46 of 47 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
One of the most honest, painful memoirs I have ever read., June 30, 2009
This review is from: Hit Hard: A Story of Hitting Rock Bottom at the Top (Hardcover)
I don't know exactly what I expected when I began to read "Hit Hard," Joey Kramer's "Story of Hitting Rock Bottom from the Top." As an avid Aerosmith fan, I assumed there would be a fair dose of fascinating Aerosmith history, including various tales of overindulgence in sex, drugs and whatever else comes with being a huge rock star. While the book does not disappoint in that respect, it is so much more. No question Joey is an interesting guy who seemed to have had a great life, but you would have no idea how truly difficult his life was, or how real and honest he is, until you read this book.
I never knew very much about Joey Kramer personally, as other band members tend to take center stage and news about the band is often news about them. He is obviously an incredibly talented drummer, who carries the band forward in a hard rocking style that is pretty much unmatched by any other band I have ever heard. In live performances by Aerosmith, you can't fail to notice how central Joey's role is: every band member at one time or another gravitates over to stand by Joey, as if to more closely connect to the center of the band's power. But other than knowing that Joey, as all the other "bad boys" of Aerosmith, had abused drugs and alcohol, that he was responsible for the band's name, and seemed to have been married forever to his lovely wife April, I knew virtually nothing about his backgound or his life.
The book begins with a stunning foreward by Nikki Sixx (whose own recent memoir, "Heroin Diaries," was as raw and painful as it gets), which helps to prepare one emotionally for what is to follow. What you learn from the outset is that Joey Kramer's life has been plagued by demons -- primarily the abuse he suffered at his father's hands -- which has tainted the most important relationships in his life, and caused him to avoid rather than deal with important emotions like anger and hurt. While Joey focused on and hid in his music, and numbed himself with drugs and alcohol, these feelings -- of inadequacy and resentment -- were continuously "stuffed down" until they finally exploded and Joey experienced a crippling "nervous breakdown." Joey talks openly and honestly about his journey back from this abyss, and how incredibly difficult it was for him to fully accept and feel good about himself again.
It is impossible not to be affected by Joey's story. I cried when I read Joey's account of finally losing the father who he clearly loved so dearly, but who had done so much emotional damage to him, and how he ultimately dealt with that loss. The road back for Joey has been long and not without potholes. I cried again when I realized that the story was not going to end with Joey and April Kramer walking off into the sunset as a healed and emotionally healthy couple. While I am sad for that loss, I am happy that Joey has found a new relationship in which he feels more grounded and complete.
The most touching aspect of this story, for me, is the courage it took for Joey to face his demons, to deal with them, and to emerge a stronger, healthier person. If that were not enough, he has told his story with honesty and grace, and I believe he really did this to try to help others who may feel that, once you are as far down as he was, there is no coming back.
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7 of 8 people found the following review helpful:
3.0 out of 5 stars
Depression, drugs and rock & roll, September 22, 2009
This review is from: Hit Hard: A Story of Hitting Rock Bottom at the Top (Hardcover)
Very interesting. Not the best written but I learned some stuff about Aerosmith and about drumming. Plus I got some insight into how someone else copes with anxiety and depression.
I did notice he barely mentioned his accident where he was burned at a gas station. Other than mentioning it was very painful. He also didn't mention a lot about his son. What kind of father he is since he got off drugs. He mentioned a lot about his dad because that's where his issues were at. It did make me cry a little. I can understand it's hard to forgive someone when they are dead and you can't talk it out. He did try to forgive his dad before he died but with his dad having Parkinson's he couldn't communicate. Sometimes you just got to let it go and move on. I think he's finally doing that.
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11 of 15 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Hit Hard.....Hit home, July 26, 2009
This review is from: Hit Hard: A Story of Hitting Rock Bottom at the Top (Hardcover)
This book really made me see things about myself that I didn't realize until I read it. I think Joey did a great justice to himself and others by writing it. I must admit that had he not been a member of Aerosmith I most likely would not have read it. Aerosmith has always been my favorite group and I enjoy learning things about them. Well, I did learn a lot about Joey and them and myself. Joey and I have some things in common and the way he explained them was so insightful that it prevented me from putting the book down at times.
I think a lot of people will be able to relate to his story, except for the fame and money, of course. Growing up in the 50's and 60's was a LOT tougher than it is today and Joey was a good example of that. Actions spoke louder than words when it came to discipline. His father's treatment of him had a huge impact on his life. Some parents don't realize the effects their actions have on their kids. Tough love hurts. Parents should read this as a 'how not to raise your kids' kind of book.
I'm glad Joey lived to tell his story. The drugs and alcohol were out of control and could have taken his life. Not many people-especially rock stars- live to say they've been to the edge and returned with a mission. I sincerely commend Joey for expressing all of his emotions and sharing his rocky life with us. Fame and money are nothing compared to happiness and sanity. Joey seems to have found his and if not, he's definitely on his way. Maybe he'll have a follow up book to tell us.
Don't expect a lot about the band itself. This is Joey's story and how his life affected the band and vice versa. If you want to know about the band itself, read 'Walk This Way'. Another good read.
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