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What About Me? A Guide for Men Helping Female Partners Deal with Childhood Sexual Abuse

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Cameron takes you into the world of a child sexual abuse survivor and explains in layman terms how to help, deal, and cope with the process of healing. I brought this book for not only myself but my husband. My husband devoured the book in about a week. If you area survivor of child sexual abuse and really want to give your significant other or partner a gift buy this book. It will help them understand you, your feelings, and the child within. Actually my favorite chapter is the Child Within, where he speaks about the inner child. There are a lot of authors out there who DO NOT talk about the inner child as he does. With such understanding and sensitivity.

If you are a partner or significant other, you will find this book enlightening. You will finally understand the survivors anger, grief, and pain. You will learn how to back off and give space or embrace them for comfort.

This is also a good book for therapist who are working with couples or families. Highly recommended.

Grant Cameron and I argue constantly on the Internet on a number of subjects. However, this book was so right on target that I can find little to disagree with him. Grant's book helped me understand why my special friend is the way she is, and, in fact, the very things that she says are echoed by Grant from his own experience of helping his wife heal from childhood sexual abuse. The road to healing for the woman abused during childhood is hard and filled with difficulties, but partners may not be prepared for just how difficult the process may be on them. Grant has prepared an outline, a road map for those with the courage and concern to stand by the woman they love while she goes through the ordeal--and it is indeed an ordeal--of healing. If one is the same situation as Grand, they cannot do better than heed his advice and learn from his experiences.

I purchased this book for my husband, but out of curiosity I read it for myself. I think this is a good book for beginning to deal with this issue. However, it does not address a lot of issues that the partner of a survivor needs to deal with his own needs. It basically tells the partner to ignore his own needs while the survivor deals with her issues, which I believe is a wrong approach. My recommendation is to get this book and read it first, as it is very simple and easy to follow, and short. I then recommend moving on to "Allies in Healing," which is much more specific and informs the partner on how to deal with his own issues and needs.

My therapist recommended the book What about Me? My wife and I have read a couple of books for partners. But I found this book very straight forward and to the point.There is a chapter in the book called the crisis stage which we both found very helpful. The fact that Mr.Cameron has been through the process of helping his wife through the healing of sexual abuse is an example of how you can both work together.
I recommend this book for any partner helping a loved one deal with childhood sexual abuse.

Well i was raped and physical abused from the time i was 5 to 14 and now im 21 and dating a wonderful guy and he read this book and showed me the book after he read it. I think if you have love ones that have been hurt in the past then you need to read it and help them cope.

The book shocked me when I started reading it. It was as if I was reading about myself through the whole book. One of the chapters that covered suicide thoughts made me feel like I was not alone. Reading this book gave myself and my husband a better understanding of what to expect when healing from sexual abuse.
I can't say enough about this book. It's not only well written and very easy to understand but it is written by someone who has been through the healing process with his partner.
Thumbs up on this one!

I have worked with Survivors of sexual abuse and their families, in a professional capacity, for over 12 years and I have found this book to be a valuable resource for partners. Oftentimes, men have commented to me that they "could have written the book themselves" and they often feel empowered after they read it because they get the sense they are not alone with their experiences and feelings. The book also helps the partner to gain a better understanding of what his partner is going through and to heal rifts in their relationships. I strongly reccommend this book to other professionals who work in this field and to survivors of sexual abuse and their partners.

This is a great book that made me cry when I read it because it was like he knew me in a way none of my boyfriends have ever understood me. I sent it to my boyfriend to read immediately after I finished it. If only I had found this book years ago.

Although this book is somewhat helpful, it is, unfortunately, based mostly on the anecdotal experience of one couple [the author and his wife]. I think that Allies in Healing is a more helpful book - if you are looking for a book written mostly for spouses of survivors.

To husbands: FYI - the healing is a very long and arduous process - it ain't pretty, and it really helps if you have a LOT of love and MORE stamina. If so, I highly recommend "Women Who Hurt Themselves" by Dusty Miller. It's a tough read, but will put things into a logical framework for you. This issue has a lot of gender implications in its understanding, and a logical framework seems to be essential for the male in the role of supportive mate.

This is an absolute must read for any men out there who have women partners that have suffered childhood sexual abuse in any of its many and abhorrent forms. My wife suffered this from no less than three different males in her life before the age of 14, and two of them were relatives. I, like you, needed some reference material to try and help me cope with how to help her, and though there isn't going to be a cookie cutter answer for every situation... this book offers a lot of insight and gives you some starting points to begin looking for help.

Thanks.
Lynn