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  • Paperback: 272 pages
  • Publisher: High Conflict Institute Press; Fourth Printing edition (March 30, 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1936268000
  • ISBN-13: 978-1936268009
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #31,600 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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About the Author

Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator and the President of High Conflict Institute. He developed the "High Conflict Personality" theory (HCP Theory) and has become an international expert on managing disputes involving high-conflict personalities and personality disorders. He provides training on this subject to lawyers, judges, mediators, managers, human resource professionals, businesspersons, healthcare administrators, college administrators, homeowners’ association managers, ombudspersons, law enforcement, therapists and others. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 25 states, several provinces in Canada, Australia, France and Sweden.

As an attorney, Bill is a Certified Family Law Specialist in California and the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego. Prior to becoming an attorney in 1992, he was a Licensed Clinical Social worker with twelve years’ experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics. He has taught Negotiation and Mediation at the University of San Diego School of Law for six years and he is on the part-time faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law and the National Judicial College.

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Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., is President and co-founder of High Conflict Institute based in San Diego, California. Bill is a Certified Family Law Specialist in California with over fifteen years' experience representing clients in family court, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with twelve years' experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples, and families in psychiatric hospitals and out patient clinics. He is Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego, California.

He provides seminars on mental health issues for judges, attorneys, and mediators, and seminars on law and ethics for mental health professionals. He has taught Negotiation and Mediation at the University of San Diego School of Law and serves as adjunct faculty at the National Judicial College and Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at Pepperdine University. His articles have appeared in national law and counseling journals. He is the author of several books, including BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, It's All Your Fault! 12 Tips for Handling People Who Blame Others for Everything, Don't Alienate the Kids: Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High Conflict Divorce, High Conflict People in Legal Disputes and SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Bill has been a speaker in over 25 states, several provinces in Canada, France, Sweden, and Australia. He has become an authority and consultant on the subject of high conflict personalities for family law professionals, employee assistance and human resource professionals, ombudspersons, healthcare administrators, college administrators, homeowners associations, and others.

Bill obtained his law degree in 1992 from the University of San Diego, a Master's of Social Work degree in 1981 from San Diego State University, and a Bachelor's degree in Psychology in 1970 from Case Western Reserve University. He began his career as a youth social worker in a changing neighborhood in New York City and first became involved in mediation in 1975 in San Diego.

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11 of 11 people found the following review helpful By Jane Doe on April 29, 2012
Format: Paperback
I believe the most compelling case for my position of "this book is AWESOME" will be made by reprinting the table of contents + chapter one's closing summary. For me, this book is keeper. I plan to reprint & carry around the chapter 1 summary in my purse for a while to really sink in the material. I believe that will help reduce my reactivity to the insulting, counter-productive, crazy-making input I receive. Later I'll do likewise with material from later chapters.

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Table of Contents: Part I: Understanding High Conflict Personalities. 1) The Problem: Personalities Drive Conflict, 2) The Pattern: An Enduring Pattern of Blame, 3) Borderline Personalities: Love You, Hate You, 4) Narcissistic Personalities: I'm Very Superior, 5) Antisocial Personalities: Con Artists, 6) Histrionic Personalities: Always Dramatic, 7) The Enablers: Family, Friends & Professionals. Part II: Managing & Resolving Their Disputes. 8) Bonding: Providing Security & Limits, 9)Structure: Containing Emotions & Focusing On Tasks, 10) Reality Testing: Cognitive Distortions & Legal Standards, 11) Consequences: Motivating Reflection & Behavior Change, 12) A United Approach: The Key to Resolving High-Conflict Disputes

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Avoid triggering fears of abandonment (Histrionic), inferiority (Narcissistic), domination (Antisocial), or neglect (Histrionic).
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Chapter 1 Summary (pg. 26)
The problem: personalities drive conflict.

HCP Enduring Pattern of Behavior:
1. chronic feelings of internal distress
2. thinks the cause is external
3. behaves inappropriately to relieve distress
4. distress continues unrelieved
5.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Andrew S. Rasmussen on March 15, 2012
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This book provided great advice , insight and effective strategies for me in a most challenging time of my life.

Some things that really stand out as helpful:
* treat the person as you would any other professional client
*don't argue or get upset, focus on what to do next
*be modest and matter of factual
*avoid direct criticism of BPs, strong anger, ignoring them, or abruptly terminating relationships with them
* give NPs positive feedback and admiration
*stroke NPs egos
*it may be most effective to suggest counseling "for dealing with the stress" of the dispute
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By For real on June 5, 2012
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I have recently fell prey to a very few high conflicted persons. Somehow I was pushing the wrong buttons and set them off. This book help me to not flare this type of person up. I plan to keep the advice learned. Thank you for a timely order to door step deliverly. I read the book in 4 days.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By Lisa Morrison on May 28, 2012
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This book provides a view of personality disorders from a lawyers view, but it remains very good clinically. It provides a good overview of the disorders as well as several case examples. I would recommend this for other social workers trying to work with both toxic clients and staff.
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5 of 6 people found the following review helpful By M. Butler on July 10, 2011
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Bill Eddy has defined and documented the behavior of the most difficult people to work with ever imagined. He provides real-life experience and methodologies to gain some sanity in resolving conflicts with persons suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD.
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