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Product Details

  • Paperback: 272 pages
  • Publisher: Whole Heart PRess; 2nd edition (December 31, 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1888692219
  • ISBN-13: 978-1888692211
  • Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (23 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #297,587 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Christian parents are sure of one thing?they must discipline their children. Ask them to define discipline, however, and you will find little agreement. Many parenting experts support a strict, ?hands-on? approach?usually in the form of spankings. Other believers think a permissive, ?hands-off? is the best way to demonstrate love. Caught between these extremes, well-meaning parents feel torn and even more confused about what the Bible really says on the subject.

Is there a better way to lovingly train and guide our kids? Yes, says author Clay Clarkson, and in Heartfelt Discipline he offers a long-awaited, biblical discipline solution that is caring and effective?one that leaves parents feeling confident and guiltless, not saddened or conflicted.

At last, here is a faith-directed approach to discipline that spares the rod but doesn?t spoil the children. Through biblical advice, answers to commonly asked questions, and positive encouragement, Clay Clarkson presents a new, biblical model of discipline?one that allows parents to embrace a completely new way of thinking about childhood discipline, renew their relationships with their children, and transform the dynamics of their family life. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

About the Author

Clay Clarkson is the father of four wholehearted children, all grown and following God on their own paths of life. He and Sally started Whole Heart Ministries in 1994 to help Christian parents raise their children for Christ. He is the author Educating the WholeHearted Child and Our 24 Family Ways, an editor, writes online and for publication, and directs the ministry. Clay earned an MDiv from Denver Seminary, but still studies in the graduate school of parenting. The Clarksons live in Monument, Colorado.

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Mr. Clarkson's book reexamines what biblical discipline is, while examining scripture along the way.
Julieannfrog
I am not about best friend parenting, but I am totally about respect and unconditional love parenting- pointing them to God and his grace for us.
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The best thing about this book is that it really gets to the heart of parenting and acting just like Jesus would do.
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Most Helpful Customer Reviews

44 of 47 people found the following review helpful By K. Thile on February 6, 2004
Format: Paperback
This is a heart-changing book that talks to parents about genuinely Christian, Christ-following discipline. Don't miss Clarkson's chapter of exegesis on the whole rod issue. He comes to some conclusions that are surprising and persuasive. It's a very important contribution to Christian thinking on this issue.
Too many times Christians approach discipline as an effort to control outward behavior. And while that's important at times, this book puts discipline into the context of the whole parent/child relationship, with Christ at the core.
Unlike other popular books on Christian parenting that are circulating these days, this book goes beyond behavior issues to actually touching on forms of discipline that relate to discipling your children in Christian matters and pointing them to the grace of Christ. If you've ever wondered about concrete ideas to incorporate sharing Christ with your children as a matter of daily family life, this book will give you many ideas and much to think about.
This book will bless your family--highly recommended.
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27 of 29 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on April 18, 2004
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My husband is only 2/3 of the way through this book and already he is back to leading the family they way God intended! I no longer feel like a single parent. Our children are happier and our house is much more peaceful now. Anyone who has children should read this book. Other couple I know have had the same results with this book as well
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21 of 23 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on March 7, 2004
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I concur wholeheartedly with the review by Kathile. This book calls parents to a very high standard of dependence on Scripture and the Holy Spirit. Parents following Dr. Clarkson's advice couldn't help but mature as Christians themselves in the process. Highly recommended for parents AND grandparents.
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11 of 11 people found the following review helpful By A. Evans on January 28, 2010
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My husband and I were raised in Christian families, and after having our first baby, started really thinking about discipline. How to do it? What to do? What works? What does the Scripture tell us? Clay's book is one of the few Christian parenting resources that focuses on the real-deal: parenting in the Spirit to win your child's heart for Christ. We sought long and hard to find a Christian book on parenting that did *not* have spanking as its "fall-back" tool (to put it mildly) Many popular Christian parenting books imply, or even state outright, that spanking is not negotiable if you wish to raise your child for Christ. Sorry, but it is just not that clear-cut.

Whether you end up agreeing with Clay's chapter on spanking (he exegetes the Proverbs passages in a much different way than the other popular Christian books) is not the issue. He really leaves room for you to disagree - his goal in the book is not to "convert" you. It is simply to present an alternative, and, at the least, make sure that you make a discerning choice about whether the Scripture teaches spanking or not.

The heartbeat of the book is Spirit-led parenting that uses tools such as encouragement, instruction, correction, praising, loving...the toolbox is endless if you are willing to walk by faith, not by formula. We are walking the road of life alongside our children. Beautiful picture. This book is a must-read and is the book we will give every new parent we know. Sally Clarkson's books on mothering are also amazing!

And, to follow up on the comment on "exegesis" by another reader who implies the Clarkson children aren't yet a testimony to their parents' beliefs, all you need do is go read their blogs, hear their stories. They aren't a perfect family, but they sure are close and following Christ together. [...]
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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful By I love my Kids on October 14, 2003
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"Heartfelt Discipline" by Clay Clarkson is in my opinion the best book that I have ever read on childhood discipline. Instead of giving us methods he gives us examples and places the responsibility for parenting right where it should be....on the parent. This is not a how to book but more of a guide of how to lean on the Holy Spririt and have Him lead you in areas of discipline with your children. How can you fail when you lean on the only one who can parent perfectly. I highly recommend this book.
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12 of 15 people found the following review helpful By Reader19 on August 24, 2009
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After spending 8 years reading Parenting book after Parenting book this is the best one I have found...and believe me I have read high and low. The best thing about this book is that it really gets to the heart of parenting and acting just like Jesus would do. So many of us Christians have been fed (from our church, our peers, our families...) that to love our children is to 'discipline' them biblically. The thing I never understood is how much that style of 'discipline' (rod/spanking/authoritarian) was so very opposed to the loving Jesus I read in my bible. That Jesus that opened his arms to the children. Who told us to be like the children if we were to enter the kingdom of heaven. The man that is filled with Peace, Love, Forgiveness, Understanding, tireless Patience...that is Jesus! That is how he parented his disciples. Ask yourself how did he parent his disciples? I see in my truth bible that he told stories to help them think, grow, and learn from their mistakes. This was such a wonderful book to read, and reread. The Clarkson's get at the foundation of parenting. They don't spell out exactly what you say, you do, to little problems. They put your house in order. After reading this book I took all the other Parenting books back to the library. This is the keeper of the bunch. Amen, there really is a good parenting book out there for those of us Christians that don't believe the old-school, save your children from the devil, spank, and order around your children like they are dogs. This is truly a loving and heartfelt book that soothes those of us that are tired of all the bad parenting books that are either too passive, too mushy or the opposite the mean hearted, unloving, horrid books. This book was terrific and I give it my highest score!
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More About the Author

I am a sixty-something husband of one, father of four, and follower of Jesus. I studied advertising/marketing (UT/Austin) and theology (MDiv, Denver Seminary), and served in church and ministry for ten years. In 1994 my wife Sally (also an author) and I started Whole Heart Ministries, a nonprofit Christian ministry to help parents raise wholehearted Christian children. We conceive, write, and publish books and resources, offer annual hotel conferences for mothers, train women in small group leadership, and connect with parents online. As an author, my books focus mostly on biblical topics related to the Christian family. I'm a conceptual creative (INTJ) perpetually caught in the "so many projects, so little time" jetstream of the writing life. I'm also a wannabe illustrated children's book writer, dabbler in short fiction, singer-songwriter (guitar), mobile app conceptualist, and analog game creativator.