The Hidden Lover: What Women Need to Know That Men Can't Tell Them [Paperback]

William July II (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 11, 2003

The relationship coach returns, delivering straight talk on the bachelor mentality and how women can break through it.

In his popular work advising troubled couples and singles, William July II has uncovered certain unmistakable truths about most men, particularly those who think of marriage as a form of torture. Moreover, he's discovered that women often try so hard to conquer their boyfriends' fears that they end up scaring them even more. Now, in The Hidden Lover, July delivers the kind of no-holds-barred dialogue that women and men should have but don't, covering hot topics like these:

• Single, Successful, And Not Interested In Marriage! What's Up With That?

• Why There is a Hidden Lover Inside Every Man.

• Disappearing Acts: How Hidden Lovers Hide While In Relationships.

• Women Who Frighten Away Potential Husbands.

• I'm Not Superman: How Trying to Be Superman Can Affect a Relationship.

Getting to the heart of commitment phobics and the women who fall in love with them, The Hidden Lover offers the kind of realistic, compassionate advice that thousands of not-so-swinging singles have been waiting for.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Unlike the intimacy avoiders July explored in Understanding the Tin Man, "hidden lovers" are men in committed relationships, unable to make a true emotional connection to the women they love because of a deep-seated inability to express their fears and vulnerabilities. July's friendly and direct writing style belies his highly organized format, spanning a diverse range of topics from the ways women inadvertently disrespect their men through comparison and nagging to identifying the manifestations of society's narrow standards of manhood. Along the way, he helps readers sort out troubled relationship histories and clarify the impact September 11 had on our lives. Drawing heavily on interviews from his Web site, personal anecdotes and his own fascination with the dynamics of relationships, July leads both hidden lovers and their partners on a journey of self-exploration while emphasizing the lack of "hard and fast rules" and the uniqueness of each person's situation. With quizzes, questions at the end of each chapter, sample dialogues, communication tips and model letters from the hidden lover, this volume offers an interactive approach and serves as both an explanation and catalyst for change. July's book will appeal most to couples wanting a deeper level of intimacy.
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Review

"Finally, a man steps up who's willing to tell woman the straight truth about what goes on inside the minds of men."
-Barbara DeAngelis, author of Secrets About About Men Every Woman Should Know

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Product Details

• Paperback: 272 pages
• Publisher: Broadway; 1 edition (February 11, 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0385501358
• ISBN-13: 978-0385501354
• Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.6 x 8.2 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (1 customer review)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,622,787 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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12 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Every Woman Should Own a Copy of this Book, April 18, 2003

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This review is from: The Hidden Lover: What Women Need to Know That Men Can't Tell Them (Paperback)

I have nothing but absolute praise for "The Hidden Lover" by William July. Ladies, this is the answer book of the new millennium. William July tells it like it is without the fluff that is usually found in books of this type. You will never view your man the same after reading it. His use of Journaling and Things to Think About at the end of each chapter is an added bonus into how we can better apply the information he's providing. It's refreshing to hear the truth from a man in a time where truth is questionable. He definitely did his research. I wish I could purchase a copy of this book for every woman walking on the planet.

This honest and insightful peak into the male psyche is refreshing. This is a must read!