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Editorial Reviews


“Will the real men please stand up? These two brothers of mine, father and son, are standing up in purity, courage, and God-honoring strength. I am proud to know them! Read their story and be encouraged by encountering these modern-day heroes.”
Rebecca St. James, singer, songwriter, musician

“This story is real. Fred and Jasen are indeed heroes in our time. And through God’s grace, you can be too!”
Dr. Gary Rosberg, founder and CEO, America’s Family Coaches, author of Secrets to a Lasting Love, and co-founder with wife, Barb, of TheGreatMarriageExperience.com

Hero is my favorite of Fred’s books by far. Its keen biblical insights and practical applications are exactly what we need today. I can’t stop going through it again and again! I have read many books on dating, but Hero easily tops them all. I urge you to read Hero. This book is that good. Fred and Jasen, thanks for being the kind of men many of us want to be.”
Heath Adamson, youth evangelist, The Seven Project

Hero is not just another book about dating or purity. As I finished Hero, I came to the realization that this book is truly a message from God’s heart to ours. I couldn’t put it down. I was deeply challenged and inspired by Jasen’s words, but most of all, I felt hopeful. As you read this book, I know you’ll be changed forever.”
Michael O’Brien, former lead singer of Newsong

“God has sounded the battle cry for the hearts of men. Do you hear it? Will you experience the powerful thrill of what it means to be a real man? She needs a hero. Let Fred and Jasen challenge you to become the hero she needs you to be.”
Matt Markins, director of the D6 Conference

“In a culture nearly devoid of genuine heroes, I’ve had the honor to witness a few. Fred and Jason Stoeker are such men. Every man on planet Earth needs to read and apply the biblical lessons in this book.”
Clay Allen, pastor, president, and founder of AVENUE Resource and author of Operation Destiny

“Inspiring. Captivating. Thoroughly biblical. Fred and Jasen Stoeker cry out to the men and women of our generation and challenge them to joy-filled holiness. Hero invites us into the God-centered romance I long to see play out again and again.”
Paul Sabino, family pastor, Cornerstone Church, Ames, Iowa

“I love Hero! As I began reading this thought-provoking book, tears filled my eyes and hope captured my soul. Hero delivers some jarring ‘reality’ reading, living proof that whatever the enemy means for harm, God uses for good. Anyone reading these pages will be thoroughly challenged to become a true hero.”
James A. Montera, president of Mercy Seat Ministries Midwest, Inc. and founder of Refuge School of Ministry

About the Author

Fred Stoeker is a bestselling author of several books, including Every Young Man’s Battle and Tactics, the president of Living True Ministries, and a popular conference speaker who challenges men to become sexually pure, to reconnect in true intimate relationship with their wives, and to train their sons to become godly men. A graduate of Stanford University, Fred lives in Des Moines, Iowa with his wife, Brenda, and their children.

Mike Yorkey, a writer living in Encinitas, California, has collaborated with Fred Stoeker in all his books for the Every Man’s series.


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 240 pages
  • Publisher: WaterBrook Press (April 14, 2009)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1400071097
  • ISBN-13: 978-1400071098
  • Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.6 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 9.1 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (41 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #421,640 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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17 of 18 people found the following review helpful By Christina on May 9, 2009
Format: Paperback
I will start by making two disclaimers - 1) I am related to the authors and 2) I am a woman. I think these two things give me additional insight into this book.

Whenever I read a book like this it is very important to me to know that the authors are living out what they write. I have known Fred and Jasen my whole life and I know that they are what they represent themselves to be in the book. Fred and Brenda's marriage is one that I hope to emulate someday when I get married. In this book Fred gives insight that is biblically sound and has been proven true in the crucible of life. I also had the opportunity to watch Jasen and Rose's relationship from the time Jasen was trying to decide whether to ask Rose out to their first kiss on their wedding day. Jasen and Rose sought to glorify God in their dating relationship and continue to do so in their marriage. Jasen really was and continues to be a Hero.

I have two observations about this book from the female perspective. First, to all of the single men out there who are looking at this book - this is the kind of man that godly, single women are looking for. We are looking for men who will take a stand for purity. We are looking for men who zealously guard their own purity, but will also protect our purity and encourage us to go deeper in our walk with God. There are several stories in this book about men who decided to take a stand for purity and their girlfriends resented it. If you are in a relationship like that - get out. A godly woman will encourage you and pray for you as you pursue purity.

Second, this book has several sections that are written by Rose. I really appreciated that because it illustrates what a godly woman looks like.
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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful By Connie Y. Mishali on May 14, 2009
Format: Paperback
Hero, Becoming the Man She Desires, by Fred Stoeker and his son, Jasen, is a fabulous book for a teen, young adult, or parent. Essentially, it is a book about how a single, young man can remain (or become) sexually pure. In doing so, you strengthen your relationship with God through your obedience to His word, you protect the women who come into your life, and eventually you find a similar young woman with whom to spend the rest of your life. The principles of this book are not easy - a fact the authors admit - but they are possible and Jasen Stoeker proves it. His first kiss (EVER) occurred on his wedding day to a beautiful, righteous young woman. While his wife had kissed in the past, she, too, had remained sexually pure.

I had the pleasure and honor of knowing a young couple such as this. A handsome young man and a beautiful young woman who saved themselves for each other on their wedding day. Although their decisions weren't easy and didn't always make them popular, they had/have plenty of friends and more fun than I ever thought possible.

In fact, this book made me sad because although I'm happily married now, I didn't remain pure in my life and I was skeptical of anyone who would want to try. Now that I am older, wiser, and slightly more in tune with God's heart, I know He was right and I was wrong (duh). This is what God intended for a relationship.

This book is down to earth and honest about the difficulty of the task. It also contains invaluable practical advice on how to win the battle.
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful By Christina Lockstein on May 20, 2009
Format: Kindle Edition
Hero by Fred & Jasen Stoeker should be required reading for every Christian young man and his parents. Fred, author of Every Man's Battle, faced a battle against the flesh that had been passed down from grandfather to father to son, until one day looking into his two-year old son Jasen's eyes, he decided that the generational curse of adultery and pornography would end with him. Because of Fred's decision, Jasen made his own decision to keep himself pure until marrying the woman God led him to, which didn't exactly make him the most popular guy in high school. Despite temptation and peer pressure, Jasen didn't even kiss his wife Rose until the minister gave them permission during their wedding ceremony. The authors attack the strongholds of deceit that society has instilled in our brains about sex: women want it just as much as men, finding out if you are sexually compatible before marriage is necessary, God gave men a sexual desire so He of course allows them an outlet, and other lies. Jasen talks about his walk through high school and college, facing derision and coming out a strong man of God on the other side. His wife Rose also offers her point of view on what a true hero of God looks like. Their revelations about how society has warped even Christians' view of sex are startling and enlightening. It's a powerful book with a must-read message
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Vicki Martin on May 30, 2009
Format: Paperback
I am so pleased with "Hero". My husband is a pastor and is so impressed with not only the candid way the book is written, but the Biblical references as well. We have a 15 year old son and we use "Hero" as our evening devotion. Each night we get comfortable, read a section of "Hero" and spend about 20-30 minutes discussing what we read. It has given our son a voice and I believe he will be a more godly man. "Hero" has given my family a way to discuss topics that normally would not come up. I believe every teen, adult (men & women) need a copy of this book for themselves and every member of their extended families. Talk about sowing a good seed! Not only will this book change you and your families lives, but it will change the world if people will live by its powerful truths. The authors of this engaging book are true heroes to us all.
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