The Healthy Marriage Handbook [Paperback]

Louise A. Ferrebee (Editor)

Book Description

Publication Date: August 1, 2001

The Healthy Marriage Handbook answers more than 200 confidential, personal questions on every aspect of the marriage relationship. It's almost like having a wise, trusted friend come alongside—-ready at a moment's notice to help couples clear the inevitable hurdles they encounter on the road to marital happiness. The advice is time-tested, offered with compassion and understanding, and—most importantly—based on solid biblical counsel. The book deals with questions in seven broad areas: communication, conflict, sex, intimacy, spiritual oneness, parenting, and money management. Contributors include David and Claudia Arp, Ron Blue, Jerry Bridges, Jim and Sally Conway, Delores Curran, Diana and David Garland, R. Kent Hughes, Bill Hybels, Melissa and Louis McBurney, Les Parrott, Clifford and Joyce Penner, Lewis Smedes, Charles Swindoll, John Trent, Ed Wheat, H. Norman Wright, and Philip Yancey.

Product Details

• Paperback: 339 pages
• Publisher: Holman Reference (August 1, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 080549054X
• ISBN-13: 978-0805490541
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,024,025 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars For the more difficult questions, August 20, 2001

By A Customer

This review is from: The Healthy Marriage Handbook (Paperback)

I've been single (divorced) for 26 years and I'm only now thinking about marriage again. As a Christian I want a high quality marriage and I want to get this one right. The Healthy Marriage Handbook deals with 200 sensitive and difficult questions that are hard to ask and even harder I think to get straight answers to.

The six major problem areas covered are "communicating with confidence"(26 questions), "working through conflict"(24), "sex the way God designed it"(28), intimacy - growing closer together"(27), "growing in spiritual oneness"(27), "parenting as a team"(36), and "making sense of money matters"(28). Each question is real because the people who originally asked these questions are real, and each question deals with an obvious potential trouble spot, things a newlywed in the making needs to know. The answers (from various contributors) are compassionate, sensitive, direct, and often well thought out.

To start with, as someone who has "lived for God" with his body for many years, I found the section on sex to be rather startling in its frankness. However it has to be kept in mind that this book is dealing with difficult (read sensitive) questions. While the answers deal directly with the questions, they remain appropriate and in good taste, and this observation applies generally to all the sections of the book. An example of the thoughtfullness of the answers can be found in the question "A husband with a low libido". No less than 7 possible reasons are presented, and each is dealt with in a sensitive and compassionate way. A number of issues that one might expect to be encountered by people who "keep themselves for the right one" (read naive) are dealt with. What is appropriate and healthy behavior in the marriage, and what is unhealthy and should be left "outside" of the marriage, is also dealt with. Issues like boredom are dealt with, and re-establishing a love life after an affair is covered. Several questions also deal with the special needs of older couples.

In the "growing in spiritual oneness" section (a very important section), issues such as different levels of spiritual maturity, different styles of worship, changing churches, praying together, the more (or less) spiritually interested spouse, the spiritual leadership role of the husband, and many other good issues are dealt with. For Christian couples, I think this area is extremely important to talk through and work out.

The communication section deals with a variety of communication problems that can develop between spouses. Differences in the way men and woman communicate are covered. Many of the answers seem to deal with overcoming the fear of being too open and vunerable in the circumstance being discussed. A number of special circumstances are covered such as forgotten anniversaries, a quiet spouse, feeling emotionally shut out, a self-centered spouse, a busy spouse, and many others. All are covered with thoughtfullness and compassion.

Many of the questions in the book are thought provoking and lead to discussions in other areas. I plan to get another copy so my potential spouse and I can read separately and discuss the issues that each of us personally feels is important. We want a marriage that will avoid major problems, and we feel that discussing these potential pitfalls beforehand will help us to avoid them. I have bought other books on Christian marriage, and I find that this book is the only one that I can't seem to put down. I highly recommend it.

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars GREAT GIFT FOR COUPLES JUST MARRIED OR NOT YET MARRIED, June 3, 2002

By A Customer

This review is from: The Healthy Marriage Handbook (Paperback)

I bought this book with intentions of enriching my marriage. It had been recommened to me by my christian counselor. I read through it, and now am ordering another one. I gave my copy to a friend and her fiance. Issues regarding communication and religion were areas they struggled with. I knew this book would help them in their engagement journey. I wish I would have had it 15 years ago.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Book, November 12, 2009

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This is an excellent book for anyone getting married and for those who have been married for years. It offers solid advice on handling a wide-range of issues faced by all married couples. I really like the Question and Answer manner in which it is written -- making it an easy read and not dry as many books are. I especially liked how each chapter or section is put together. It was easy to find the topics that most interested me. It would make an excellent gift for friends who are getting married.