Healing the Hole in A Heart: One Birthmother's Journey into the Adoption Triangle [Paperback]

Nancy Mac Isaac (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: December 31, 1998

HEALING THE HOLE IN A HEART. One Birthmother's Journey Into the Adoption Triangle 1998 by Nancy Mac Isaac, JD is written to help others find their way through the reunion mine field. Learn how to shift from the mania and exuberance of first contact to a love-filled friendship developed over time. HEALING THE HOLE is a guide to surviving reunion, making adjustments, and building relationships. It helps the reader to face their fears and find friendship. If you or anyone you know is touched by adoption, then this book is just what the doctor ordered. HEALING chronicles how a "childless" high-achiever, Nancy, managed the impacts of reunion on her once normal, professional, and personal life. A life that was irreparably altered by a letter. HEALING THE HOLE offers the reader a series of techniques, exercises, and resources demonstrating the ADJUSTMENTS needed to become a RECOVERED BIRTHPARENT--a fact demonstrated by Nancy finally summoning up the courage to search for and find her daughter's birthfather. It can be a template to follow for those who wish to grow a friendship based in mutual respect and trust.

EXCERPT
January 23, 1989
Dear Journal,
I looked out over a carpet of dark-haired Cubans filling the reception area at Miami International Airport. One blonde fuzzy-haired head stood taller than all the rest. We both wore new perms for the occasion. Her hair is longer than mine, but the genetics are obvious. Her eyes were wide, expectant, delft blue, searching and doubtful.

Something darted through her mind, I could see it on her face, then our eyes met and held. Our reciprocal smiles were automatic; the light in her eyes was almost blinding. Her smile started in the region of her heart and just expanded from there. She beamed. With more than fifty feet to go before I could hold her, I noticed that Janet had not come alone.

I finished the journey of 3000 miles and floated into Janet's arms as she did into mine. She felt so good. Holding her for real was amazing; simply magical.

Journal, HOW do I describe this feeling; a coming home, a completeness? Tears fill my eyes and spill. I never cry. WHAT is this reaction? As I held Janet the world around us was in a haze. I singularly focused on my magnificent daughter while resisting the urge to count her fingers and toes. I'd never seen her as an infant and now we meet when she's twenty-one years old. She is perfect. Journal, what do I do NOW?" --Excerpt: HEALING THE HOLE IN A HEART, Page 64

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About the Author

Nancy "Nan" Mac Isaac, JD is a birthmother and entrepreneur. She is founder and President of Mac Isaac Enterprises, a Del Mar based consulting firm which assists corporations, organizations, executives and individuals with issues related to communication, marketing and team building. Ms Mac Isaac is on the faculty of the University of Phoenix where she conducts graduate and undergraduate courses in Marketing. Ms Mac Isaac was honored with the "Outstanding Instructor of the Year Award for Graduate Business - 1999". Ms. Mac Isaac holds a Bachelor or Arts degree in Social Science from San Diego State University and a Juris Doctorate earned from Thomas Jefferson University School of Law.

Product Details

• Paperback: 346 pages
• Publisher: Mac Isaac Enterprises (December 31, 1998)
• ISBN-10: 0967249902
• ISBN-13: 978-0967249902
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.3 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,788,929 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Good insight!, June 16, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: Healing the Hole in A Heart: One Birthmother's Journey into the Adoption Triangle (Paperback)

In some way, adoption has most likely touched your life. This book offers tremendous insight into the angst of all parties concerned. It is sensitive to the adoption triangle and allows the reader a view from all perspectives. It will definitely inspire the reader to ponder how each person involved is affected by the life-changing event known as adoption. You will want to buy this book and pass it along after you've read it.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Healing the Hole in a Heart, November 5, 2006

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Nancy Goodbar "candybar" (West Virginia) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Healing the Hole in A Heart: One Birthmother's Journey into the Adoption Triangle (Paperback)

This was one of numerous books I read on adoption reunions. I think it would be more meaningful for a reunion of a fairly young adoptee 20-30. In my case I was reunited with my daughter when she was 49. It was good to read about their successful reunion. One important thing I got from the book, that we are doing, is to always set a date for the next visit before the current visit is over. (we live cross country.

4.0 out of 5 stars Healing the hole in a heart, April 10, 2008

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Cynthia A. Buys - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Healing the Hole in A Heart: One Birthmother's Journey into the Adoption Triangle (Paperback)

I enjoyed reading this book because I too am a birth mother recently reunited with my adult daughter. I found the book helpful in communicating with my daughter and understanding the emotions we both are feeling as we get to know each other. Reading this book is helping us with our journey.