Honey, I Don't Have a Headache Tonight: Help for Women Who Want to Feel More In the Mood [Paperback]

Shelia Wray Gregoire (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: October 25, 2004

A look at attitude adjustments, relationship enhancements, and changes to daily life that can help women revive their God-given sexual vitality.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"Honey, I Don't Have a Headache Tonight is a delightful new book by Sheila Wray Gregiore. The age-old problem of unmatched sexual drives between married partners is addressed in frank terms. The author states that both partners should be able to thoroughly relish the sexual relationship. Gregiore hopes to preserve Christian families by helping women resolve conflicts in the bedroom. . . . I especially liked the chapter on respect that showed the difference between carrying each other's burdens and crrying another's loads. 'When we routinely do things for other people that they should do for themselves, we allow them to treat us in an un-Christlike manner,' states Gregiore. She bases her teaching on scriptures, weaving them into every chapter. I would recommend this book to wives who are discontent with their sexual relations, those who want to overcome obstacles that keep them from enjoying sex fully in their marriage. I would suggest it to women who have hit snags in their marriages, from which they want to disentangle themselves." (Elece Hollis 60;br /><br />"This book offers a practical Christian approach to tackling the sexual frustrations often felt by couples, particularly young parents of growing families. Gregoire has sensitively tackled a complex subject matter with honesty and humor and touches on many things men and women often don't know how to identify or are hesitant to bring up. Each chapter closes with a brief overview for the men, which I personally found helpful in better understanding what had just been written for the women." (Carolyn R. Sheidies Author's Choice Reviews 20051201)<br /><br />"Writing in a conversational, first person style, Gregoire offers understanding, sensitivity and practical insight into one of the most intimate parts of marriageOWhether engaged, newly married or married for many years, this book is a great tool, packed with useful suggestions." (Kelly Rempel Christian Week 20041201)<br /><br />"Writing in a conversational, first person style, Gregoire offers understanding, sensitivity and practical insight into one of the most intimate parts of marriageOWhether engaged, newly married or married for many years, this book is a great tool, packed with useful suggestions." (Kelly Rempel Christian Week 20050501)<br /><br />A good resource with some funny stories and a personal style. (Michelle Connell Book, Line, and Sinker )<br /><br />This book is incredibly practical and funny. I was on the floor over Spotty and the gecko and his (lack of a) love life. The author covers an incredible number of issues that can cause a stalemate in the bedroom. Her knowledge of biology is sound and her solutions are 'real.' A must read for women who want to improve their perspective about married sexuality. This would also be a good book for wives to read and discuss with their husbands. I think the author's ability to talk honestly about how women feel would benefit them, plus there is a page 'For Him' at the end of each chapter which summarizes the chapter and offers a few suggestions for husbands." (Dennis Hillman Kregel Publications ) --1

From the Back Cover

It’s 10:00 p.m. He wants to start snuggling. You want to start snoring.

He feels unloved because you aren’t “in the mood,” and you feel unloved because he only cares about one thing.

Honey, I Don’t Have a Headache helps you overcome this frustrating stalemate by looking at the obstacles to every woman’s sex drive—hectic schedules, romanceless husbands, negative body image, and more. This practical—and often humorous—book gives advice on how to turn up the heat in your marriage when a solitary bubble bath seems much more enticing than your hubby waiting in the bedroom.

“Sheila addresses a delicate issue with clarity, grace, and humor.”

—Dr. Scott Turansky
Cofounder, the National Center for Biblical Parenting

“Sheila Wray Gregoire is hopeful, helpful, honest, and hilarious. . . . [this] is one of the most powerful and practical books on the market today.”

—Ginger Plowman
Author, Don’t Make Me Count to Three!

“Sheila’s wit allows her to tackle a sensitive subject in a way that invites couples to explore their own obstacles to a rich and rewarding sex life and points them toward marriage as God intended it to be.”

—Denise MacDonald
Therapist, Family Works Counseling

Sheila Wray Gregoire’s passion in life is preserving families. She travels around North America encouraging women to look to God when dust bunnies and relational tensions take on a life of their own. She and her husband, Keith, “tag-team” the homeschooling of their kids. Sheila is the author of To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, writes for magazines and newspapers across the country, and has appeared on several nationally syndicated programs, including 100 Huntley Street and Moody’s Midday Connection.

(20040917)

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Product Details

• Paperback: 144 pages
• Publisher: Kregel Publications (October 25, 2004)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0825426936
• ISBN-13: 978-0825426933
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.4 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #183,626 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Sheila Wray Gregoire is a Christian speaker, columnist, and author. She's written five books, including To Love, Honor and Vacuum, and the upcoming The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex (out in January 2012 with Zondervan!). She loves speaking about marriage, parenting, and keeping our eyes on Jesus. She lives in Ontario, Canada, with her husband of 20 years and her two daughters, whom she homeschools.

Customer Reviews

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17 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Awesome help for putting an end to those "headaches.", August 31, 2004

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Laura Ferguson "occasional reader" (Golden, CO) - See all my reviews
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Shelia Wray Gregoire has an incredible way of telling it like it is in this book. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book, as did my husband, and will recommend it to ALL of my married friends. She hit every single nail on the head with all of my issues concerning sex and intimacy in a Christian marriage, helping me to feel that I am not alone or abnormal. Sex for women is a head thing and Sheila teaches you how to retrain your thoughts and emotions to better allow you to not only enjoy that intimacy with your husband, but to also WANT it!!! (something I had just about given up on) Another thing that was great was the way she shows you the men's perspective on sex. It helps a lot just knowing where he is coming from. Plus she gives a special section at the end of each chapter just for the men to read that hits the main points of what you just read (in case he doesn't want to read the whole book). This is a book I don't recommend lending to friends, only because you will want to hold on to it forever and make notes in it and highlite areas and reread it many, many times! This is the first book of hers I have read, but I plan to find To Love, Honor, and Vacuum because of how much I enjoyed reading this one.

12 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful, funny and true-to-life!, September 12, 2004

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David Murrow (Anchorage, AK USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Honey, I Don't Have a Headache Tonight: Help for Women Who Want to Feel More In the Mood (Paperback)

Women, if you want to REALLY understand your man's needs and expectations, this book is for you. This well-written tome is intended for women, but as a man, let me tell you, Shiela understands the opposite sex! My wife and I read it together and learned a lot. Shiela ends each chapter with advice for men...I appreciate that.

Shiela's writing is crisp; her observations fascinating; her conclusions dead-on. She offers hope to women with imperfect bodies and unpredictable sex drives. The book is tastefully modest but is still direct and to-the-point.

I predict that this book will help thousands of couples experience all the joy God intended for them in the bedroom. I highly recommend this book!

2 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Advice without perspective doesn't go far, August 5, 2010

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This review is from: Honey, I Don't Have a Headache Tonight: Help for Women Who Want to Feel More In the Mood (Paperback)

Like many couples, my wife and I could use more intimacy in our lives. Kids, work, school, and the bad habits that have built up over the time we've known each other have slowly stripped a great deal of the intimacy from our lives. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to understand why this is happening, but it takes a shared perception of the problem for a couple to fully address the issues that have brought their marriage to this state.

Because my wife is an avid reader, I felt that Honey, I Don't Have a Headache Tonight may be a great way to get on the same page with ideas to improve the intimacy and increase the closeness in our marriage. After reading the few reviews of the book, I figured that while it may have a Christian basis, the lessons the book sought to teach would be more relationship-centric. Instead, the book reads a sermon of Christian extremism and fails to acknowledge many realities of current society outside the Bible belt. While Sheila Wray Gregoire acknowledges and identifies many of the issues that can affect intimacy, her solutions often revolve around the bible which she incessantly cites as proof that one should undertake a given action. This may be fine for people who fully subscribe to her theology, but it is useless to those who are not of the more extreme Christian denominations. As you read through the book, this premise becomes more aggravating as you realize that unless you and your spouse are devout Christians in Sheila's sense of the phrase, the book will hold little for you.

The extreme Christian slant on non-marriage issues presented in this book further erodes any sense of perspective or insight on behalf of the author. The thought that the absence of the working dad in the lives of his children leads to homosexuality or the author's view on the use of pornography and masturbation are quick clues to how applicable her advice may be to your situation. I would say that if you are a devout Christian, obey a strict interpretation of the word of God, and can identify with her perspective; Sheila's book may be of service to you. However, for the vast majority of married couples, including moderate Christians, it is hard to swallow her advice because it is predicated on a strict interpretation of the bible that lacks the perspective and understanding of the relationships of the less devout to be of any service to them.