This book is a quick read and it helped me to discover my true self, and with that discovery came an incredible depth of understanding!!! I am still amazed at how much a learned in this book. In this day-n-age, knowledge is power for the professional woman. Mary Loomis gives you the self-enlightenment you need to use that power of understanding to make life more fulfilling and prosperous. No longer do my idiosyncrasies or weaknesses destroy my self-image and have subsequent ill effects on my self-confidence. I have a very minor interest in Jungian philosophy for women, and I found this book was a nice compliment to the classic wildish woman mythos collection in "Women Who Run With the Wolves" by Clarissa Pinkola Estes. But with Loomis' "Her Father's Daughter", I know I have found the only secret of my success that will not come from within. Similar to the reference books that serve as my essential tools in the software development field, this book hasn't been far from reach since it arrived in the mail 6 months ago. I read it cover to cover twice in the first week that I had it, and it has since grown into its current massively-highlighted and dog-eared state. Thank you Mary Loomis.
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This book ranks among others I have read by women of the author's generation that are so helpful in their creative destruction of toxic myth. I find myself amazed and humbled that these women could see beyond the forces trying to keep those toxic myths in place which were much stronger in earlier eras.
Having been a "father's daughter" in every positive and negative sense of the term, I found this book helpful in understanding my experience. I don't have much experience with Jungian analysis, but had through a different path come to understand my experience as my father making me in his image because he needed a female equal but could not tolerate being with an adult woman who was his equal and so instead used the control over me and my development he had because of my dependence on him as a child to make me into his intellectual ally. His inner conflict was transferred to me and, as usually happens with a child in a dependent position, came to define me, and it has taken years for me to see the conflict and his control of me and and find my own self and attempt to extricate myself from this dysfunction.
There has indeed been a turning point in the last 15 years, I believe, in U.S. culture toward more respect for women, and for so-called "feminine" values of emotional awareness, empathy, nurturing/mentoring, negotiation, etc., and more women having psychological and economic autonomy, which is valued by many men, and I think may now a sine qua non for many younger men, maybe the majority of younger men, in seeking a wife.
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This book was recommended to me, and I am passing on the favour by recommending it to others. The book can help a woman understand her subordinate position at work or at home and yet can help a man understand the frustration and anger a woman would feel working in a patriarchal society. By taking the fairy tale, "Rumpelstiltskin," Mary Loomis explains the way a woman must reject her inner sense in insecurity and of being second best. While all of this sounds decidedly feminist, the book is one of the simplest explanations of the dynamics of women working in large corporations, government institutions, and other hierarchically organized social networks. There is no male bashing at all, but, instead, a discussion of how a woman's nature is at odds with a patriarchal society. In fact, the book tells of how much of a relief for men understanding all of this can be. In the end, the book talks of how women, not men, need to change.
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