- Paperback: 256 pages
- Publisher: Simon & Schuster (October 15, 1989)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0671688782
- ISBN-13: 978-0671688783
- Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.6 x 8.3 inches
- Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars See all reviews (89 customer reviews)
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #720,708 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Holding Time Paperback – October 15, 1989
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From my experiences and the numerous reports of others in similar circumstances, I have come to believe that forced holdings may appear to have short term benefits. After all, children with insecure attachment patterns are primed for survival, and if you must submit to forced holdings in order to survive you will quickly learn to do so. However, in the long run, forced holding has adverse effects on attachment and responsiveness to physical contact. Personally, after entering therapy of my own accord in college it took two years before I was able to willingly allow someone to hug me (though I still would submit to hugs in situations where it was "culturally appropriate"). Forced holding did nothing for my attachment patterns--though initially there may have been a decrease in negative externalized behaviors (followed by an increase in internalized behaviors such as self-injury and suicidal ideation).Read more ›
There are a few reasons I give it four stars instead of five. Firstly, I disagree with Welch's model of gender roles and think that she puts undue burden on the mother to foster and maintain attachment. Secondly, the book lacks citations that would be helpful for parents wanting to read further and dig a little deeper. Welch mentions numerous studies, but nowhere does she give references for them. Thirdly, at times she portrays Holding Time as a "silver bullet" that will solve any parenting challenge you face. Holding Time is a powerful and effective technique, but it must be used with other mindful parenting skills that foster open communication and acceptance.
After reading this book, the Holding Time technique makes so much sense, and now that I've seen the positive results with my own daughter, I'm a believer.
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There's one important thing that I have not seen on any of these reviews. As a prior victim of holding therapy, the most disgusting and upsetting part was the licking. Read morePublished 17 months ago by Bryan Meshkov
T,his book is a fabulous resource for parents of young children as it addresses bonding disorders in such a beautiful way.Published 20 months ago by Janne Martinengo
I read this book when I was adopting an older child 8 years ago. I am also a mental health and adoption professional. Read morePublished 20 months ago by LBshrink
I have not actually read this book but I have seen extracts from it on line. It wouldn't change my opinion even if I had read every word. Read morePublished 21 months ago by Lexy
This is not good. This is a bad parenting book. You should not follow what is in here. If your gut tells you something is wrong and others are saying it isn't right then you need... Read morePublished on January 12, 2014 by A. Ward
If you are the parent of an autistic child, run from this. Get your child started with a BCBA as soon as possible. Read morePublished on December 21, 2013 by Jared
One of the things that really bothered me about this book is that the author believes in order for the holding time to be successful there must first be a stage where the child... Read morePublished on September 19, 2013 by elizabeth boyd
I've raised 6 foster-adopted children. Three of them were too old when we discovered this method for it to be used. The other 3 were not. Read morePublished on May 18, 2013 by Jeanne
My mother read this book when i was a child and used to 'hold' me because she thought it would help me let go of anger. Read morePublished on February 27, 2012 by Dr K.J.Misch