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Help! I'm in Love with a Narcissist [Hardcover]

Steven Carter , Julia Sokol
4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (33 customer reviews)

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Book Description

January 21, 2005
Written with the compassionate language that people have come to rely upon and expect from these proven relationship experts, this book goes beyond an explanation of the condition to help men and women avoid the self-destructive permanence of remaining with people incapable of loving anyone but themselves.

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Christina, a successful 38-year-old real estate agent, was very happy with Len, who initially overwhelmed her with compliments, care and concern; once she had fallen in love with him, he suddenly began to insist that his needs and plans and schedules come first. Christina was in love with a narcissist—and in their new guide, the authors of Men Who Can't Love tell how to recognize such a beast, the dangers of loving one and strategies for ending a relationship with a person who always puts "me" first. The authors point out that we all may exhibit narcissistic tendencies at times, but the true narcissist is incapable of a give-and-take relationship. The authors acknowledge that they are writers, not therapists, and base their theories on anecdotes, written in very accessible language, rather than on academic research. Many interviews were conducted with both men and women completely seduced by narcissists, who can, according to the authors, be extremely charismatic. Carter and Sokol detail behavioral cues that can identify a narcissist and look at the causes of narcissism, chief among them being raised by narcissistic parents. Carter and Sokol provide a number of coping skills for those involved with narcissists, but their advice boils down to taking care of yourself first and seeking outside support.
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About the Author

Steven Carter lives in Los Angles, California. Julia Sokol lives in Bristol, Rhode Island.

Product Details

  • Hardcover: 288 pages
  • Publisher: M. Evans & Company (January 21, 2005)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1590770773
  • ISBN-13: 978-1590770771
  • Product Dimensions: 6.4 x 0.9 x 9.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (33 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #295,016 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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It's a very easy read, full of useful examples. Cielo Azul  |  8 reviewers made a similar statement
I keep falling in love with toxic narcissists. H. Laughlin  |  7 reviewers made a similar statement
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74 of 75 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars This book changed my life! June 23, 2005
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I now understand why all my relationships with men have ended badly and why I am continually hurt. I keep falling in love with toxic narcissists. The book explained to me what I have been doing and how to stop doing it.

This book was so good and so life changing that I sent a copy to my sister and have recommended the book to friends who have had disasterous relationships with men. As for me, six months ago I canceled a wedding and walked away from a man who I now understand was a toxic narcissist. Until I read the book, I could not stop weeping I was so wounded by his actions. Now, I UNDERSTAND that it was nothing I did or can ever change. He has a personality disorder.

I recommend this book for every woman (and man) who has ever had a romantic relationship with a selfish, hurtful person. You don't have to keep doing it. Read the book, understand, protect yourself, and be happy!
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53 of 54 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Comprehensive and objective April 11, 2005
Format:Hardcover
Caught in a triangle with the love of your life? Can't figure out why he is so happy with you one day and with another woman the next? If you never heard of narcissism and are not in a happy relationship, read this book. It is an easy read that translates the difficult to understand jargon about a serious and not uncommon personality disorder into common language set in the context of partner relationships. What is lacking is help on distinguishing from "normal" levels of selfishness and self-centeredness and the toxic kind that invariably leads to egregious emotional abuse. The subject is mentioned but not really addressed. At any level, narcissism is something to avoid. At the toxic level, it is time to bail. This book is a guide to spotting the toxic narcissist that may be breaking your heart. It will free you to give up and get out.
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41 of 41 people found the following review helpful
Format:Hardcover
This book was recommended to me by a Surviving Narcissist Help Group that I belong to. I was married to one (naricissist) and what in the world happened to me while I was with him was horrendous. I did a lot of research after our split to find out why I thought I was so screwed up, wrong, moody, etc. (words he called me all of the time). It was not me. I recommend this book to anyone who has ever dealt with a Narcissist, been married to one or are still married to one, the child of one, the co-worker of one. If you don't get out, you will never find yourself again. Reading this book, which was clear, concise, to the point, honest, in your face was like reading the story of my short term marriage to my ex narcissist -- there is hope, but healing from the hurts of a narcissist are longer to get over with. This book will show you what really goes on in the mind of a narcissist. I never had a clue as to what a narcissist was -- now I know!!! The world is full of them, and this is recommended reading so that you can see what the warning signs are -- I wish I had known!!! I saw all of the "red flags" but chose to ignore them, being totally naive as to what a Narcissist is. Read it and decide for yourself; I highly recommened this book!!!
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars great book.
just wished i had known about it b4 the narcisstic n my life. i already read it. will b lookin for more books by this author.
Published 4 months ago by Robin Archer
4.0 out of 5 stars Really good
I did enjoy reading this book and it helped me to not only understand my former partner but drill into my mind the reasons why I allowed myself to be drawn into such a situation in... Read more
Published 4 months ago by Grad Student Lass
5.0 out of 5 stars From HELP to courage
Found this book by mistake after separating from a 20 year marriage for the second time. At the time, I didn't have the language or the paradigm to describe my experience. Read more
Published 8 months ago by rubysneakers
5.0 out of 5 stars Good book for those involved with toxic Narcissists
This book was very helpful, I enjoyed it very much. I was invoved with a Narcissist but after 20 years finally ended the relationship. Read more
Published 11 months ago by Lisa
5.0 out of 5 stars I've read several, and this one of the best
I have been in a relationship with a narcissist for the past 14 years and it wasn't until I was summarily "dumped" as he found a new love interest that I began to look for an... Read more
Published 13 months ago by A Girlfriend
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent service
I don't like being forced to write a lot. I received excellent service. What else do you need to know?
Published 22 months ago by Margaret L Wicken
4.0 out of 5 stars Help! I'm in love with a Narcissist
Also a good book to help you identify this personality. Not written by a physcologist but from someone who's been there.
Published on March 26, 2011 by Lila
2.0 out of 5 stars Narcissist
Book wasn't what other reviews lead me to believe. Wasn't helpful at all. Learned more from articles found through web search from actual licensed therapist. Read more
Published on March 16, 2011 by mawh56
5.0 out of 5 stars One of the Most Helpful Books Ever
This is by far one of the most helpful books I have read on the subject of Narcissism and God knows I have read a lot!! Read more
Published on December 9, 2010 by Starlit
3.0 out of 5 stars Wouldn't an affair partner be considered a narcissist, too?
When someone helps another person cheat on their significant other, not only do I consider the cheat a narcissist, but I also consider the affair partner a narcissist, too. Read more
Published on November 1, 2010 by Elisabeth
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