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Help! I'm in Love with a Narcissist

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I now understand why all my relationships with men have ended badly and why I am continually hurt. I keep falling in love with toxic narcissists. The book explained to me what I have been doing and how to stop doing it.

This book was so good and so life changing that I sent a copy to my sister and have recommended the book to friends who have had disasterous relationships with men. As for me, six months ago I canceled a wedding and walked away from a man who I now understand was a toxic narcissist. Until I read the book, I could not stop weeping I was so wounded by his actions. Now, I UNDERSTAND that it was nothing I did or can ever change. He has a personality disorder.

I recommend this book for every woman (and man) who has ever had a romantic relationship with a selfish, hurtful person. You don't have to keep doing it. Read the book, understand, protect yourself, and be happy!

Caught in a triangle with the love of your life? Can't figure out why he is so happy with you one day and with another woman the next? If you never heard of narcissism and are not in a happy relationship, read this book. It is an easy read that translates the difficult to understand jargon about a serious and not uncommon personality disorder into common language set in the context of partner relationships. What is lacking is help on distinguishing from "normal" levels of selfishness and self-centeredness and the toxic kind that invariably leads to egregious emotional abuse. The subject is mentioned but not really addressed. At any level, narcissism is something to avoid. At the toxic level, it is time to bail. This book is a guide to spotting the toxic narcissist that may be breaking your heart. It will free you to give up and get out.

This book was recommended to me by a Surviving Narcissist Help Group that I belong to. I was married to one (naricissist) and what in the world happened to me while I was with him was horrendous. I did a lot of research after our split to find out why I thought I was so screwed up, wrong, moody, etc. (words he called me all of the time). It was not me. I recommend this book to anyone who has ever dealt with a Narcissist, been married to one or are still married to one, the child of one, the co-worker of one. If you don't get out, you will never find yourself again. Reading this book, which was clear, concise, to the point, honest, in your face was like reading the story of my short term marriage to my ex narcissist -- there is hope, but healing from the hurts of a narcissist are longer to get over with. This book will show you what really goes on in the mind of a narcissist. I never had a clue as to what a narcissist was -- now I know!!! The world is full of them, and this is recommended reading so that you can see what the warning signs are -- I wish I had known!!! I saw all of the "red flags" but chose to ignore them, being totally naive as to what a Narcissist is. Read it and decide for yourself; I highly recommened this book!!!

I've read every book there is on narcissism, and this is the best. It captured my experience to a "t" and offered the most comprehensive and detailed information (without being clinical or boring) on all facets of the disorder. It was such a relief to have a name (and description) for the incredible insanity I lived through with my narcissistic partner. I especially loved the story about the man who lovingly made a sandwich for his girlfriend at a party. Anyone who's been involved with a narcissist can relate to the twisted truth of what actually happened when the story unfolded. Fascinating stuff and a real lifesaver. If you want to understand how you got involved with this type of person -- and how to avoid it in the future -- this is the book for you.

I thought the book was excellent because there were so many stories about narcissists. And, the stories had a variety of relationship types in them.

The book was easy to read and hard for me to put down. I'm now reading it through again. If anybody's had narcissistic parents, siblings, or romantic partner, I'd recommend this book, hands-down.

The book "Help, I'm in Love with a Narcissist" was easy to read, held my interest and was unbelieveably accurate. I have met many people just like those mentioned in this very informative book and if only I knew then what I know now...
I highly recommend this for everyone!

This book has been SO affirming for me. It describes TO THE LETTER my ex-fiancé who is a textbook toxic Narcissist. I have nearly 2/3 of the book underlined because it happened to me! I cannot believe that this syndrome is so describable. Steven Carter and Julia Sokol have done an exemplary job of shedding light on this personality disorder that is not well understood by the general public. HIGHLY RECOMMENDED READING!

i knew nothing about narcissism. i thought it was just being extremely arrogant but it's so much more. after having one of the most hurtful and traumatic relationships of my life i start doing some research on-line and realized that my ex-bf was probably a toxic narcissist. even though the relationship is completely over i had a hard time just shaking it off and moving on mentally. i read the reviews here and decided to purchase this book. i'm glad i did.

if i could give this book 6 stars i would. it helped me resolve some feelings i had more than counseling did. my counselor didn't know the person i dated well but reading this book really put me on the path to healing because it helped me realize when you're dealing with a narcissist it's not about you, nothing you do will change the person. period. it's hard to really accept that because we want to believe people can change but narcissism so ingrained in who a person is and how they think, the person isn't likely to change. there's a lot of repetition of the themes but i felt that was necessary to drive home the point and how toxic these people are. don't worry, if you're not in love with a narcissist then this is just interesting reading, it won't brainwash you into viewing everyone that way but oh if you were with a narcissist it helps you to understand what is/was going on that you and certainly nobody on the outside can comprehend.

as the authors say, they are not psychotherapists but they do pull together a plethora of relevant information and interviews. the book has lots of "real life" stories and advice that is so useful. you'll begin to see that the sad world that you had with your narcissist is so hurtful and damaging but you can get better and move on. the stories confirm you aren't crazy, they are! but you have to do the work to move beyond the hurt. i would recommend this book to anyone that believes they were involved with a narcissist. i feel sure that i would not get involved with another person like this now that i know better how narcissists operate and why i was even attracted to someone like that in the first place. a relationship with a narcissist seems almost unbelievable because of the magnitude of the things that happen over and over. it's so harmful to your spirit BUT you have to do everything you can for your mental health. if you've been hurt by a narcissist it's worth it to read this book!

HELP! I'M IN LOVE WITH A NARCISSIST is probably the most razor-sharp, insightful profile of this painful relationship dynamic I have ever read. Years ago, MEN WHO CAN'T LOVE by Carter & Sokol practically saved my life. But HELP! I'm In Love With A Narcissist will save thousands of lives! Thank you. Thank you. Thank you!

As I sat in Barnes & Noble reading this book, my jaw dropped as I read detail after detail that described my relationship to the letter. After a short initial "getting to know you" phase, it was all about him. He would get up and leave early on Sunday morning because he had so much to do. He would always stay at my house -- we rarely stayed at his place. (For one thing, if we were at my place the other woman who took so much of his time wouldn't call since she would only call his home number.) He wouldn't invite me out to happy hour with his friends. He'd finally invite me to events, but then at the last minute would have something come up and disinvite me. I was the "perfect woman" and then I was nothing. If I backed away, he'd give me attention again for a while. He would say mean things about nice people. He and his business were far superior to anyone else out there doing the same thing, and it was all because of him (according to him). When we met he was so charming and wonderful and I was the answer to all his problems. The list goes on. Now I am going to buy the book and highlight all the things that validate my feelings so I remember that it didn't end because of some flaw of my own, and so I can get over him once and for all.

If you have been in this type of relationship, this book could be very helpful to you to help you see that it WASN'T YOU and there was (or is) nothing you could do to change things.