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1.0 out of 5 stars
For alcoholics only., January 13, 2001
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This review is from: Healing the Wounds of Emotional Abuse (Paperback)
While this author provides great information for those needing guidance on healing wounds due to alcoholism, it provides little more. The title is somewhat misleading; I expected information across the spectrum of "abuse".
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:
2.0 out of 5 stars
Doesn't live up to the title, (but some good observations)., February 24, 2002
This review is from: Healing the Wounds of Emotional Abuse (Paperback)
As I read the 76-page booklet (chapter 1 starts on page 11 and the last chapter is all resources) "Healing the Wounds of Emotional Abuse", I kept waiting for valuable advice and direction on how to do just that. Unfortunately, there was very little practical information to help the adult who was emotionally abused as a child. Benvenga does a good job of explaining what emotional abuse is, describing the difference between abuse and discipline, and identifying children who have been abused. Unfortunately, these insights are not coupled with information to help adults heal the pain of their own abusive childhoods. She also tells some hair-raising tales of abuse from her own childhood, and how as a result she ended up in an abusive relationship, but didn't think to leave. The story jumps to how she went on to be in a good relationship with a wonderful guy, but she doesn't tell you what she did to heal the past and transition into a healthy relationship. She makes the excellent point that there are two vicious cycles to be broken: the abused child must not become an abused nor abusive adult. Unfortunately, information on how to avoid perpetuating these cycles is scant at best. She does provide a chapter of resources one can turn to help heal from an abusive childhood and some advice on how to choose a counselor, but unfortunately, this book in and of itself is not a resource on how to heal the wounds of emotional abuse, other than 10 paragraphs of valuable insight and advice on forgiveness. Benevenga is a religious Catholic who states that turning to God is an indispensable part of our healing journey, and sprinkles her book with quotes from Jesus and the Catholic Church. An entire chapter, 13% of the book, is devoted to religious meditation and prayer, which may or may not match the orientation of the reader. Unfortunately, despite some good observations, resources, and religious inspiration for the religious, the book doesn't live up to its title.
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5.0 out of 5 stars
Excellent brief overview, especially for Catholics, December 21, 2011
This review is from: Healing the Wounds of Emotional Abuse (Paperback)
This book is a wonderful brief overview of emotional abuse and its consequences for the victim as well as the perpetrator. It contains important insights and information on forgiveness that I have found in no other book, and I have read not a few on the same subject. I believe the book does what it sets out to do: help victims to understand what happened to them, and start them on a path to healing and self-restoration. At its length and price, it quite obviously is not holding itself out as an encyclopedic treatise on the subject stated in its title, nor as a be-all, end-all means of healing wounds so grievous and devastating that many years and much work (therapy, counseling, prayer, self-help reading, support groups, etc.) are required in order to fully recover. The author rightly points readers in the direction of additional resources that will help them further the healing process. The negative reviews this book got should be ignored, in my opinion.
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