What About Me? A Guide for Men Helping Female Partners Deal with Childhood Sexual Abuse [Paperback]

Grant Cameron (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 1, 1994 | ISBN-10: 0921165382 | ISBN-13: 978-0921165385 | Edition: 6th

This is a book for the silent sufferers - the millions of men worldwide who are helping female partners recover from the trauma of childhood sexual abuse. What About Me? will help men understand the issues surrounding childhood sexual abuse and prepare them for the rocky journey through the healing process with a survivor. It will help them understand why women who are healing say and do certain things. It will also give them a better understanding of their own actions and feelings.

Editorial Reviews

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I constantly review books looking for those I can highly recommend and certainly yours will be at the top of my list...I can't tell you how pleased I am at the quality of the information you have provided. There are so many people out there who desperately need to read what you have written. -- Linda Halliday-Sumner Sexual Abuse Consultant

I found the book to be informative and easy to read. It was very good in describing the feelings that partners of survivors experience while helping a survivor to heal from the painful and devastating experience of childhood sexual abuse... From my past experience working with partners of survivors I would highly recommend this book to them. -- Maria Wallenius, Co-ordinator of the Sexual Assault Centre of Nippissing

From the Publisher

What About Me? is the end result of the traumatic and trying times journalist Grant Cameron encountered while helping his wife Liz deal with her abusive past. Throughout, Grant talks openly about sex, suicide, dealing with anger, handling nightmares and gaining trust.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 147 pages
• Publisher: Creative Bound; 6th edition (June 1, 1994)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0921165382
• ISBN-13: 978-0921165385
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.4 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (21 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #433,968 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

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53 of 54 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Recommend this Book for ALL, December 15, 2002

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Goddess Orchid "Orchid" (USA) - See all my reviews

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This review is from: What About Me? A Guide for Men Helping Female Partners Deal with Childhood Sexual Abuse (Paperback)

Cameron takes you into the world of a child sexual abuse survivor and explains in layman terms how to help, deal, and cope with the process of healing. I brought this book for not only myself but my husband. My husband devoured the book in about a week. If you area survivor of child sexual abuse and really want to give your significant other or partner a gift buy this book. It will help them understand you, your feelings, and the child within. Actually my favorite chapter is the Child Within, where he speaks about the inner child. There are a lot of authors out there who DO NOT talk about the inner child as he does. With such understanding and sensitivity.

If you are a partner or significant other, you will find this book enlightening. You will finally understand the survivors anger, grief, and pain. You will learn how to back off and give space or embrace them for comfort.

This is also a good book for therapist who are working with couples or families. Highly recommended.

26 of 27 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars What Men Need to Know About Women Who Are Healing!, October 15, 2002

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Jan Aldrich (Canterbury, CT United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: What About Me? A Guide for Men Helping Female Partners Deal with Childhood Sexual Abuse (Paperback)

Grant Cameron and I argue constantly on the Internet on a number of subjects. However, this book was so right on target that I can find little to disagree with him. Grant's book helped me understand why my special friend is the way she is, and, in fact, the very things that she says are echoed by Grant from his own experience of helping his wife heal from childhood sexual abuse. The road to healing for the woman abused during childhood is hard and filled with difficulties, but partners may not be prepared for just how difficult the process may be on them. Grant has prepared an outline, a road map for those with the courage and concern to stand by the woman they love while she goes through the ordeal--and it is indeed an ordeal--of healing. If one is the same situation as Grand, they cannot do better than heed his advice and learn from his experiences.

23 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Helpful for the layperson, May 12, 2005

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Radiance (Disputanta, VA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: What About Me? A Guide for Men Helping Female Partners Deal with Childhood Sexual Abuse (Paperback)

I purchased this book for my husband, but out of curiosity I read it for myself. I think this is a good book for beginning to deal with this issue. However, it does not address a lot of issues that the partner of a survivor needs to deal with his own needs. It basically tells the partner to ignore his own needs while the survivor deals with her issues, which I believe is a wrong approach. My recommendation is to get this book and read it first, as it is very simple and easy to follow, and short. I then recommend moving on to "Allies in Healing," which is much more specific and informs the partner on how to deal with his own issues and needs.