His Rules: God's Practical Road Map for Becoming and Attracting Mr. or Mrs. Right [Hardcover]

Christopher Burge (Author), Pamela Toussaint (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 11, 2005

Frustrated by All the Advice for Finding Mr. or Mrs. Right?

Some worldly “experts” may sound sexy but don’t offer the spiritual tools you need to address the real-life pains, temptations, and fears associated with the dating experience. Quickie solutions won’t cut it, and neither will a wait-and-see approach. You want God’s views–His rules for becoming and attracting a lifelong mate. This book offers the answers you’ve been seeking.

·Rule 1: Make Sure Your Map Isn’t Upside Down (Get a clue about what real relationships are about, for your own sake!)
·Rule 5: Clean House (If your internal house is dirty, how can you invite folks to come live with you?)
·Rule 6: Put the Kingdom Above the Booty (God’s not getting relationship rules from Sex and the City, so why are you?)
·Rule 11: Stop Looking Back (Crying about what could’ve been keeps you from what can be.)
·Rule 15: Handle the Heat (Learn how to tame the fire, or get out of the kitchen.)
·Plus eleven more rules for avoiding relationship disasters.

Using wit, straight talk, and real-life illustrations, His Rules explores relationship guidelines singles can follow as they seek out lifelong love. These no-nonsense relationship rules will equip you to get closer to God, challenge you to clean up your act in preparation for a mate, and give you the savvy you need to distinguish a godly mate from an imposter.

Because when you commit to following God’s guidance, your relationship will not only work–it will last.

Editorial Reviews

Review

Praise for His Rules

His Rules is de rigeur for any single with a sincere desire to find the “special sauce” mate God has for them.
--Ronn Elmore, Psy.d, Author, Transforming Your Relationships: An Action Plan for Love that Lasts (with T.D. Jakes)

His Rules is an amazingly Biblical guidebook with practical and relevant encouragement for all singles. Our single sons will all get a copy!
--Pam and Bill Farrel, Authors of Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti and Why Men and Women Act the Way They Do!

Instead of telling singles how–or not–to date, Burge and Toussaint tell singles how to prepare themselves for the spouse God intends them to have and what to do once they think that person has been found. Their insightful questions and activities help singles delve deep into their own expectations and misconceptions about marriage and lead them toward healthy relationships with the Lord and with their future partner. Christian singles who find their methods are ineffective, as they often are, will be relieved to read this book and find a roadmap to guide them to and through one of the most important decisions of their lives.
--Alison Strobel, author of Worlds Collide

Christopher and Pamela have written a must-read book for Christian singles longing for a soul mate. Each chapter systematically dismantles the fantasies, untruths, and faulty thinking that undermine a successful search for a mate and a successful marriage. His Rules equips readers with insights and skills that force them to dig deep within their own souls to prepare themselves for a God honoring marriage–long before anyone is even in the picture.
--Cheryl Green, author of World Wide Search: The Savvy Christian's Guide to Online Dating

From the Inside Flap

Frustrated by All the Advice for Finding Mr. or Mrs. Right?

Some worldly "experts" may sound sexy but don't offer the spiritual tools you need to address the real-life pains, temptations, and fears associated with the dating experience. Quickie solutions won't cut it, and neither will a wait-and-see approach. You want God's views–His rules for becoming and attracting a lifelong mate. This book offers the answers you've been seeking.

·Rule 1: Make Sure Your Map Isn't Upside Down (Get a clue about what real relationships are about, for your own sake!)
·Rule 5: Clean House (If your internal house is dirty, how can you invite folks to come live with you?)
·Rule 6: Put the Kingdom Above the Booty (God's not getting relationship rules from Sex and the City, so why are you?)
·Rule 11: Stop Looking Back (Crying about what could've been keeps you from what can be.)
·Rule 15: Handle the Heat (Learn how to tame the fire, or get out of the kitchen.)
·Plus eleven more rules for avoiding relationship disasters.

Using wit, straight talk, and real-life illustrations, His Rules explores relationship guidelines singles can follow as they seek out lifelong love. These no-nonsense relationship rules will equip you to get closer to God, challenge you to clean up your act in preparation for a mate, and give you the savvy you need to distinguish a godly mate from an imposter.

Because when you commit to following God's guidance, your relationship will not only work–it will last.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 256 pages
• Publisher: WaterBrook Press (January 11, 2005)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1578569583
• ISBN-13: 978-1578569588
• Product Dimensions: 5.8 x 1 x 8.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.4 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (18 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #823,307 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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15 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Has God joined it together?, January 11, 2005

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The RAWSISTAZ Reviewers (RAWSISTAZ.com and BlackBookReviews.net) - See all my reviews

This review is from: His Rules: God's Practical Road Map for Becoming and Attracting Mr. or Mrs. Right (Hardcover)

How do you find a mate? And more specifically how do you become a
mate? There is no doubt that there is an overabundance of advice
on how to accomplish both scenarios. However if you want to truly
experience the culmination of this search you cannot listen to
'experts' who shower us with the physical aspects of the conquest,
we must adhere to the rules of God. One vow states "What God has
joined together, let no man put asunder", and if wefollow His
rules we will be assured that God has indeed joined it together.

With candor, frankness and real illustration, HIS RULES explores
relationship guidelines, based on the scripture. One of the goals
of this book is to prepare readers to get closer to God and clean
up their lives in preparation for a blessed union. The blueprint
for becoming and attracting a lifelong mate is accomplished in
its fullness when God is first in our lives. God has a plan, think
about the significance of how woman was created. If we allow God
to lead us, when we are joined in holy matrimony, His plan will
prevail and each rib will fit.

The book is divided into three main sections, Get Dieseled, Get
Smart and Get Together. The chapters in each section are
subscripted with scriptures, to emphasize the author's message.
Again, the intent of the authors is to convey God's relationship
principles, which are laid out explicitly in His Word. And also
to enlighten couples that the walk down the aisle in not the end,
we must follow his rules to infinity. This book is an excellent
guide for those seeking a blessing from God shaped in the body of
a soul mate.

Reviewed by aNN
of The RAWSISTAZ™ Reviewers

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars His Rules - A Great Read, March 25, 2005

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E. Chavannes - See all my reviews

This review is from: His Rules: God's Practical Road Map for Becoming and Attracting Mr. or Mrs. Right (Hardcover)

This book is a great read. Not only does it show how to attract the right mate, but most importantly how to become the right person. This is exactly what we should focus on, and His Rules does a great job at that. One amazing fact is that it is inspired by many scriptures, thus demonstrates the passion of God for relationships that work under His Rules.
This book is well written, with funny illustrations but all the more serious at the same time. It contains real life stories that we can all relate to at some point. It is excellent material to study what we all want to master: relationships that work.

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars His Rules-RULE!, January 22, 2005

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The Good Girl Reviewers "goodgirlbookclubonline" (Chicago, IL United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: His Rules: God's Practical Road Map for Becoming and Attracting Mr. or Mrs. Right (Hardcover)

His Rules is THE ultimate relationship road map to guide Christian singles on their quest toward lifelong love and happiness! Using humor, real life examples and in your face, straight talk, Burge and Tousasaint offer valuable, no-nonsense advice on relationship rules that line up with God's Word. These principles are time tested and very valuable. When you have the marriage of a lifetime-you'll have this book to thank for it! Perfect for individuals, singles groups and ministries, too.

Submitted by M. Lorraine for The GOOD GIRL Book Club www.goodgirlbookclubonline.com