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Heal Your Heartbreak: How to Live and Love Again

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After I was dumped by the love of my life I read almost every book on the subject, but this book cuts it...It's about you, life and love.

Actually I didn't find out about this book a year after the break up. I wish I had known about this book earlier. Why ? Because it stops making you think about yourself as being the victim and shows you hów to take responsibility by discussing whý you are responsible.

At the same time it does not try to make you feel guilty; Spezzano has a whole philosophy about guilt and its function.

The book has a Buddhist perspective that is there in an implicit way, you will only notice it if you read about Buddhism.

The bottom line is really that this book is so powerful because it is able to heal through words of wisdom that create insight about you, and makes your mind calm...finally... so you can take some loving action.

_Heal Your Heartbreak_ by Chuck Spezzano is one of the best self-help books I've ever read. Spezzano's approach is psycological, spiritual and practical. Not only does he provide an in-depth analysis of our disappointments, heartbreaks, and broken relationships but he also includes excellent healing exercizes at the end of each chapter. I have been recommending this book to friends, and anyone else who might benefit from it. It's a must read, and should be listed as a requirement for anyone interested in improving their relationships and living a fuller life.

I can't even begin to share with you how much this book has opened my mind and my heart to a new understanding. I am a little half-way through the book and I have already had many incredible breakthroughs! I have been dealing with so much "stuff" in my life and Chuck Spezzano's timeless wisdom has really brought me much peace and prespective. I highly recommend this book.

OK, so I read the reviews and bought this book. It is very new-age writing; memories from the womb, miscarriages and stillbirths to amend lost souls. It is very far out. And the author mandates all bad things that happen in a relationship are the fault of the heartbroken person. We all need to accept responsibility for our actions but this takes it too far. According to this author, all things bad in a relationship are the responsiblity of the hurt person. I read it twice, looking for a bit of advice and comfort and ended up almost laughing. Save your money!

I purchased this book, thinking that it was going to give me some good advice on how to get over a painful break-up. It gave advice, and only good if you desire 'tough love' tactics.

While I do accept Spezanno's idea that we are responsible for how we feel...he takes that too far and essentially has you blaming yourself for everything that happens to you. Sorry...I don't buy that at all. I can't see how a partner could accept responsiblity for being unfaithful, or how you are responsible if your partner just doesn't want to communicate at all. There is only so much one can take responsibility for in any relationship, and I felt strongly that Spezanno expected the reader to blame themself for their heartbreak. Sorry...difficult to do in any situation.

Anything by Dr. Phil would be better than this. Dr. Phil may be tough, but he recognizes there are two sides to every story.

I have read all the reviews listed here, in addition to having worked with this book and the Psychology of Dr. Spezzano. What the negative reviewers may not understand is that, like it or not, this book describes how the mind works. As a Doctor of Psychology who has been in practice for over 30 years, Spezzano's knowledge of the mind is based on observation and practice. This book is about how the unconscious and subconscious minds work.

Most entertainment based pop-psychology (Dr. Phil) feeds into "moral" and social biases that are not geared toward actual bonded healing, but rather separation, blame and "right and wrong." The approach is to establish boundaries, perpetuating the same fracturing that creates heartbreak in the first place. There is no compassion for the "victimizers" and no accountability for the "victims" and therefore, no real healing takes place.

Dr. Spezzano invites true healing, understanding, forgiveness and letting go, which is the ONLY way to achieve true happiness and peace. This book is about understanding how we are creating our own experiences in life. It helps us to be accountable for our own actions and to find love and forgiveness within that, for ourselves and those around us. It is an extremely enlightened awareness and it integrates every deep layer of our minds' inner workings, encouraging all readers to be the highest potential of ourselves.

This man is a genius!