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Holding Your Family Together: 5 Simple Steps to Help Bring Your Family Closer to God and Each Other Paperback – April 30, 2013

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Editorial Reviews


I don’t have a wife yet, and certainly no babies—but when I one day have a family, I’d love to try this! It seems like superglue, holding families together.
- Janakan Arulkumarasan, Founder and CEO, Onoko International, Hong Kong

Rich Melheim is a dynamic and brilliant analyst and communicator who opens hearts and minds of children, families and everyone he meets to greater truth, wisdom and understanding. I recommend Rich and his writings for all who want to understand life better and grow in wisdom, knowledge and discernment.
- Dr. Ted Baehr, Founder and CEO, www.movieguide.org, Hollywood, California

The FAITH5 methods and materials, when implemented to the way they are designed in the family, go a long way to solving the problem of biblical literacy. Rich honors me by being my friend.
- Dr. Tony Campolo, Professor Emeritus, Eastern University, St. Davids, Pennsylvania

These are some of the most exciting and effective models I’ve seen to connect the Church, the home and the gospel. I strongly recommend the use of this every-night-in-every-home material.
- Dr. Bill Easum, President, 21st Century Strategies, Inc., www.effectivechurch.com, Corpus Christi, Texas

A beautifully warm and engaging book full of hope, wisdom and experience. A must-read for anyone with a love or concern for young people and family.
- Peter Eckermann, Vetamorphus Coordinator SA, Elev8 Youth Ltd., O’Halloran Hill, South Australia

This book offers Christian parents an inspired plan to build spiritual truth and health into the lives of children. Dr. Rich offers practical ways to bless your children, draw them close to God, and counteract a culture that robs kids of the security you long to provide.
- Lana Ensrud, Former Executive Director, Life Coaches for Kids®, Brooklyn Center, Minnesota

Dr. Rich Melheim’s beautifully crafted book motivates, guides, teaches and challenges us to create and maintain positive, nurturing relationships with our children. By integrating FAITH5 into our day-to-day routines, our family relationships will grow with resilience and be a true blessing and valuable investment for our children’s lives and future generations.
- Karen Felker, Clinical Placement Coordinator in Higher Education, Wheaton College, Wheaton, Illinois

In Holding Your Family Together, Rich Melheim shares the distilled wisdom of a thousand conversations filtered through a life lived at the edge of eternity. Rich’s brilliance is apparent in his art, his musical composition, his speaking, his writing and his careful listening. He offers a simple and practical pattern for creating relationships with your children that you will never regret. The genius of FAITH5 is flawless. Here is the secret for assuring that your faith will pass from generation to generation. Following these steps daily will implant values and affections that will endure forever.
- Dr. Carl George, Founder, MetaChurch and Consulting for Growth, Inc., Taylors, South Carolina

There is a desperate need today for tools to help families regroup at the end of the day so God’s design for the family is not compromised. Holding Your Family Together is a simple tool that parents can use to celebrate the ups and the downs, stay connected and shape their children to walk in the way of the Lord. This book is a must-read for every family who wants to maintain the bond of love and leave a legacy that is never forgotten in the hearts of their children.
- Dr. Paul R. Gupta, President, HBI Global Partners, Chennai, India

Reader alert! When you plunge into this book you’ll laugh out loud, cry sentimentally and unabashedly, and marvel at the new insights you gain. Get ready to read this all in one sitting—it’s that good! Rich Melheim has woven his personal bibliography, the stories of many others, deep biblical and theological insight, and the latest in brain science into a compelling case for living the spiritual practices he calls FAITH5. Doing these practices will be good for you, your family, your kids, your marriage and your physical and spiritual life.
- Dr. Paul Hill, Executive Director, Vibrant Faith Ministries, Minneapolis, Minnesota

Rich’s love and concern for wholesome families is evident in his writings. I highly recommend this book.
- Reverend C. D. Jebasingh, Founder and President, Galilean International, Mumbai, India

What a beautiful and utterly compelling book! But it is much more than just another great read; it is a powerful tool for all who are looking for the right routines to create and maintain happy, godly families. Rich Melheim’s creative abilities, as well as his fresh insight into science and his solid foundation in the Word of God, will change the way you raise your children one prayer at a time, one care at a time, and one night at a time.
- Stephan Joubert, Extraordinary Professor in Contemporary Ecclesiology, University of the Free State, South Africa, Research Fellow, Radboud University, Nijmegen, The Netherlands

The West meets the East in Rich. Rich also makes everyone he meets feel spiritually and emotionally rich (uplifted), just as his name. It was such an honor and pleasure to be his advisor and friend. I can’t wait to introduce this Rich-ness and FAITH5 to Asia!
- Dr. B. J. Jun Director of International Affairs, Asian Center for Theological Studies and Missions (ACTS), Seoul, Korea

In Holding Your Family Together, Rich has brought together Word and service, congregation and family, content and experience, and peer and adult mentorship. This is a pedagogical strategy that is faithful to the gospel and highly effective in making disciples and preparing them for their vocations in the world.
- Dr. Roland Martinson, Academic Dean, Luther Seminary, St. Paul, Minnesota

Back in home in Africa, I recall how the toll of the family bell woke us up at 6:00 AM and gathered us at 9:00 PM daily to talk, sing and pray together. As I look back, I acknowledge how this routine positively impacted my life. I am convinced that much of the dysfunction plaguing our world would be history if every home imbibed the spirit of FAITH5. This may very well be the way to heal our world and make it a better place for all of the human race. Thank you, Rich, for this invaluable family resource.
- Olukayode Olubunmi, Founder and CEO, Okayhouse Film, Television and Records, Los Angeles, CA and Lagos, Nigeria

This book contains simple, easy-to-follow and quick routines that every parent must put into practice each day. These routines will have a lasting impact on their children and the future generation while instilling godly values in them.
- David Peters, CEO, Cephas Media Group, Mumbai, India

I simply have never seen a book like this. I was blown away by it. Northwood Church will definitely promote this among our families. Everyone talks about “discipling” your family, but Rich takes it a step further and provides a tool with which we can do that. Every family seeking to follow Jesus should read this and implement it. I’m a soon to-be-first-time grandfather—my kids will read this!
- Bob Roberts, Jr., Senior Pastor, Northwood Church, Keller, Texas, Author, Bold as Love; Transformation: How Glocal Churches Transform Lives and the World; and Glocalization: How Followers of Jesus Engage a Flat World

There are books that make good airplane books. There are books that are bedside books and coffee table books. Then there are those rare books that belong on the kitchen counter or in the family room, within easy reach for constant consultation and inspiration. Rich Melheim has written such a book.
- Dr. Leonard Sweet, Bestselling Author and Professor, Drew University (George Fox University), Chief Contributor, sermons.com, Orcas Island, Washington

From the Back Cover

Create a Healthy, Happy, Godly Family . . . One Night at a Time

Imagine a home where every person feels loved, valued and heard. Imagine a family that seeks God’s wisdom, will and Word together. Imagine an intimate, affectionate community where every night is an experience of caring, sharing, comfort and peace.

You can make this beautiful picture a reality in your home. But it won’t happen by accident. You need a plan! Holding Your Family Together is a workable, powerful plan based on a simple nightly routine: Share, Read, Talk, Pray, Bless. This is the FAITH5, and it has transformed families around the world. No matter your child’s age or your family’s unique situation, the FAITH5 can work for you. Inside you’ll find everything you need to get your family into a nightly habit that will open your hearts to each other and to God.

Does this sound like an impossible dream? It’s not, and you can start . . . tonight.

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Product Details

  • Paperback: 240 pages
  • Publisher: Regal (April 30, 2013)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0830766316
  • ISBN-13: 978-0830766314
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.6 x 8.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (105 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #315,271 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Dr. Rich grew up in the Badlands of North Dakota but he never did own a pickup with a gun rack.

An author, cartoonist, speaker, log cabin builder, educational systems designer, record producer, amateur neurology junkie & consultant on creating non-profits with for-profit subsidiaries, Dr. Rich in an ordained minister with one wife, two great kids and a heart that stopped and had to be pounded back to life.

"If I die tomorrow," says Rich, "I can live with that."

Rich works in Stillwater, MN, Aspen, CO, Mumbai, India, Seoul, Korea and a few choice places in between. He speaks in 50-75 cities a year on parenting issues, systems change, and the neurology of optimal early learning.

He serves as founder and CEO of Faith Inkubators & Preschool Incubators Project.

He holds a Doctorate in Semiotics and the Future from George Fox University (Portland), a Masters of Divinity from Luther Seminary (St. Paul), and a BA in Journalism (UND).

He blogs intermittently, writes every day and launches into occasional poems, songs, political critique and parenting advice on Facebook, at www.richmelheim.com, www.faithink.com, and www.faith5.org.

Dr. Rich serves on the board of the Faith Inkubators Foundation (www.faithink.org) and Princebury Media Productions (www.princebury.com). He has written and produced graphic novels, curriculum, novels, hundreds of song, thousands of skits, and 24 albums. His latest media projects include a book titled "Holding Your Family Together" (Regal Books, 2013), and a mini-series on the life of Teddy Roosevelt titled, "Young Four Eyes."

He has won awards as varied as the Publisher's Marketing Association "Humor Book of the Year," the Youth Specialties "Outstanding Young Youth Ministry Award," and the UN's offshoot "International History Week Book of the Year" award.

He has appeared on CNN, WNBC, KTLA, WGN, Osgood Files, Regis, Donahue, Montel, Rolanda, Leeza and 50 network news shows consulting on parenting issues.

In his spare time he likes to patron young artists, musicians and actors, run "FINKtanks" (think tanks) for non-profits and for-profits, and doing standup comedy with parents and kids in the same space... along with a pillow fight.

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11 of 11 people found the following review helpful By Christine Timm on April 30, 2013
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Author Rich Melheim has been passionate for families sharing faith for over two decades. This book is the product of many years of helping children, teens, and adults connect Christian faith to life. Families will find real resources for listening to one another and to God's Word - and practices that will remain fresh, fun and faith-renewing for a lifetime.
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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful By Kerri C. on April 30, 2013
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As someone preparing to be a pastor, I am mindful of the conversation about how best to encourage people to think about and live out their faith beyond the four walls of the church. Holding Your Family Together and the FAITH5 give a concrete model for families to follow. Some of the most important faith formation doesn't happen during Sunday School for an hour each week, doesn't come through hearing a sermon - it happens when families share, read scripture, talk, pray together, and bless one another. Not sure of the best way to go about that? Read Holding Your Family Together and spend just 5-10 minutes each night investing in your family!
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful By adayriddle on June 15, 2013
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Pillow fights, reading, story-telling and blessings, blessings, blessings. This is one of those parenting books that pretty much trumps all other parenting books! Throw away your copy of the Baby Whisperer, get rid of Dr. Sears and all other books about bedtime rituals. This book is wonderful!! I am the mom that has said (for 12 years and 5 children), "Do not get the kids all riled up before bedtime", "No, stop running! No let's not wrestle".....well after reading this book - that is out! Yep at the Riddle household it is No holds barred - Pillow fights!!! Who knew activity before bedtime devotionals help to stimulate the brain to be more retentive and attentive to the Word - and helped to reduce cortisol in the brain thereby making it possible for new and healthy stem cells to be produced?

Pillow fights, reading, story-telling and blessings, blessings, blessings!! Dr. Rich Melheim has a passion for reaching families, for empowering parents to impart the full blessings of God's Word onto their children. He lays out 5 easy steps to be implemented over a 6 week period that will dramatically change your family. Hungry for something different, ready for all the whining at bed time to start, ready for the little ones to sleep through the night??? This book is for you. God's word promotes peace. Talking promotes bonding and close open relationships. Prayer ties a family together and invites the Holy Spirit to move and to work. Reading develops the brain. Sharing helps children (and us big ones too) work through the difficulties of the day with someone we love, to pray for these things- and teaches us dependence on The One who holds everything in His hands. Sharing the highs of the day - give a time to worship a God who loves us.

This is a book EVERY family should have.
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful By Kitsi Marks on April 30, 2013
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I plan to use this book in a new ministry program with our families. I am so excited...my family and I will be reading it together this summer & then be added to our ministry at First Lutheran in the Fall.
I am also considering gifting this book to families at First Lutheran as well--it's such a great resource!!
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful By Bryan Jaster on April 30, 2013
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What springs up when you share, read, talk, pray and bless together every night in your home?

Joy, laughter, life, love, empathy, hope, depth, sanctuary, and holy-wonder invade.

If you have kids of your own. Go buy this book.

If you have friends that have kids. Go buy this book.

If you think you might have kids someday. Go buy this book.

If you have grandkids, nieces, or nephews. Go buy this book.

If you know kids or ever come into contact with kids. Go buy this book.

Seriously. It will be the best $11.13 you spend this week. Your family is worth it!
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful By Keith on May 2, 2013
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I was fortunate enough to read an advanced copy of this book and I can say, without reservation, every parent owes it to their children to read this book. The knowledge is powerful and you will be equipped to challenge, encourage, bond with, and open lines of communication with your children. My children are still young and people often tell me to enjoy them now, because someday they'll be teenagers. That sentiment saddens and even scares me a little. Of course nobody has a silver bullet, but Dr. Melheim presents strategies that, already, my children have engaged in and I am hopeful that today's precedent will be tomorrow's life-line.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Becky on April 30, 2013
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Our children and youth face such violence, uncertainty, and what may feel like hopelessness in today's world. This book helps parents make faith a primary focus in the home, helping to equip our youth to live in this world with the knowledge that God walks with them through their family. Faith practices need not be stuffy or strange, but can be fun and ways to develop family memories that will last forever.

As a Children Youth & Family committee chair and Youth Director, I encourage everyone (parent or not) to read this book. We all come in contact with children and youth. You may be the one who helps to spark their faith.

A great gift for Mothers Day, Fathers Day, or new families, as well as anyone who loves children.
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