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Here If You Need Me: A True Story

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As a mother of four and wife to Maine State trooper Drew Griffith, Kate Braestrup thought her life was in order as a wife, mother, and writer. Drew's plans though were to go to school to become a Unitarian minister. Suddenly though, Kate becomes a widow and then decides to pursue Drew's dream. She becomes a Unitarian minister and begins working with the Maine Game Warden department, mainly ministering to the families of those involved in search and rescue attempts - the hikers, the lost snowmobilers, the swimmers falling over a waterfall, the despondent young women, the lost children.

However this book isn't, as I had first thought, simply full of anecdotes of Kate's involvement with search and rescue attempts. Oh no, it is much, much more than that. There, are plenty of interesting anecdotes that's for sure but it is a story of Kate's life as a single mother, as a spiritual woman, as a spiritual leader, and as a caring human being. It is a book full of the essays of a talented writer giving her take on life, death, and heaven, all in a gentle way where it is easy to imagine the skill in which she is able to minister to those in need. She does so without judging anyone be they a fundamentalist, atheist, agnostic, or of any other belief.

There is the story of a young suicide victim whose brother she counsels and consoles as he is worried she will be unable to have a Christian burial because of the way she died, there is the story of the parents Kate spends the night consoling with after their daughter goes missing, answering the atheist mother who says, "It's so cool that the warden service has a chaplain to keep us from freaking out," by responding,"I'm not really here to keep you from freaking out. I'm here to be with you while you freak out."

And here is the story of Kate, the mother, helping her four children get over the death of their beloved father, all the while in deep mourning herself. Kate who loved her husband so deeply. So very deeply that she does for her husband what few new widows will ever do in this modern age.

All I can say is WOW. I don't know when I have been so moved by a book.

The reader will be moved to tears, laugh out loud, begin a spiritual awakening - and keep the book nearby for re-reading of Kate's essays again and again. You will wish she was your friend, your pastor. You will wish you had the honor of having her wisdom nearby on a daily basis. But since you don't reading this book will have to suffice. The world would be a better place if there were more Kate Braestrups in it. God bless you Kate and thank you for sharing a part of your world and your wisdom in this magnificent read.

HERE IF YOU NEED ME is a book that can be appreciated by many readers for a number of different reasons. Some may appreciate it as a religious memoir, others may relate to her being a single mother rebuilding her life after the tragic death of her husband. People thinking about a midlife switch in careers could find the book inspiring. New England enthusiasts, especially those who love Maine, will appreciate the book's setting. Those in public safety may believe that the author is telling their story, perhaps in a different setting with different situations, but still telling a story that only those in this line of work know in exact detail. For me, the connection to HERE IF YOU NEED ME was based in her ministry as a chaplain to Maine's game wardens. As a person who is also in ministry (a Roman Catholic priest), I immediately connected to Kate Braestrup's story, at first because she's a good story teller, and judging from the book a likeable person. As the book progressed, I saw her in situations I could understand even though the work we both do is different and are from areas that share few similarities: Boston and its suburbs are a but different than rural Maine. Still, I do face the challenges of being present to people in situations where there are no answers, life's rough edges become more apparent, and hoping that you're acting and speaking when it's appropriate to do so and just being present when a quiet presence is what is needed and hoping you have the wisdom to know what the best course of action for a situation happens to be. This is much of what we find in this book. My guess is that this is common in most denominations, and Braestrup has the ability to look beyond what could potentially divide and get to what we share in common.

The book is more a series of vignettes in more or less a chronological order, beginning with the death of her husband and concluding with her finishing theological school and getting married a second time. Her call to ministry is unconventional at best, which may also be why it's such a perfect fit. Her first husband hoped to retire as a Maine State trooper, get his theology degree, and be a police chaplain. After his death in a car accident, Kate decides to do what he was unable to do. Her own loss helps her minister to people who are facing losses themselves, though her personal tragedy never gets in the way of her ministry to others. She also understands the game wardens she works with because of her husband's experiences in law enforcement. We see in the book that she's often uncertain as to how she should minister, how to respond as a mother, and how to reconcile what she is learning to what she is doing, but she's never uncertain about the importance of what she's doing or the dignity of the people she serves.

Braestrup writes a book that is both universal and specific. I think it's a must read for anyone in ministry, especially those in chaplaincy work. It will have an appeal to religious seekers, especially those who do not want anyone giving them pat answers, and anyone who enjoys a compelling memoir.

Perhaps Unitarian Universalist chaplains don't pray for weather (a joke in the book, actually), but here's a prayer Chaplain Braestrup offered for law enforcement officers:

" 'May you be granted capable and amusing comrades, observant witnesses, and gentle homecomings.

" 'May you be granted respite from what you know of human evil, and refuge from what you must know of human pain.

" 'May God defend the goodness in your hearts.

" 'May God defend the sweetness in your souls.' "

Kate Braestrup's HERE IF YOU NEED ME swoons, sighs, mourns, celebrates, and etches out new patterns of thought. In twenty beautifully written chapters that could be delivered as commencement speeches or sermons, tough-minded, tender-hearted Braestrup shines an examining spotlight into various corners of her life. She suddenly became a widowed mother of four. She studied for and was ordained to the U. U. ministry. She still is the chaplain to the Maine game wardens.

Her vivid, visceral prose grapples with the physical realities of life (and death) on the one hand. On the other, it contemplates tenderly, lovingly, such spiritual subjects as whether an afterlife exists or how suicides should be treated by the church. Freely irreverent, and often funny and pithy, Braestrup arranges glimpses of her various charges: her children, her game wardens, and the public she and the wardens serve with determination and full hearts.

But the author excels best when she unabashedly shares her own individuality. For instance, unease (or even revulsion) vies with admiration in the reader as Braestrup tells of bucking the modern trend of leaving the newly dead to the ministrations of funeral homes. She washed her dead husband's body herself and saw to the details of his cremation. And talk about think-for-herself theology: her perspective on miracles is unforgetably novel... "A miracle is not defined by an event. A miracle is defined by gratitude."

HERE IF YOU NEED ME is a miracle, too, in its own way. Readers may feel gratitude at sharing in Braestrup's memorable memoirs.

This remarkable memoir has it all: the courageous journey of a young widow through tragedy, insight filled adventures in the Maine woods and a refreshing view of the role of the spirit in today's world - all told with delightful humor and Downeast common sense. Once you've read it, you're sure to give it to all your friends.

Yesterday I was delighted to receive an earlier than expected shipment of Kate's book. I am making myself slow down to read and savor every word. Kate has an amazing gift with words, rather written or spoken. She captures your attention, shares some amazing concepts, but more importantly embraces your heart.

Is it a requirement that a spiritual person believe in an afterlife? Or is it enough to be able to see spirit made visible around you? It's an intriguing question and after having read Here If You Need Me (at the urging of my sister), it's that question that I took away with me and the comfort of this new idea. I am personally not comfortable with traditional concepts of an afterlife but consider myself a deeply spiritual person...

The stories of care and ministry are beautiful, but it is the humor and perspective that make this a unique read.

Highly recommended.

This is being described as a memoir, and it is. But it is also a testimony.

I'm not a particularly religious person, and there were times that I found myself not in complete agreement with the Reverand's religious ideas. Still, I found this book so very compelling for the religious camp. Rev. Braestrup demonstrates such compassion, love, humor, and down-to-earthness that you're reminded why religious leaders are leaders.

Many others here have given an overall view of this book; I'm going to give you a little sample of what I found to be the overall message of the book...

It was a cold, rainy November day. The wardens had found the body of the suicide, and the Reverend was speaking to the victim's brother. He looked solemn for a minute, then asked if the church would bury his sister, since she had just been told in church that suicide was a sin that God could never forgive. Her answer was basically this:

~The game wardens have been walking through the freezing rain all day trying to find your sister. If they hadn't found her, they would have looked all day tomorrow and the next day, in the cold, in the rain, so they could bring her home to you. If there is one thing I am sure of, it is that God is no less kind, committed, or merciful than a Maine game warden.~

A deep read, but a good one.

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I forget where I had heard about this book. But I was going on vacation so bought it and left it in the suitcase for a few days. When I finally opened the book to when I closed it a few hours later, I loved it.

By now you know the basic story so I'll skip that. Her style is where you can almost hear her telling you this story, it makes the book move along quickly. Each chapter its own sermon. In particular her stories about experiencing religion earlier in life, (seeing Jesus and going to a born-again church) but my favorite chapter was when her brother wrote her asking if she really believed in God. Then the way the chapter alternated between an explanation for why he would ask that question and moving the story ahead. Whenever an author does that, and does it well like Ms. Braestrup does, as a reader I do a little mental dance.

It's about love, something universal, so this is a book for really anyone. I'm 21, I gave it to my mother. Who the minute she finished it called me up and said, "I loved it." Who in turn gave it to my grandmother. Who in turn gave it to my older cousin, who highly recommends that this or at least the first few chapters are not good to read in a restaurant. The waiter had to get her a box of tissue. Each of us only had one complaint. It is to short. You want more. Like I say in the title of my review, buy it, read it, pass it on, get it back, then keep it forever because you will go back to this book again and again.

This book has received a lot of hype, which is bad, because it is a nice, quick read but not a blockbuster. The author is sincere and honest, and the stories she relates are quite touching. I thought it jumped around a bit from her personal life to her professional life, but all in all a very interesting viewpoint on a unique job.

I really liked this book! It was such a touching memoir. I love that they focus more on the journey and triumph than the trial. It is always so dissapointing to me when 98% of a book is about devestation and the last 2% is thier uplifting recovery. Not so here. This woman and her story is so human, so real, so grounded. Great read!