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Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse

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I finally decided to invest in a book about emotional abuse after realizing that issues from a past "bad relationship" just weren't going to go away on their own. With its comforting words and frequent anecdotes,"Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse" put many of my old experiences in perspective. I was able to see the "big picture" of how emotional abuse had permeated many aspects of my life, and I was finally able to acknowledge what a lasting effect it had on me. I was also surprised to see how many other people I recognized in the descriptions of emotional abusers and their techniques -- it was an eye-opener. If you have been the victim of emotional abuse (or aren't sure if you have been), you will find this book supportive, if you are an abuser you may find insight into why you abuse, and if you are just an interested reader you may be surprised by how this book changes your perspective on your co-workers, friends, and family. It really is fascinating.

This book is an excellent resource to help a person recognize the difference between criticism and emotional & verbal abuse. Criticism is normally given IN LOVE, there is an enormous difference between criticism & abuse. This book will also help anyone who was previously in an abusive relationship to be able to recognize some of the common traits all emotional abusers and potential emotional abusers exhibit and steer clear of another abusive relationship. I even found instances in my own life where I was the one doing the controlling through emotional abuse & have been able to discontinue that behavior through self examination & prayer. Excellent book!

This book is excellent. I put into words my feelings and helped organize the behaviors of an emotional abuser. I have read serval books on this topic and this one is well written and is easy to follow. It also doesnt always assume the abuser is a man which is seen in so many books of this type. Highly recommended and helpful to an abuser who is willing to honestly look at her or his life and the victims of emotional abuse as well.It also gives some suggestions on how to proceed in the healing process.

This has been such a great book for me. It was such a big eye opener for me. I knew that my life as a child left me scarred, but without any physical signs of abuse I felt that maybe it was all in my head. It was hard to read and realize that the emotional abuse I have suffered still has a great impact on me today. I loved how they spoke of God and seeking Him in your road to recovery. This book is so well written and it's easy to understand. It has identified the different types of abuse and I can see the type I myself have suffered from. Even if you have never suffered emotional abuse I would still recommend this book.

So many of us have grown up in a society where, if abuse is even recognized, it is not considered really damaging unless it is physical or. God forbid, sexual. Not enough emphasis has been placed on how deeply wounding emotional abuse can be on an individual. Sure, the media has sometimes identified cases where severe bullying has wreaked havoc on adolescent development. I cannot think of a book, however, that is more comprehensive on the subject of emotional abuse than Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse. I first saw the book for sale at an Army post exchange. Thumbing through it I later decided to purchase it through Amazon.com. I am really glad I did. It was most informative.
There are four parts in the book:
Part 1 concentrates on understanding emotional abuse from defining it to explaining why it is so common and informing the reader just how damaging it can be.
Part 2 describes types of emotional abuse identifying emotional abuse through words, actions, neglect and even a chapter entitled "Spiritual Abuse: The Bible as Bludgeon." Finding myself living in the Bible Belt of the United States I was naturally drawn to that chapter. I agreed with the author that religion should CONTRIBUTE to an individual's self esteem. The author admitted however that "unfortunately religious faith HAS been used as an abusive weapon in a relationship." This is perhaps the FIRST book I have ever read that dared to admit this. Indeed in my many years employed as a domestic violence social worker I had seen men feeling justified in emotionally, physically and/or sexually abusing their wives because they did not "submit" to them in the way they felt the Bible was directing them to do. This was so sad. God should be seen as a source of true love and enduring comfort not as a creul and punishing diety.
Part 3 describes the many effects of emotional abuse including the effects on sense of self, physical effects and effects on relationships.
Of course my favorite part was Part 4 describing how to overcome emotional abuse by first recognizing your abuse and its effects, getting over the past and living for the future and restoring your self. It was a great help to me in continuing my personal journey to overcome the effects of emotional abuse I endured as a child.
This is a most important book and I would highly recommend it to anyone who has suffered abuse either in their family of origin, their husband or wife, partner or significant others.

Emotional abuse is all-pervasive in our culture, making it difficult for one small volume to address all aspects thereof. Jantz, however, gives a good introduction and lots of encouragement to those in need. I wish someone had given this book to me when I was in Junior High.

When I finally said aloud I was being emotional abused. It was freeing but the reaction I got was shocking. In fact, I was scoffed at because "I was acting like a big baby". Emotional abuse is real and after reading this book, my feelings were validated. For anyone second guessing themselves on what emotional abuse is, feels like, how is effects or behaviors of an abuser. This book reassured me I wasn't a big baby but a victim. I will be a victim no more--the healing has begun.

This book is excellent. I put into words my feelings and helped organize the behaviors of an emotional abuser. I have read serval books on this topic and this one is well written and is easy to follow. It also doesnt always assume the abuser is a man which is seen in so many books of this type. Highly recommended and helpful to an abuser who is willing to honestly look at her or his life and the victims of emotional abuse as well.It also gives some suggestions on how to proceed in the healing process.

Dr. Jantz is a genius when it comes to understanding emotional abuse and how it affects people. He explains why emotional abuse is so common and how these abuses occur. The book is both insightful and affirming, and provides helps for recognizing and healing emotional abuse. I must read!

I read the contents, the description, and the first pages. The preview of the first pages stopped right before the religious bull. I also looked at contents and read a few pages from surprise, and in none of this was there any indication of the religious this guy is selling. I felt somewhat abused, because I bought the book to obtain insight and learn more about emotional abuse, not to listen to the author's platform on his religious views. If I was aware of the content, I could have made a more informed decision. Any rate, seemed very dishonest to me.

Decidedly christian bent, that doesn't speak to other religious beliefs or lack of them.