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What do people remember about their childhood? What builds a family? What holds families together? Author Meg Cox asserts that the heart of a family is ritual and tradition. Rituals mark the rhythms in our lives, so in a changing society with changing family structures, families need to find or create rituals that have meaning for them. Cox, a reporter and editor for 17 years, quit her job at the
Wall Street Journal to research modern rituals and traditions. The result is a well-written, smart, and helpful guide for families seeking to create meaningful traditions of their own. Cox explores alternative versions of old holiday rituals, gives advice on creating new traditions, and discusses ways to improve stale traditions when the heart has gone out of them. She describes daily family rituals (a nightly wind down before bedtime, locking pinkies when promises are made), large-scale family festivities (celebrating "Adoption Day," family reunions, blow-out holiday extravaganzas), and rites of passage (a girl's first period, milestone birthdays), as well as modern takes on the traditions of many religions and cultures.
The Heart of a Family is an intelligent book, free from sentimentality and full of intriguing ideas.
--Ericka Lutz
From Publishers Weekly
Cox, formerly a reporter with the Wall Street Journal, has spent the last three years interviewing psychologists, educators and more than 200 families, discovering the different kinds of family rituals and the role they play in American family life. The author, who herself spends holidays with a nonnuclear family composed of her husband, their young son and her husband's grown daughter and ex-wife, believes that great changes in the traditional American family make it essential to cultivate rituals that bind people together. Her research reveals an astonishing diversity of family observances from variations of well-known holiday traditions such as Easter egg hunts or Hanukkah gift-giving to imaginative new rituals, all of which reflect a family's particular situationAreligious, cultural, fiscal or otherwise. The Van Norns celebrate a weekly movie night by watching an Academy Award-winning film together while the Uhlers take turns introducing a current events topic every night at the dinner table. In Washington, D.C., a group of mothers and daughters meet monthly to discuss books. What do families get out of rituals? Cox believes children in particular benefit in many ways: comfort, security, happy memories, values and knowledge of their cultural and religious heritage. This rendering is more ecumenical, eclectic and adaptable than many of its ilk. B&w illustrations throughout. Author tour.
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