Aron details the positive and negative sides to such relationships, including how the HSP benefits, how both members of the relationship benefit, the typical challenges that arise, and solutions to those challenges. For instance, a relationship made up of two HSPs may engender low levels of arousal, or awareness, which means that both of you will avoid doing the same things that make you uncomfortable, such as shopping, dealing with conflict, and being in crowds. Solution? Simplify your life, see if you can hire someone to take care of the tasks neither of you wants to do--but don't forget that doing such tasks is also a way to grow personally--and divvy up the tasks according to preference. As for conflict, Aron says that having a plan of action is the best route--decide how to handle conflict in the relationship before the conflict flares up. Another reality of an HSP-HSP union is that neither person will be able to max out on work and expect to have a decent home life, so at least one of you will have to limit activities. So, plan not to have more than one child if you both work (it may be too late for some couples to put this one into action; if so, Aron advises that one parent stay at home).
Throughout the book, Aron stresses that being in a relationship is a "package deal"; neither the HSP nor the non-HSP is perfect, so she urges readers to appreciate the positive aspects of their sensitivity, be it highly sensitive or not, and not to dwell on its drawbacks. But she does urge HSPs who are unhappy with their trait to work on coming to terms with it--through inner work, counseling, or medication if needed--as its qualities, when properly appreciated, can be life enhancing and beneficial to HSPs as well as to their relationship partners. --Stefanie Durbin --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.
If you wonder why you're effected by things others aren't. This is the book for you. Both my fiancee and I fall into the type of the HSP. Read morePublished 18 days ago by sheila
One might expect a clinical approach to this subject but what is written and received is both highly informative and soul- stirringly sensitive. I recommend it highly.Published 1 month ago by Marita Torbick
I somehow keep receiving the wrong Book, maybe it was my mistake, however, at this point I'm not sure.
Please help me speak to someone so that I can straighten this out. Read more
This book was highly recommended by a lot of teachers and psychologist. It gave me an insight on what a highly sensitive person is. Read morePublished 5 months ago by apr c