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Hold on to Your NUTs: The Relationship Manual for Men

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This book is not intended for women, and doesn't pretend to be. But boy, will we benefit. I bought it for my husband in a "leave-it-on-the-beside-table-with-a-few-key-sections-conveniently-marked" kind of way . . . Of course I had to read it myself first (the title intrigued me), and what impressed me the most was how much this book was written FOR MEN, really. My husband laughed at the title and opened it right up. And he read it. Pretty quickly. There wasn't a bunch of pycho-babble or touchy-feely "delve into your past" exercises. Just straightforward advice and day-to-day tips. The book talks about fathering too, which I appreciate with our two young boys. N.U.T.s is full of clear examples and simple tools for men interested in improving their relationships. As a wife, it's a valuable resource, and I'm grateful for it.

So, long story short...I needed some help with stuff going on in my life. I saw this book advertised on artofmanliness.com, found it on here for a reasonable price, ordered it, and read it. The book gave me some good suggestions that I've been able to apply to my life and some tools that I'll be able to use for the rest of my days.

I think it's a pretty strong choice if you are looking for relationship/life advice books geared toward men. It doesn't take the overbearing stance that some other books take, but rather presents the reader with some good advice and practical solutions to making life, work, relationships, and love a little bit better. The whole point of the book is learning how to set boundaries/priorities and then how to communicate those with your partner, friends, family, and coworkers. It's a pretty basic idea that not many young men were taught due to poor home environments, lack of male role models, rapid advancements in femininity, and changes in male roles in society.

I made the mistake of ordering the other books that Amazon suggests. Let me just say that there is absolutely no need to order the other two. This is the book you want. The advice is solid and will help you set a good foundation for present and future relationships if you are willing to put the time and effort into making the changes.

I found the "No More Mr. Nice Guy" book to be a little too much when it comes to telling women and the world what you want, deserve, and expect. I found the same thing to be true with the "Way of the Superior Man" book. The "Being the Strong Man" book was entirely to vague. The author seemed to have some good points, but never really elaborated on them. The story was also pretty terrible...Man is upset with wife, goes on hike with grandfather, grandfather gives advice, everyone lives happily ever after, the end. <--- I just saved you some money...you're welcome.

Each person will take what they want from the various books on this topic, but the N.U.T.s book is by far the best. Don't waste your time or money on the others.

If you're looking for concrete and sound advice on how to shed the 'little boy' in you and start living like a man, you need to read this book. It's a book that you can quickly read in one setting, and also keep referring to whenever you need encouragement and direction. I highly recommend it to any man who wants to improve himself as well as his relationships with others.

This is an enjoyable book with a few good ideas and thoughts. It was an easy read and had some funny quips. My issue is not the quality of the book (which was okay) but the fact that it was not what I was hoping to find. It was, in my opinion, another book that basically says that the problem lies with the man and that he simply needs to make his woman happy. While I'm all for making my wife happy, I've come to realize that these books are not providing real insight, experience, and advice on simply being a man. It always inevitably comes down to "making your woman happy" and that we, as men, are broken, it is our fault, and that we must do all we can to make our women happy.Problems? Not happy? Not feeling good as a man? Want to know how to be a better man? Well, the answer is that as men, we are broken, and that we simply need to accept that we must please our women.

For a book that claims that you have to hold firm to your convictions, it sure also tells you that you need to cowtow to your wife and sure hope that she accepts you if you try hard enough. I think the purpose of doing this is so that women might read these books, obviously endorse them and say that this is the way to her heart and her opinion of manhood, and buy it for her man.

This book and the work in it has literaly saved my marriage. 2 years ago when I was exposed to it, I was near divorce and pretty depressed about it. Today, not only I am no where near divorce but I have also taken my life back. Family is #1 and it is much easier to get out of bed in the morning!

Wayne has an amazing way of using empathic understanding to cut through all of the bull and get right down to the issues that all men face: fear, control, etc. I am becoming the man I want to be as a result of the work and the book! Do yourself a favor and give it a read as it is a quick one.

This is a book about how to let natural masculinity develop instead of fighting it. An unstated premise is that for many men, it is not possible to be themselves, with the gender behavior that would be natural, because they were taught that to be a masculine man is to be a bad man. There are bad men of course, and because bad men have resisted socialization, they have masculine traits as well as bad traits. That most people can't tell the difference between what is masculine and what is bad is why this book has valuable information for everybody, men and women.

The author spends more time describing solutions than describing the problem, which is rare in this field and highly commendable. I only did not give it five stars because of two small points (and four and half stars is not clickable). First, the author is not clear in the discussion of NUTS (non-negotiable unalterable terms) about how to avoid a NUT that limits or oppresses other people. Of course the author and most readers know the difference between a guiding principle for oneself and a power and control move, but it does not come out strongly in the discussion. Secondly, the process of growing nuts is seen in terms of ideas, images to live up to, and consciously-willed steps. This could lead to 'just' a slightly more sophisticated attempt to 'act like a man'. To truly grow nuts, it is perhaps also important to work with feeling (sensation), desire, and energy because growth is an unconscious process for which the will can only provide the conditions (and then get out of the way). The author does strongly encourage readers to join a men's group, and perhaps that is how the more visceral part is managed.

Wayne understands the fact that men who need help need to be spoken to like men. That means he dispenses with anything remotely New Age-sounding or bizarre and gets right to it with straight talk, solid examples and real-life anecdotes that make sense. In 'Hold on to Your NUTs,' Levine guides men through an understanding of how they likely got to where they are (angry, sad, confused, etc.) and helps them look in the mirror for practical solutions within themselves. It's powerful stuff packed into a book that's quick and easy to read and formatted so you can go back again and again for reference.

Finally a book with actual do's and don'ts for men! This book is an easy read and has a straight forward approach. You can actually follow the author's step by step advice on how to deal with women and for that matter all relationships. The chapter on 'silencing the little boy' really hit home for me. Let's face it, what woman finds a whinning little boy sexy and attractive. This books helps you find your 'power' and can help you be a better man.

Don't wait! I found this book by chance in a local bookstore. I've begun to grow up a lot since reading it. It's been very helpful in clarifying a lot of issues about myself and my relationships, and understanding what I want and how to get it. It's all about standing up and being the man I want to be. Wayne's book has got me on that road. Unlike so many other self-help books, N.U.T.S. is focused on what men need and how to bring it into action. Onward to being the man, husband, father and son I want to be!

The book does something that other books I have read don't; It helps you have better relationships with your wife and your children without sacraficing what is important to you. The lessons are things that I could really do, not just things that sound good on paper.