Healing Your Aloneness: Finding Love and Wholeness Through Your Inner Child [Paperback]

Margaret Paul (Author), Erika J. Chopich (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: July 20, 1990

Erika Chopich and Margaret Paul show how anyone can reconnect with his or her Inner Child to short-circuit self-destructive patterns, resolve fears and conflicts, and build satisfying relationships. Healing Your Aloneness outlines a self-healing process that can be used every day to restore a nurturing balance between loving Adult and loved Inner Child.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"A profound look at the cause of inner pain." SUSAN FORWARD, author of "Toxic Parents"

"This practical and powerful guide to inner healing will be especially useful to anyone at a crossroads, crisis, or change-point in their personal and spiritual growth." HAROLD H. BLOOMFIELD, author of "Making Peace With Your Parents"

"The authors have made an explicit and important break with other child within writers by emphasizing that it is not simply a healthy Inner Child for Inner Parent but a healthy relationship between the two that is the key to personal health.The work is practical, compelling, and very readable." JOHN VASCONCELLOS, California Assemblyman, 23rd District

"A valuable roadmap for healing the child within us." WALTER E. BRACKELMANNS, associate clinical professor of psychiatry, UCLA -- Endorsements

About the Author

Margaret Paul, Ph.D., is a psychotherapist and the coauthor of Free to Love, Do l Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?, From Conflict to Caring, and If You Really Loved Me.

Product Details

• Paperback: 208 pages
• Publisher: HarperOne; 1 edition (July 20, 1990)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0062501496
• ISBN-13: 978-0062501493
• Product Dimensions: 9.2 x 6.2 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (19 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #38,092 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #5 in Books > Self-Help > Inner Child

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

84 of 88 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars I learned to communicate with my daughter and love my self, November 4, 1999

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William G. Dallavo (Molalla, Oregon) - See all my reviews
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I read "Healing Your Aloneness" because my daughter asked me to. She felt it would help me understand the type of therapy she was involed in and give us a common language that might improve the quality of the communication between us. I am so very glad I followed my daughter's lead.

This book taught me the Inner Bonding process in such a beautiful way, with moving stories from the lives of some of the authors'clients. It helped me see that, in responding to my daughter's

wounded Inner Child, I was in "Intent to Protect" my ego instead of "Intent to Learn" about my daughter's pain.

I thought I was helping to heal the gap between us by the things I said to my daughter. But what I learned from the non-judgemental way the authors helped others understand how a "Loving Adult" relates to a wounded "Inner Child" showed me why she stayed distant.

Now, when my daughter talks about her wounded Inner Child, I have the awareness and the tools to let her know I hear her heart. We are not home yet, but the gap is closing. My daughter now knows that she can trust that I love her, that I will "hang in there" with the healing process and that, if she lets me know what her Inner Child needs, I will try my very best to provide it.

"Healing Your Aloneness" gave me another gift. It helped me get in touch with and listen to my own Inner Child. He is seven. His name is "Billy," He, too, has wounds that have not healed. He, too, is angry at me for not listening to him, for not being there. I am continuing to bond with him from my "Loving Adult." He is so bright,so wise, so needy, so capable of joy. I love that little boy and he too is beginning to trust that I do.

I am grateful that the authors have put the Inner Bonding process in a book that is such a joy to read. Reading it has not only helped me have the loving relationship I so wanted with my daughter, it has helped me to love myself.

37 of 38 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars All growth is hard work, March 2, 2005

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C. R. Griffin (Somewhere) - See all my reviews
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All growth is really hard work. This is hard work. I would equate it to the transformation that The Incredible Hulk goes through. The thing is though, it isn't that fast. It takes time and dedication. I've read maybe 30 books and they all have their wisdoms and their truths, but it was this book that put me on the road I needed to be on. Somethings just resonate. This resonated with me, and when I started communicating with the abandoned and hurt child within me, I could for the first time see what had gone wrong and what I needed to do to fix it. I'm not completely there, but I have no doubt that I will.

16 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Must-Read!, December 6, 2007

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Jenna Korf - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Healing Your Aloneness: Finding Love and Wholeness Through Your Inner Child (Paperback)

I picked this book up a few years ago and immediately felt the change. It gave me tools to improve my self-esteem, while also showing me that I've been giving all my power to others. It helped me to realize I needed to look inward to find what I was always searching for. I still go back to this book when I need a reminder and it still hits me. The lessons I've learned from it have stayed with me over the years. This book has played a huge part in my growth process and I highly recommend it!