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Leaves out an important fact
on November 13, 2011
This book is targeted at those who grew up under a legalistic setting. It however never discusses how to integrate Biblical truth into the healing process. The book starts out with an example from Matthew 18. That chapter is about how to deal with offenses. The author didn't use it wrong, and never said anything that was incorrect, but it was what wasn't said that struck me. For example, he left out verse 29 of Matthew 18. It's the verse where the servants fellow servant pleaded for mercy. In that parable they both pleaded for forgiveness over their delinquency. That is what this book does not address. It leaves a gaping hole for liscentiousness. From the perspective of someone who grew up under a legalistic system, it generally doesn't matter to them. But for people like myself, who grew up under a liscentious system, it matters greatly.
The truth is that their healing isn't complete. The Bible talks about making amends towards people you know are offended in you. Until that humility takes place, those the book targets will end up unintentionally hurting those who are looking for safety from the world. Those who were hurt by the world's liscentiousness (ie gossip, slander), will find that the church is no different. It should be different, because it should be peculiar and blameless. The fact that he left out verse 29 of that parable in Matthew 18, says that the author didn't see the importance towards healing.
I would like to suggest a book called "Changes that Heal" by Dr. Henry Cloud. It adds what the author of "Healing for Damaged Emotions" did not recognize. Not only does it talk about all the grace that this author wrote about, but it adds truth into the mix. Truth being our responsibilities for each other. The beginning of Matthew 18, where Jesus points out the horrible experience for those who offend God's children, necessarily means that we have responsibilities towards others. We can't just expect others to forgive us without our seeking it. Notice that the master in the parable in Matthew 18 didn't forgive his servant until after the servant sought forgiveness, and showed that he was remorseful. My concern about this author's book is that it leaves that out. That humility of seeking forgiveness is the final step towards becoming like a child. A child that Jesus pointed to as "unless you become like this little child, you will not see the Kingdom of Heaven". It is important to realize that that is part of Matthew 18 as well.