Hero: Becoming the Man She Desires [Paperback]

Fred Stoeker (Author), Jasen Stoeker (Author), Mike Yorkey (Contributor)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 14, 2009

You already know it’s not easy being a single man in this culture today. But it is easy to be overwhelmed, to feel helpless and hopeless about living by God’s high standards for singles. It’s easy to cave in to the pressures of this sex-soaked world and accept defeat–blaming the media, the culture, even girlfriends who don’t know how tough it can be.

But many men have read books like Every Young Man’s Battle and Tactics and have committed themselves to stand strong and pure in the power of God, and to go on the offensive against the onslaught of negative stereotypes. Some have suffered. Some have fallen. But many have experienced victory–and you can be among them.

What makes those committed men so desirable to women? Be Her Hero is their motto. From best-selling author Fred Stoeker, along with his son Jasen, come the straightforward insight and real-life examples you’re looking for to help you take personal purity to its logical conclusion. Here’s straight truth with irrefutable evidence of what makes an ultimate hero to women who long for men of faith–men who stand by their convictions and make their world a safer and better place.

Are you ready to accept the challenge?

Editorial Reviews

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“Will the real men please stand up? These two brothers of mine, father and son, are standing up in purity, courage, and God-honoring strength. I am proud to know them! Read their story and be encouraged by encountering these modern-day heroes.”
–Rebecca St. James, singer, songwriter, musician

“This story is real. Fred and Jasen are indeed heroes in our time. And through God’s grace, you can be too!”
–Dr. Gary Rosberg, founder and CEO, America’s Family Coaches, author of Secrets to a Lasting Love, and co-founder with wife, Barb, of TheGreatMarriageExperience.com

“Hero is my favorite of Fred’s books by far. Its keen biblical insights and practical applications are exactly what we need today. I can’t stop going through it again and again! I have read many books on dating, but Hero easily tops them all. I urge you to read Hero. This book is that good. Fred and Jasen, thanks for being the kind of men many of us want to be.”
–Heath Adamson, youth evangelist, The Seven Project

“Hero is not just another book about dating or purity. As I finished Hero, I came to the realization that this book is truly a message from God’s heart to ours. I couldn’t put it down. I was deeply challenged and inspired by Jasen’s words, but most of all, I felt hopeful. As you read this book, I know you’ll be changed forever.”
–Michael O’Brien, former lead singer of Newsong

“God has sounded the battle cry for the hearts of men. Do you hear it? Will you experience the powerful thrill of what it means to be a real man? She needs a hero. Let Fred and Jasen challenge you to become the hero she needs you to be.”
–Matt Markins, director of the D6 Conference

“In a culture nearly devoid of genuine heroes, I’ve had the honor to witness a few. Fred and Jason Stoeker are such men. Every man on planet Earth needs to read and apply the biblical lessons in this book.”
–Clay Allen, pastor, president, and founder of AVENUE Resource and author of Operation Destiny

“Inspiring. Captivating. Thoroughly biblical. Fred and Jasen Stoeker cry out to the men and women of our generation and challenge them to joy-filled holiness. Hero invites us into the God-centered romance I long to see play out again and again.”
–Paul Sabino, family pastor, Cornerstone Church, Ames, Iowa

“I love Hero! As I began reading this thought-provoking book, tears filled my eyes and hope captured my soul. Hero delivers some jarring ‘reality’ reading, living proof that whatever the enemy means for harm, God uses for good. Anyone reading these pages will be thoroughly challenged to become a true hero.”
–James A. Montera, president of Mercy Seat Ministries Midwest, Inc. and founder of Refuge School of Ministry

About the Author

Fred Stoeker is a bestselling author of several books, including Every Young Man’s Battle and Tactics, the president of Living True Ministries, and a popular conference speaker who challenges men to become sexually pure, to reconnect in true intimate relationship with their wives, and to train their sons to become godly men. A graduate of Stanford University, Fred lives in Des Moines, Iowa with his wife, Brenda, and their children.

Mike Yorkey, a writer living in Encinitas, California, has collaborated with Fred Stoeker in all his books for the Every Man’s series.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 240 pages
• Publisher: WaterBrook Press (April 14, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1400071097
• ISBN-13: 978-1400071098
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 5.9 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.1 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (20 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #240,707 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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5 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Women are looking for this kind of Hero!, May 9, 2009

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Christina - See all my reviews

This review is from: Hero: Becoming the Man She Desires (Paperback)

I will start by making two disclaimers - 1) I am related to the authors and 2) I am a woman. I think these two things give me additional insight into this book.

Whenever I read a book like this it is very important to me to know that the authors are living out what they write. I have known Fred and Jasen my whole life and I know that they are what they represent themselves to be in the book. Fred and Brenda's marriage is one that I hope to emulate someday when I get married. In this book Fred gives insight that is biblically sound and has been proven true in the crucible of life. I also had the opportunity to watch Jasen and Rose's relationship from the time Jasen was trying to decide whether to ask Rose out to their first kiss on their wedding day. Jasen and Rose sought to glorify God in their dating relationship and continue to do so in their marriage. Jasen really was and continues to be a Hero.

I have two observations about this book from the female perspective. First, to all of the single men out there who are looking at this book - this is the kind of man that godly, single women are looking for. We are looking for men who will take a stand for purity. We are looking for men who zealously guard their own purity, but will also protect our purity and encourage us to go deeper in our walk with God. There are several stories in this book about men who decided to take a stand for purity and their girlfriends resented it. If you are in a relationship like that - get out. A godly woman will encourage you and pray for you as you pursue purity.

Second, this book has several sections that are written by Rose. I really appreciated that because it illustrates what a godly woman looks like.

Finally, it has been my experience that books like this are frequently read by women. If you are a single woman looking at this book I recommend you read it. It will show you what kind of a man you should be looking for. Don't settle for anything less than a Hero!

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The best so far., May 15, 2009

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Bethany R Hartman (Deer Park, TX) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Hero: Becoming the Man She Desires (Paperback)

I know that Hero is written to men, but it should give some hope and perspective to single women as well. Maybe to know how to treat and pray for their future husbands and the guys in their lives, but it should also give hope that there ARE men out there worth waiting for and not to settle for less than a "hero."

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Synchronizing Your Life with God's Standard of Sexual Purity, May 4, 2009

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Richard R. Blake (Bridgman, Michigan) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Hero: Becoming the Man She Desires (Paperback)

"Hero: Becoming the Man She Desires" challenges young men to recognize that they are in a battle to maintain sexual purity in a culture that is saturated with temptation and pressure from peers which create personal sexual struggles. Fred Stoeker collaborates with his son Jasen and Mike Yorkey to address single men specifically, providing practical principles for maintaining sexual purity, and a God centered romance.

Biblical examples are drawn from the Old Testament which parallel Baal worship and idolatry from Israel's history to the way the modern world is obsessed with promulgating sexual promiscuity. The authors openly address issues of pornography, lust, masturbation, generational sex sins, and nine myths promoted by society today.

"Hero: Becoming the Man She Desires" is an important book for single men and should be read by every Christian guy in Junior and Senior High School and young adult. The book is readily adaptable for small group consideration, accountability groups or for individual reading. This is a book that will help single men win the battle over the pressure of sexual temptation while becoming men of honor and a hero to the women who are looking for men of faith who keep their commitment to a life of personal holiness.