Hit Him Where It Hurts: The Take-No-Prisoners Guide to Divorce--Alimony, Custody, Child Support, and More [Paperback]

Sherri Donovan (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: November 30, 2006

- 2.5 million people divorce each year; wives begin those proceedings 85 percent of the time
- Author is a child of divorce, has been divorced twice herself, and has been handling divorce cases for twenty years
- Written by the matrimonial counsel to New York City's chapter of the National Organization of Women (NOW)
Eighty-five percent of the time, women are the ones who initiate the divorce. They want out, and to get out they often bend over backward to make nice with their soon-to-be exes. The result: They get screwed. How screwed? Consider this:
- The average woman experiences a 45 percent drop in her standard of living after divorce
- 85.1 percent of custodial parents are mothers
- 45 percent of children living with a divorced mother live at or near the poverty line
- Only one-half of custodial parents are awarded child support
- Only about 45 percent of custodial parents due child support payments receive the full amount In Hit Him Where It Hurts, acclaimed matrimonial attorney Sherri Donovan shows women how to take the offensive in the bloody game we call divorce. With her take-no-prisoners approach, women everywhere can ensure that they gain their freedom without sacrificing their health, their wealth, or their well-being--not to mention that of their children.

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About the Author

Sherri Donovan (New York, NY) is one of the top matrimonial lawyers in New York City and the country. She has been profiled and interviewed by every major metropolitan newspaper and magazine, as well as the local and national news and radio stations, Lifetime, Court TV, Montel Williams, Crain's New York and is a contributor to Divorce Magazine.

Product Details

• Paperback: 304 pages
• Publisher: Adams Media (November 30, 2006)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1593377398
• ISBN-13: 978-1593377397
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.5 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (17 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #965,222 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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24 of 30 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Disgusting., June 30, 2008

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Snarky "S" (New York, NY United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Hit Him Where It Hurts: The Take-No-Prisoners Guide to Divorce--Alimony, Custody, Child Support, and More (Paperback)

If you buy this book, your spouse is the better person. The Author appeared on the Montel Williams show, and that is about the level we are dealing with here. If you are that sort of person, this book is for you.

3 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excuse me.. a few of us were shocked to find out how evil our spouce was!, September 27, 2011

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This review is from: Hit Him Where It Hurts: The Take-No-Prisoners Guide to Divorce--Alimony, Custody, Child Support, and More (Paperback)

I understand how this book would make someone feel "dirty", but seriously some of us have respect for the law, the truth, honor & integrity, only to have found ourselves smacked with the cold hard reality that our spouse has NO consideration for any of those things.

What then? Do I let my alcoholic spouse run around in desperation telling everyone I'm a drug addict so that he could be awarded custody and avoid child support/wage garnishment? And let him seal up all of our accounts since I always trusted him with his name only on the "business" accounts? Let him believe that the business we built together is results in "his own income", while "I should get my own job" so that I have my own income? But also doesn't believe that he should pay for some training after 10 years of falling behind in technology, supporting him, and raising children?

Some of us NEED this book because we were naive enough to fall for and trust someone who turned out to be a lazy, back stabbing, honorless jerk, who would much rather lie his A** off and trash the person who was their best friend for 10 yrs, than pay child support.

Shower-needers? You should thank your lucky stars you didn't get dragged down into this muck. Those of us already in there never planned on it, but still need to get out.

5.0 out of 5 stars Not Vindictive or Unethical at All, January 27, 2012

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This review is from: Hit Him Where It Hurts: The Take-No-Prisoners Guide to Divorce--Alimony, Custody, Child Support, and More (Paperback)

I read some of the other reviews for this book and was totally frightened, just not frightened enough to keep from buying it. And I made the right decision.

As it turns out, this book does not at any point tell a divorcing woman to lie, do anything illegal, or even act in a mean-spirited way. I think a couple of these reviewers only read the title, and the title isn't an accurate description- it's a total exaggeration meant to help sell more books.

This book is full of great advice and walks people through a complicated and painful process. It advises women to be prepared for the worst, but it also makes a point of telling women how much better things are when they make an effort to mediate, negotiate, and compromise. It's not really about hitting anybody where it hurts and more about making sure your divorce doesn't mean letting your unscrupulous ex-husband take everything.

In fact, it occurs to me that that's probably what's bothering the negative reviewers. Maybe they think if they trash the book enough wives will just roll over and take any deal they're offered in a divorce?

Attention angry he-man woman-haters posting before me: Just so you know, making dumb comments in the Amazon reviews won't really make a dent in the number of ladies reading this book. Also, you need to let go of whatever has you throwing your weird little e-tantrums. This isn't healthy.

Seriously though, you should get this book if you're going through a divorce. Even if you're a dude. Just switch the pronouns around. It's helpful.