psychology wordiness but rather straight to the point with simple language that anyone can understand...

I would recommend this book to anyone who is going through a separation or divorce in their marriage.

I just wish I had found this book 6 months ago. I might have saved my marriage (she filed for divorce). At least I would have had a chance to save it. As it is I'm just waiting for the divorce to become final. I still love my wife dearly, and the end is near. If I had found this book in time I'm sure we would be happily married now instead of the impending alternate.

The book was recommended to me by a recent ex-boyfriend of mine and upon reading it, my emotions regarding our breakup were changed completely. I had pretty much suffered a bit of a nervous breakdown, started going to therapy, and still felt horrible. Then I ordered this book. I read each chapter, making sure I really absorbed what the author was saying. The book is repetitious, in that certain ideas are mentioned over and over- but that is why it was such a success with me. Changing one's views and emotions about relationships is a difficult undertaking. The succinct, simple delivery methods of Bill Ferguson were much appreciated. This is a self help book that truly worked for me. You have to actively participate, and make it a part of your life. I made sure I was honest with myself when I thought about the things he discussed. You have to be true to yourself. I would highly recommend this book to family and friends going through a difficult time with a partner. I believe it can change lives, because it changed mine.

How To Heal A Painful Relationship (And If Necesary, Part As Friends) by Bill Ferguson Hailed as the most innovative and profound book of its kind, this book is simple to read and gives straight forward steps to take to heal any kind of relationship. Ferguson, formerly a divorce attorney, has guided thousands of couples through the minefield of difficult relationships, and the principles he teaches in this book are good practices and solutions for any kind of broken relationship. He discusses what creates and what destroys love, how to end the cycle of conflict, how to heal hurt feelings, how to rid the relationship and each person of guilt and anger and resentment. He shows how to resolve disputes and restore love and trust. This book is a priceless guide for anyone in conflict with another and could be the guide that saves your relationship or your life

Please read this book. To say this is the most important book I've ever read after the Bible is an understatement. I cannot strongly enough express my heartfelt recommendation for these simple, elegantly written, true words of how to place hope and faith in action. This book will give you insight, perhaps not the kind you're expecting; in fact, it's not what you're expecting.

That is what makes this message unlike any other. Seriously, it is all true, based on our (wife) life changing relationship experience this book inspired. Bill's book saved a marriage of 20 years. [also help from his brother Randy Ferguson - LCAProject.com] Nothing I've done or read has been more transformational than this work. Enough said.

This is a well-written and insightful book on relationships and how they relate to the individual. In fact, your relationships truly ARE all about YOU. The author dispells the theory that relationships are 50/50. I never thought of it quite this way, but as he points out they are truly 100/100. Both persons are FULLY responsible for what happens in a relationship. It is all about actions and reactions. You can apply the concepts in this book to intimate relationships as well as working relationships...whatever... Anytime two people interact you have a relationship.

One caveat is that you may find yourself thinking that there is a bit of repetition of the same ideas in the book. Well, there are repetitions. However, they are useful and the repetition is not excessive.

Even if you are in a fabulous relationship/marriage, you owe it to yourself to read this book. It is relatively short and is a quick read. Most of the concepts in the book are nothing new, but the presentation forces you to really think it through. I suspect that you will find yourself thinking "I never really thought of it exactly like that before" quite a few times as you read.

Easy read, well written, good concepts, buy the book!

RHB