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Heart of Forgiveness: A Practical Path to Healing

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This book is a jewel! One of the keys to its success for me is that the author allows us in to see her own flaws and imperfections and then how these practices have helped transform her life. It is such a personal story that it touched my heart. And it clearly could only be told by someone whose heart has been opened.

The suggested excersises and meditations are clearly and simply presented which inspires each of us to try them. We are given hope that we too might be transformed by them in a way similar to that of the author.

I discovered this book after the unexpected breakdown of a valued friendship and have found the advice invaluable. It is easy to use and could be adapted to almost any situation. Letting go of the hurt someone has inflicted on you and deciding to forgive them is one of the most difficult things in life to do but as outlined in Madeline's book it can also be one of the most rewarding.

The part I found most helpful was in being able to grant forgiveness to someone who has inflicted harm even when you are no longer in contact with them. I found myself at the point of being ready to do this but not quite sure how to articulate what I felt into something that could allow me to move forward and heal, regardless of the actions of the other person.

This book gets to the point, has insights that everyone can relate to and more importantly shows that something positive can come out of even the most challenging situation if you are prepared to give it a go. I would recommend this to anyone who wishes to learn more about the art of forgiveness and the profound impact undertaking this process can have on your life.

Heart of Forgiveness is truly a treasure to keep. I like the book cover. Very simple and plain and the way the book structures is very easy for us to understand. Some books are too decorative and lose the essence of what the author is trying to deliver.

Coming back to the book itself, the author first brings us the awareness of what harm is. Forgiveness is about letting go of the harm. Therefore, knowing and being aware of the word "harm" to self and others is the first stepping stone towards forgiveness. Then, she went on talking about the process to forgive. I am inspired by the author using her life example to demonstrate how she forgives herself (the unborn child) and others (her loss of job). I am sure it took her a very long time to exercise forgiveness but forgiveness can be done.

The most important message I got out of this book is to bring me the awareness that when harm is done to our soul and if we do not take good care of healing our soul, the chances for us going out and cause the same magnitude/greater harm to others is much greater. After being hurt by three different men in the last year, I realize how important to re-focus my attention in feeling and healing the pain I have towards these people. I finally wake up realize I do not wish to hurt others (though I realize I have tendencies to do so) simply because it is not the right thing. Exercising forgiveness is not about getting into a mental position of thinking it is an moral act or thinking one is superior. Forgiveness is simply a choice we have to let go of our suffering (suffering is created because we cling onto something/people/expectations). Forgiveness is not about denying or suppressing the pain and anger, but is about telling self the desire to heal. To forgive others, one needs to honor and let go of the pain others cause us. It can take days, months, years. There is no set time limit and everyone is different and it is ok. I like the way the author describes forgiveness to others as, "I will forgive you, but not yet" We always get into situations forgivness are said as words to others but sadness and resentment still sits in our heart. "I will forgive you, but not yet" is a good way to be honest to yourself and to others. We do not comprimise our inner most feeling for others to feel better.

NOTE: If we cannot even exercise loving ourselves and honoring our own feelings, how can it be possible for our heart to create that space to forgive others? Forgiveness is an act of self-love. If one cannot honor their own emotions and love themselves, where is the room to forgive others? I know many times we have the tendencies to say we forgive because either we realize someone feels very bad about the harm he/she caused or we just want to avoid conflict. However, this act is no different from hiding a problem/issue in the closet. Therefore, I will always remember, "I will forgive you, but not yet".

To forgive self, one needs to realize their past behavior and commit self not to make the same mistakes again because of the unconsious harmful behavior. One might also need to find the opportunity to repent the harm they have done to others. This is the only way to forgive self and in turn, live a happy and content life.

Thank you, Ms. Madeline Ko-I Bastis, for delivering a wonderful, suthing message to everyone in this world. This world will truly be a better place to live if we can open our heart to see what forgiveness is about.