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What About Me? A Guide for Men Helping Female Partners Deal with Childhood Sexual Abuse [Paperback]

Grant Cameron
4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (21 customer reviews)

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Book Description

June 1, 1994 0921165382 978-0921165385 6th
This is a book for the silent sufferers - the millions of men worldwide who are helping female partners recover from the trauma of childhood sexual abuse. What About Me? will help men understand the issues surrounding childhood sexual abuse and prepare them for the rocky journey through the healing process with a survivor. It will help them understand why women who are healing say and do certain things. It will also give them a better understanding of their own actions and feelings.

Editorial Reviews


I constantly review books looking for those I can highly recommend and certainly yours will be at the top of my list...I can't tell you how pleased I am at the quality of the information you have provided. There are so many people out there who desperately need to read what you have written. -- Linda Halliday-Sumner Sexual Abuse Consultant

I found the book to be informative and easy to read. It was very good in describing the feelings that partners of survivors experience while helping a survivor to heal from the painful and devastating experience of childhood sexual abuse... From my past experience working with partners of survivors I would highly recommend this book to them. -- Maria Wallenius, Co-ordinator of the Sexual Assault Centre of Nippissing

From the Publisher

What About Me? is the end result of the traumatic and trying times journalist Grant Cameron encountered while helping his wife Liz deal with her abusive past. Throughout, Grant talks openly about sex, suicide, dealing with anger, handling nightmares and gaining trust.

Product Details

  • Paperback: 147 pages
  • Publisher: Creative Bound; 6th edition (June 1, 1994)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0921165382
  • ISBN-13: 978-0921165385
  • Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.4 x 0.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (21 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #664,513 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

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54 of 55 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Recommend this Book for ALL December 15, 2002
Format:Paperback|Verified Purchase
Cameron takes you into the world of a child sexual abuse survivor and explains in layman terms how to help, deal, and cope with the process of healing. I brought this book for not only myself but my husband. My husband devoured the book in about a week. If you area survivor of child sexual abuse and really want to give your significant other or partner a gift buy this book. It will help them understand you, your feelings, and the child within. Actually my favorite chapter is the Child Within, where he speaks about the inner child. There are a lot of authors out there who DO NOT talk about the inner child as he does. With such understanding and sensitivity.
If you are a partner or significant other, you will find this book enlightening. You will finally understand the survivors anger, grief, and pain. You will learn how to back off and give space or embrace them for comfort.
This is also a good book for therapist who are working with couples or families. Highly recommended.
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27 of 28 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars What Men Need to Know About Women Who Are Healing! October 15, 2002
Grant Cameron and I argue constantly on the Internet on a number of subjects. However, this book was so right on target that I can find little to disagree with him. Grant's book helped me understand why my special friend is the way she is, and, in fact, the very things that she says are echoed by Grant from his own experience of helping his wife heal from childhood sexual abuse. The road to healing for the woman abused during childhood is hard and filled with difficulties, but partners may not be prepared for just how difficult the process may be on them. Grant has prepared an outline, a road map for those with the courage and concern to stand by the woman they love while she goes through the ordeal--and it is indeed an ordeal--of healing. If one is the same situation as Grand, they cannot do better than heed his advice and learn from his experiences.
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28 of 30 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Helpful for the layperson May 12, 2005
I purchased this book for my husband, but out of curiosity I read it for myself. I think this is a good book for beginning to deal with this issue. However, it does not address a lot of issues that the partner of a survivor needs to deal with his own needs. It basically tells the partner to ignore his own needs while the survivor deals with her issues, which I believe is a wrong approach. My recommendation is to get this book and read it first, as it is very simple and easy to follow, and short. I then recommend moving on to "Allies in Healing," which is much more specific and informs the partner on how to deal with his own issues and needs.
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14 of 14 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars helping wife through healing process November 21, 2004
By David D
My therapist recommended the book What about Me? My wife and I have read a couple of books for partners. But I found this book very straight forward and to the point.There is a chapter in the book called the crisis stage which we both found very helpful. The fact that Mr.Cameron has been through the process of helping his wife through the healing of sexual abuse is an example of how you can both work together.

I recommend this book for any partner helping a loved one deal with childhood sexual abuse.
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21 of 23 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Dont forget me cause of your past January 10, 2002
By A Customer
Well i was raped and physical abused from the time i was 5 to 14 and now im 21 and dating a wonderful guy and he read this book and showed me the book after he read it. I think if you have love ones that have been hurt in the past then you need to read it and help them cope.
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20 of 22 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars healing from sexual abuse March 25, 2003
By A Customer
The book shocked me when I started reading it. It was as if I was reading about myself through the whole book. One of the chapters that covered suicide thoughts made me feel like I was not alone. Reading this book gave myself and my husband a better understanding of what to expect when healing from sexual abuse.
I can't say enough about this book. It's not only well written and very easy to understand but it is written by someone who has been through the healing process with his partner.
Thumbs up on this one!
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars What About Me by Grant Cameron September 16, 2005
I have worked with Survivors of sexual abuse and their families, in a professional capacity, for over 12 years and I have found this book to be a valuable resource for partners. Oftentimes, men have commented to me that they "could have written the book themselves" and they often feel empowered after they read it because they get the sense they are not alone with their experiences and feelings. The book also helps the partner to gain a better understanding of what his partner is going through and to heal rifts in their relationships. I strongly reccommend this book to other professionals who work in this field and to survivors of sexual abuse and their partners.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars All Couples Should Read February 13, 2007
Format:Paperback|Verified Purchase
This is a great book that made me cry when I read it because it was like he knew me in a way none of my boyfriends have ever understood me. I sent it to my boyfriend to read immediately after I finished it. If only I had found this book years ago.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
2.0 out of 5 stars DIdn't apply to us
This book simply didn't apply to me and my wife. The experience the author relates is different to my own and I couldn't draw many parallels, and therefore didn't get much out of... Read more
Published on September 28, 2011 by geoglyphic
3.0 out of 5 stars OK entry level book
Not great, but it's an OK entry to the issue, particularly if you are finally coming to grips with this. There is precious little out there, unfortunately, to help the partners. Read more
Published on January 19, 2011 by P-61
1.0 out of 5 stars Negative from beginning to end!
I purchased this book to give to my boyfriend. I read it first (easy read, finished in a few hours) and immediately regretted buying it. Read more
Published on June 22, 2009 by M. Pickett
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Practical Advice
Grant Cameron explained, in practical language, the many ins and outs that you run up against when your loved one is the survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Read more
Published on October 6, 2008 by Strider
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book for partners who are in a relationship w/one who has...
I am a licensed Counselor, who specializes in trauma/substance abuse.
In reviewing this book, I have found it to be a wonderful book for my client's partners to better... Read more
Published on June 22, 2008 by Arcturus Labradors
5.0 out of 5 stars condensed practical overview
This book may not earn awards for best literary style, but you can feel the sincerity of deep understanding through this author's words. Read more
Published on June 14, 2008 by Healing Heart
3.0 out of 5 stars Not Relevant to Everyone
Although this book is somewhat helpful, it is, unfortunately, based mostly on the anecdotal experience of one couple [the author and his wife]. Read more
Published on January 13, 2008 by STL
5.0 out of 5 stars Must Read for Men helping their partners with Childhood Sexual Abuse
This is an absolute must read for any men out there who have women partners that have suffered childhood sexual abuse in any of its many and abhorrent forms. Read more
Published on August 4, 2007 by Lynn Moorhead
5.0 out of 5 stars good for terapist to read
A good read for therapist or therapist in training. Great to have in the back of your mind to recomend to such clients.
Published on June 27, 2007 by Jennifer Green
5.0 out of 5 stars What about me?
The book was in great condition. Thanks for selling it was a very hard book to find.
Published on April 5, 2007 by Rachel L. Webster
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