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His Cold Feet: A Guide for the Woman Who Wants to Tie the Knot with the Guy Who Wants to Talk About It Later

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I've been with my boyfriend for over seven years and have read almost every book out there about men with commitment issues. None of them were as helpful to me as this book was. The focus of this book is not about what you should do to get him to propose, but rather about how to communicate more effectively and openly about engagement. My boyfriend and I have been talking in circles for years, but by using the communication tips and tools in this book, I have a feeling we'll finally stop spinning.

I cracked up when I read this book. I went through these issues with my wife, and I could relate to so many things the book talks about, from my wife's silly attempts to get me to propose, to my wondering if a naked supermodel would show up at my door if I just held out a little longer. It's great book, and men and women will both laugh and learn from it. Enjoy

This book truly explores the complexity of what love, commitment and marriage mean to both men and women and how to effectively communicate your desire to tie the knot in a way that won't "freeze his feet". This book will have you laughing and crying at yourself and most importantly will make you feel less alone. Andrea Passman Candell's use of surveys, client anecdotes, quotes and therapeutic exercises make this book superior to anything else I have come across. This is a must read for anyone that wants to get married and feel good about the process of getting there.

Finally, a book that really makes you feel like you are not alone. Not every guy pops the question so easily and the author really helps the reader understand why. It's a good read - easy and fun - and really helpful to men and women in a relationship that doesn't seem to be moving forward. I have read a lot of "relationship" books and this is one of the best! Highly recommended.

Since this book has had so many positive reviews I know I'm going against the grain in saying I didn't find this helpful.

I suppose if this is the first book you've ever read on the subject you may find it interesting. In my case, I've read a few so I didn't find any new information.

It was so girly-gushy to me I can't imagine how any guy could ever wade through the trying-to-be-cute phrases. In my opinion, these should have been edited out. I found it interesting that the author was incorporating the opinions of several guys, then realized she was quoting basically the same group over and over.

I also read David Hawkins' book, "When the Man in Your Life Can't Commit," and found it had much more new information. I also think Hawkins' book may be one I could ask my boyfriend to read without feeling like I'm subjecting him to a mountain of sugarcoated fluff, enough to make any red-blooded American male gag.

For the price, it may not be a bad deal for the girl just encountering this subject. At least it doesn't advocate as much game-playing as some of the books out there. But from what I've seen, there are more informative, better organized, less annoying books available on this subject.

This book addresses an old age issue existing between men and women and breaks it down in a way that we all can understand. The book made me ask my own questions and gain understanding of how men and women approach marriage so differently and why. After reading the book you feel less alone in the struggles surrounding marriage and more at peace regardless of the outcome in your life.

I went through such a tough time trying to figure out why
my bf and I weren't on the road to getting married. Great book
with insight and a very helpful way to think about things and
help me put it in perspective. I realized there are a lot of
things I could learn through this process and this book was
a great start to communication with my partner.

This book gave me tremendous insight and practical advice that I could relate to the situation I am currently in with my boyfriend of seven years. The book provides clarity and reasonable options as to what to do when faced with the situation of attempting to move your relationship forward to the next level of engagement and then to marriage. "His Cold Feet" covers how to take control of the situation and how to also take control of your own life when there appears to not be a light at the end of the tunnel any time soon. I HIGHLY recommend this book. - Jen G

I ordered this book as a self help solution to try to calm me down from having the addiction with wanting to get married. However, it just made me cry every time I read it. I'm glad that the women in the book finally got engaged, but I'm still not and this book just made me more depressed. There were examples of women who had been together for 2.5 years and finally got engaged. I've been with my boyfriend longer than that and still do not have a ring on my finger. It just made me more upset to see what the author considered a long waiting period, and I've been waiting even longer. The book does list good reasons why he is waiting, but I've already heard all those from his mouth. I had to check the cover to see if I was reading, "he is just not that in to you." I guess it helped to confirm that some guys are really holding off for financial reasons. Otherwise it just really made me all the more upset every time I went to read it looking for self help and found more self pity for myself.

I'm so happy to read a one-of-a-kind book that gave me insights into the different ways that men and women think about marriage and relationship....stocked with humor and great visuals of what is going on between the lines of communication. I hope that I don't have to go through it...but if I do, I'll be much more prepared. Thanks!