Helping Your Child Succeed After Divorce [Paperback]

Florence Bienenfield (Author)

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Formerly a divorce mediation counselor, Dr. Bienenefeld heartily advocates intervention by a trained counselor who represents the child's best interests and encourages marriage partners to become "parent partners." The author believes children cope best in a "conflict-free environment that nurtures self-esteem and parental bonds." Illuminating case studies, sample agreements, charts, and clear, practical guidelines instruct and reassure, although the 30 children's drawings and the letters reprinted from the author's former newspaper advice column are repetitious. The emphasis on mediation contrasts with its omission/downplay in books like Stuart Berger's Divorce Without Victims ( LJ 3/1/83). Janice Arenofsky, formerly with Arizona State Lib., Phoenix
Copyright 1988 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Product Details

• Paperback: 206 pages
• Publisher: Hunter House Inc.,U.S. (December 1987)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 089793041X
• ISBN-13: 978-0897930413
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.3 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (1 customer review)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #3,870,560 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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4.0 out of 5 stars How to focus on your child's wellbeing, not revenge., May 7, 2002

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Dr. Ellen Kenner, Clinical Psychologist - See all my reviews

This review is from: Helping Your Child Through Divorce (Family & Childcare) (Paperback)

"I hate life sometimes. I should have been able to see my sisters. I get real angry at my mom and dad. Sometimes I'm mad at the whole world." Divorce often leaves children in a path of devastation. Some children feel the chronic need, well into their adult lives, to try to please both parents, or to show pressured allegiance to one parent and shun the other. Some children have indelible memories of horrific fights and arguments prior to and after their parents divorce. Such children may promise themselves that they will never get married - it involves too much suffering. Some children are convinced that they are the hidden cause of their parent's divorce. Feelings of abandonment, fear, hurt and guilt become the norm. It's common for children to repeat the traumas of their childhood or to withdraw into a repressed silence, cutting themselves off from the pleasures of life. But much of this pain can be avoided, and everyone benefits. How? Dr. Bienenfeld lets you first hear from the children themselves. She then outlines a step-by-step method to help parents grasp the pain that their children are in and to help parents separate their own hostilities and financial battles from parenting issues. Although the parents are no longer marital partners, they will remain parent-partners for life. Given this, she outlines a method for helping them communicate clearly and fairly on all issues involving the children.